Courtship

[midwinterspring]

Assalaamu aleikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

I didn't know quite where this thread would fit but I figured I would be slightly less perplexed about this subject if I weren't a convert so I put it here.

I'm just wondering how a brother ought to go about inquiring after a sister's interest in marriage. I recently met a sister who I am very interested in but I'm not quite sure where to go from here. Would it be most proper just to talk to people who know her? Do I need to go directly for her parents and talk to them? Do I just talk to her about the subject?

Frankly, I know very little about her. Nor do I know if she is even interested in marriage at this point in her life. But I would like to learn more about her in a halal manner and I have no clue how to go about this. Any advice would be appreciated.

Jazakallahu khairan

[abdushakur]

Walikum as-salam,

A good tried-and-tested technique is to find a brother you know who is married and ask him to ask his wife to ask the sister whatever you need to know (discreetly and anonymously).
Then the info comes back down the line to you and you can move on from there depending on the info.

Also, be very aware that a girls parents will be very offended (naturally) if things "start moving" and they are not consulted. If you get promising info back from the married couple team then it may be a good idea to then make contact with the parents.

Obviously take each case on its own merit.

[Quraatulain]

Brother i think it's best to ask someone close to the sister if she is interested like what the brother above stated......As a sister i think it's best to find out the info you need before involving the parents ,prevents being rejected and the sister gets time to think it over without the pressure from the parents ......

InshaAllah it'll work out for you .....