Problems with youth

[AbuZaid]

As Salaam Alaikum
I am currently holding a survey with the youth here in Mississauga regarding the problems they are having which are effecting there Islam.

here are some of them.

1) influence of the wrong people
2) not fulfilling their worships like Salaah etc.
3) dealing with the opposite gender in the wrong way.
4) Wasting time on MSN and internet
5) Racism
6) Parents are influencing or forcing them in the wrong way ( like asking them to shave their beards etc)
7) Music

Their are others also.
I was wondering if the members of Sunni forum can help me build my list :D which will also be good for everyone to keep handy when dealing with the youth.

Jazaak Allahu Khair
Abu Zaid Uthman Bin Mahmood

[Sadiq]

Lack of fear?
Not respecting parents.
Too much freedom.

as a saying goes; 'where you stand in your youth, is were you shall sit in your old age'

Everyone has role models, everyone follows, our youth are not informed, directed or even given information towards our models, our great sahabahs, as one brother said, those brothers who want to be rich, follow Uthman ghani, those who want to brave, we have umar, those who want to eloqent, follow Ali, those who want to be shy, conservative, follow Abu Bakr, etc....

One mistake we all make is, we all assume, the "next" brother/sister knows what we know, the thing is, they don't. Many youth, if told with wisdom, will fall in love with the prophet, with the sahabahs, they are not being informed...hmm...

[sudoku]

:salam:

hmm..those sum it up... but how about cell phones?? those are a menace in South Africa for sure! We have MXIT here, a celular comunity were you can chat like msn...the kids here know it better than "ABC"!

also being told to follow religion when the person telling doesnt... and being introduces to "sugar coated" Islam rather then the real Islam!

:ws:

[amatullah]

As salaamu alaikum

Masha Allah bro, may Allah assist you in your effort and use you as a means of introducing solutions for the youth, ameen

1) Lack of communication between parents and kids
2) parents 'too busy' to spend quality time with kids and show kids affection (instead shower kids with material things)
3)Indoctrination by the West that youth is a time of recklessness - resulting in youth afraid of responsibility and commitment
4) Lack of Islamic education (kids come out of madrassah at an early age due to pressures of school)

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[zayedee]

assalmualaikum brother I came accross another one which also is very detimantel viz;INAPPROPIATE COMUTER GAMES (if not all).

[Kareem]

another problem is when someone decides too get serious about the deen he finds himself alone while his friends stay as they were. doing this all by yourself is very discouraging and hard

[ankaboot]

Assalamu Alaikum, A very nice concern Maulana Abu Zaid, May Allah help you and to help the Muslim youth, Alhamdulillah the youth these days are lucky that they have Ulema from amongst them who are close to their ages, and from amongst their own backgrounds and hence they know what their collegues are going through.

It was not so when we were growing up and even when Ulema like Maulana Ziad, Maulana Nazim, Maulana Abu Zaid and the other Aalims and Aalimas on this Forum were growing up, You can ask them.

My concern is not just the youth, Alhamdulillah the Youth these days are more literate about Deen and in most cases because of the growing number of Masjids and Islamic groups are more oriented with Religious aspects of life Alhamdulillah, all they need is guidence and encouragement.

Alhamdulillah there are quite a few role models these days and quite a number of people outside their homes to encourage them, what is lacking is encouragement and involvement from their homes meaning the Parents and other elder Family members. No offence, but this is what i have noticed lacking in our muslim community.

The best guides for the children should be the parents, and unfortunately these days the children in most cases cannot turn to their parents, because the thinking clashes. We as parents have to get involved in the childrens lives and for their sake as well as for our learn what the correct requirements of Islam are, so that we can teach them the correct Deen in their tender ages and not what we learn from our culture in the countries we grew up in.

So my humble suggestion to the Ulema on the Forum and outside would be teach the children, but teach the parents too, it does not work right, when the children are dumped in the Masjids to learn the Quran and Islamic studies, they need the environment in the houses, and for this the parents need to take the responsibility.

A Childs best friend should be his or her mother, whom the child can feel comfortable talking about anything, there is no hayaa in teaching the children halal and haraam of any kind, because if the parents feel shy and dont talk to the children, then they will go to others for guidence, and what is the guarantee that the person will teach them the right thing.

It really makes me sad when young girls come to me and talk about matters, which should be told to their mothers, but unfortunately the mothers are not their for them, or the mothers instead of encouraging them when they do something right discourage them, where will these girls go?? Alhamdulillah I am glad I can help some of the girls but there are so many of them out there.

So please work on the parents, Br. Kareem you talk about youth finding themselves alone if they get serious about Deen, believe me inshaAllah when there is strong support from the family, and strong family ties and understanding these youth will not feel lonely, in fact they will become more strong.

Wassalamu alaikum, A very concerned Mother, Ummahmad.

[KEUNIT]

As Salaam Alaikum
I am currently holding a survey with the youth here in Mississauga regarding the problems they are having which are effecting there Islam.

here are some of them.

1) influence of the wrong people
2) not fulfilling their worships like Salaah etc.
3) dealing with the opposite gender in the wrong way.
4) Wasting time on MSN and internet
5) Racism
6) Parents are influencing or forcing them in the wrong way ( like asking them to shave their beards etc)
7) Music

Their are others also.
I was wondering if the members of Sunni forum can help me build my list :D which will also be good for everyone to keep handy when dealing with the youth.

Jazaak Allahu Khair
Abu Zaid Uthman Bin Mahmood


Asalamualaikum,

Music is sooooooooo addicting. It's so hard to stop listening to music.

Wasalam

[zayedee]

Mashallah.Alhamdulillah in this day and age Allah has made it very much easier for us TO create and have such an envioroment in the house and around us wherever we may be proven from experience.It is the A'maal (action) of reading out from the FAZAAIL-E-A'MAAL AND FAZAAIL-E-SADAQAAT loudly among the house members or associates for about 10 mins every day to start of with.Inshallah this will be of tremendous benefit as it has been for a lot of people around the globe.Last but not least I would strongly recommend to all those that have objections about this TO TRY IT OUT FOR THEMSELVES FIRST BEFORE ANYTHING.Jazaakallahu khairan wa ahsanal jazaaaaaaaaaaaa.

[sumayyah_afshar]

Asalamualaikum,

Music is sooooooooo addicting. It's so hard to stop listening to music.

Wasalam


Asalam alikum,

brotherif your having a hard time stopping music as that was real hard for me to stop, i realised that when i deleted the music from computer and THREW away all the CD's and as soon as music came on tv i turned the channel you won't actually care anymore inshallah. alhumdulila it worked for me. you will soon forget about music and inshallah feel your heart and soul with quran.

[amatullah]

*drugs...
*alcohol...( i was shocked to hear that in this is also rife amongst the muslim youth at raves and the like!)
*raves/clubs

[Ghauri]

lets make the youth busy in positive activities

so that Satan(shytan) could not distract them from the right path of Allah(SWA)

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