Sadiq
23-12-2007, 09:39 AM
Seven Important Marriage Tips - What the Marriage Experts Say - WebMD
7 Marriage Tips to Stay Lucky in Love - WebMD
[Fascinating, especially when one considers the Prophetic guidance related to marriage and married life. Subhan Allah.]
Relationship experts caution, however, that much more than luck is needed to stay together and beat the odds of a divorce, now estimated to end half of today’s marriages. Here, relationship experts consulted by WebMD offer their best marriage tips for how to stay lucky in love. And they go way beyond the usual tips to buy her flowers, cook his favorite meal, and remember to schedule date night…
Marriage Tip No. 1: Purge the “D’” word.
Marriage Tip No. 2: Replace the 7 deadly habits in a marriage with the 7 caring habits.
The seven deadly habits are criticizing, blaming, complaining, nagging, threatening, punishing, and bribing.
The seven caring habits include supporting, encouraging, listening, accepting, trusting, respecting, and negotiating your differences.
Marriage Tip No. 3: Take care of yourself.
Marriage Tip No. 4: Discuss outside friendships.
“I’m not big on cross-gender friendships for married people,” Brody says. “It’s playing with fire.” ….The line is too easy and tempting to cross.Marriage Tip No. 5: Stop trying to control your partner.
Marriage Tip No. 5: Stop trying to control your partner.
Marriage Tip No. 6: Honor and respect your partner.
Respect was also a marriage tip that came up often from the marriage masters, Boggs says. “The No. 1 principle that almost everyone talked about is respect,” he says. “You can have respect without love, but you cannot have love without respect.”
Marriage Tip No. 7: If you’re the wife, lower your expectations. If you’re the husband, step up to the plate.
When Steve Brody and his wife, Cathy Brody, MFT, a marriage and family counselor, toured the country to promote their book, Renew Your Marriage at Midlife, they asked audiences what they wanted from marriage.
“Women expected to be loved, cherished, listened to, cared for, and courted,” Steve Brody says. They had a long list of wants and expectations, he recalls. The men joked that their expectations were more basic: Their typical answers, Brody says: “Bring food and show up naked.”
While the men were half joking, the gaps in expectations are a good lesson. To close the gap, Brody says, women need to lower their expectations — to not expect 24/7 romance, for instance, especially if their mate has just worked an unbelievably long week.
Men need to do some of the things the woman wants, such as prioritize their relationship and listen more, he says. In a nutshell, Brody says, “Men need to do the same things at home that they do at work.” He tells the husbands he counsels to think of it this way: “Your wife is the million-dollar client. If she walks out the door, the business is closed.”
http://www.seekersdigest.org/seven-important-marriage-tips-what-the-marriage-experts-say-webmd.html
7 Marriage Tips to Stay Lucky in Love - WebMD
[Fascinating, especially when one considers the Prophetic guidance related to marriage and married life. Subhan Allah.]
Relationship experts caution, however, that much more than luck is needed to stay together and beat the odds of a divorce, now estimated to end half of today’s marriages. Here, relationship experts consulted by WebMD offer their best marriage tips for how to stay lucky in love. And they go way beyond the usual tips to buy her flowers, cook his favorite meal, and remember to schedule date night…
Marriage Tip No. 1: Purge the “D’” word.
Marriage Tip No. 2: Replace the 7 deadly habits in a marriage with the 7 caring habits.
The seven deadly habits are criticizing, blaming, complaining, nagging, threatening, punishing, and bribing.
The seven caring habits include supporting, encouraging, listening, accepting, trusting, respecting, and negotiating your differences.
Marriage Tip No. 3: Take care of yourself.
Marriage Tip No. 4: Discuss outside friendships.
“I’m not big on cross-gender friendships for married people,” Brody says. “It’s playing with fire.” ….The line is too easy and tempting to cross.Marriage Tip No. 5: Stop trying to control your partner.
Marriage Tip No. 5: Stop trying to control your partner.
Marriage Tip No. 6: Honor and respect your partner.
Respect was also a marriage tip that came up often from the marriage masters, Boggs says. “The No. 1 principle that almost everyone talked about is respect,” he says. “You can have respect without love, but you cannot have love without respect.”
Marriage Tip No. 7: If you’re the wife, lower your expectations. If you’re the husband, step up to the plate.
When Steve Brody and his wife, Cathy Brody, MFT, a marriage and family counselor, toured the country to promote their book, Renew Your Marriage at Midlife, they asked audiences what they wanted from marriage.
“Women expected to be loved, cherished, listened to, cared for, and courted,” Steve Brody says. They had a long list of wants and expectations, he recalls. The men joked that their expectations were more basic: Their typical answers, Brody says: “Bring food and show up naked.”
While the men were half joking, the gaps in expectations are a good lesson. To close the gap, Brody says, women need to lower their expectations — to not expect 24/7 romance, for instance, especially if their mate has just worked an unbelievably long week.
Men need to do some of the things the woman wants, such as prioritize their relationship and listen more, he says. In a nutshell, Brody says, “Men need to do the same things at home that they do at work.” He tells the husbands he counsels to think of it this way: “Your wife is the million-dollar client. If she walks out the door, the business is closed.”
http://www.seekersdigest.org/seven-important-marriage-tips-what-the-marriage-experts-say-webmd.html