Need Courage and Prayers...

[NoNameAtAll]

I have decided after over a year of hard study, soul searching and praying that it is time for me to embrace Islam. The problem is that I tried to talk to my wife about this about 7 months ago and she threatened to throw me out of the house over it. I dont know if she would have followed through with the threat but suffice it to say that she was very mad about it.

I hesitate to bring it up again. We get along very well (well, most of the time, lol). I need courage, strength and prayers to face up to talking to her again. I dont know what to expect this time at all. Please pray for Allah to tell me when and how to talk to her about this. Also pray that Allah would soften her heart in this matter and cause her to be willing to stand by me in this pursuit that I so desire.

Inshallah it will go much better this time.

[godilali]

(I am supposed to be retired from this forum, but this is definitely worth replying to.)

First of all, I would like to congradulate you on finding the truth. However, I would advise you to procede with caution regarding the wife situation. You do not need to put yourself in an unbearable situation. Is it possible for to embrace Islam secretly, and slowly soften her up to the idea, before telling her? There is another brother here, called "Simon Iskander," who is in somewhat of a similar situation. Perhaps he coud give you some advice.
http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=10674

As far as Islam itself goes, I would highly recommed the general talks at www.sacredlearning.org . Serves as an excellent Iman-booster and provides insight into ones relationship with God.

May Allah ease your family situation, and do not despair:

In a hadith qudsi, Allah tells us

“I am as My servant thinks I am. I am with him when he makes mention of Me. If he makes mention of Me to himself, I make mention of him to Myself; and if he makes mention of Me in an assembly, I make mention of him in an assembly even better than that one. And if he takes one step towards me, I take ten steps towards him. And if he comes walking to Me, I go running towards him.“

[Travelleress]

Asalaamu 'alaykum,

May Allah grant you every good in this life and the next, ameen.

I agree with the advice above.

You have our duas...

Wasalam

[Omar HH]

If you believe that there is none worty of worship except Allah and in all of his Prophets from Adam to Muhammad :saw: then why don't you just say it:

Ash Hadu An La Illaha Il Allah wa Ash Hadu Anna Muhammadan Rasul Allah
I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah and I testify that Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah.

Wassalam li man itabi` al-huda.

May Allah give you all good.

[NoNameAtAll]

First of all, I would like to congradulate you on finding the truth. However, I would advise you to procede with caution regarding the wife situation. You do not need to put yourself in an unbearable situation. Is it possible for to embrace Islam secretly, and slowly soften her up to the idea, before telling her? There is another brother here, called "Simon Iskander," who is in somewhat of a similar situation. Perhaps he coud give you some advice.

Thank you my friend for your advice. Is it possible for me as a 42 year old grown man to convert in secret? I have been told yes and no. I have even been told by some that this is only for children living in their parents home still and that as a grown man I need to step up to the plate and do the right thing regardless of whether or not it hurts someone else. That is why I walked away for a long time. Also, how do you go about avoiding pork, Christian holidays, etc. in secret. How do you pray 5 times a day in secret? These issues plague me and cause me much distress and anxiety.

Also, how do you set up PM capabilities on this site, I filled out the request form to join the brothers group well over a week ago and no one has gotten back to me or anything.

[Simon Iskander]

:salam:

:insh: I hope that I may be able to help you. I am a convert of almost 3 years now, and my parents did not react well to my decision to become Muslim (though my mother now :alhamd: has become a bit more understanding).

If you can PM me, I'll be happy to help you. Take care.

:ws:

Simon

[Simon Iskander]

:salam:

I tried private messaging you brother NoNameAtAll, and it doesn't work. Try posting a thread in the site-forums and see if one of the moderators / administrators can help with this :insh:.

:ws:

Simon

[NoNameAtAll]

:salam:

I tried private messaging you brother NoNameAtAll, and it doesn't work. Try posting a thread in the site-forums and see if one of the moderators / administrators can help with this :insh:.

:ws:

Simon

I will try that my friend, I look forward to e-speaking with you.

[amatullah]

As salaamu alaikum Brother In Islam

Your news of reversion to Islam has filled my heart with tremendous joy and happiness taht I can not even express . Insha Allah (Allah willing) I will make sure to make a special prayer for you that Allah keeps you steadfast on the truth and guides you to success in both the worlds, as well as makes the heart of your wife soft so that she can accept the truth in a happy manner. Ameen.

I hope brother Simon can help you out in your predicament...just remember that Allah is with the patient ones.

As Muslims part of the Ummah of the Beloved Prophet Muhammed (sallallahu 'alayhi wasallam) we are here for you in whatever way we can.

[amatullah]

By the way brother, I'm sure now that you've made your decision you feel much lighter and blessed... Feel that Allah is pleased with you and that HE is there for you no matter what. That connection with our Creator is indescribable and richer than all the wealth in the world.May our connection with Allah forever be strong and may our every step, every breath , every action be Pleasing to Him, ameen.

[salahuddin]

Brother NoNameAtAll, may Allah grant you good in this life and in the hereafter.

There are many online resources and sites that you can be guided to and learn from, but none of them are an adequate substitute for having exposure to other muslims. Alhamdulillah, it's a brave and bold decision to have had to make, but your resolve will, inshallah, be rewarded. Remember that Allah says to us (as I just posted in another thread!):


No soul shall have a burden laid on it greater than it can bear.
2:233

Whatever difficulties you may be facing in your current situation there is always relief, please don't be off put by practical difficulties! Many brothers and sisters have gone through similar scenarios and continue to do so and have come through successfully on the other side. Alhamdulillah, there are others on this site that can testify to that and who, I'm sure, would be prepared to offer nasiha (advice) where appropriate. Inshallah if I can help you with anything at all then please PM me.

:ws:

[ursis]

For converts, and those thinking of converting, this is MashaAllah an excellent site; iprofess.com (http://www.iprofess.com/)

May Almighty Allah make your journey filled with ease and peace. (Ameen)

[rahma]

:salam:

Congratulations on your decision to embrace Islam! I'm in a somewhat similar situation, although not as drastic as yours. My parents absolutely positively dispise Islam and muslims. They are still not happy about my conversion, even 4 years on.

However, I do my best to follow what Islam asks us to do in relation to our family, and when they see that I am a much better daughter now than I was before Islam, it softens their hearts ever so slightly.

inshaAllah I hope everything goes well for you.

[NoNameAtAll]

Wa Salaam Alaykum all,

Thank you all for the warm advice and words of encouragement. I actually said Shahadah over last weekend. I decided to keep it to myself for now rather than run the risk of causing anyone anger and resentment. The decision is between myself and God in the end so no one needs to know until I feel they can handle it better. Again, thank you all. All Praise be to Allah. Ameen.

[PocketY]

Congratulations Brother NoNameAtAll, and welcome to the family!
May Allah grant you strength, ease your path and accept all of your deeds, ameen.

[Jamroll]

Salam,

NoNameAtAll, congratulations and alhamdulillah on accepting Islam. :)

May Allah make your transition easier for you.