60 Ways to keep Wife's Love

[fahid]

1. Show Security (No threats)
2. As Salamu Alaikum Wa Arahmatullah
3. Be Gentle
4. Advice her in privacy
5. Be Generous
6. "Let her have the seat"
7. Avoid Anger (eg. wudu)
8. Looking Good, Smelling Great
9. Don't be Rigid (eg. I'm a man)
10. Be a good listener
11. Yes to flattering, no arguing
12. Call Wife with best names
13. Pleasant Surprise
14. Preserve the Time
15. Expect & Accept Shortcomings
16. Say Thanks, Appreciate
17. Encourage to be kind to kin
18. Speak about her topic of interest
19. Show that she is wonderful infront of her Family
20. Give each other Gifts
21. Get rid of rust/routine (eg. vacation)
22. Think good of her
23. Pretend you don't see small problem
24. Drop of Patience (eg. during period, pregnant)
25. Expect & Respect Jealousy
26. Be Humble
27. Don't make home miserable
28. Help out at home
29. Help her to respect parents
30. Make her feel she is ideal wife
31. Remember Wife in Dua
32. Leave alone her past (eg. negative event)
33. Don't show her that you are doing her a favour
34. Satan is the enemy, not the wife
35. Place food in her mouth (in intimacy)
36. Protect her from the envy like a Pearl
37. Show her your Pearls (eg. smile)
38. Deal with small matters
39. Avoid being harsh/moody
40. Respect her thinking
41. Help her to dig within to discover skills/success
42. Respecting intimate relationship and boundries
43. Help her to take care of your children
44. Gifts of Tongue (eg. sweet talk etc)
45. Sit and eat with her
46. Let her know if you are travelling, leaving/coming
47. Don't just leave home for no reason
48. Keep the secrecy
49. Encouraging worship
50. Know her rights, not just from the paper
51. Be the best for your wife in good/bad times
52. Kiss your wife, it's the messenger
53. Don't share disputes with others
54. Care for her health
55. Realize your not perfect or always right
56. Share happiness/sadness
57. Have mercy on her in weakness/strength
58. Let be the one to lean on
59. Accept her as-is
60. Have good intention for wife all-times

This is from Shaykh Ahmed Shehab (VIDEO (http://tv.muxlim.com/search?q=60+ways))

[Springarden]

:jazak: very interesting, this shall comply to women for their husbands as well. May Allah implant in every couple deep love and endless happiness in this world and in the later. Ameen

[Salahuddin92]

Wow great advice!..well i hope the admin could made ths thread a sticky so it would be easy for anyone to refer to it.JazakAllahkhair!

[junaid]

Mashallah Good "60"

[SisterSabiha]

JazakAllah, wonderful post.

[Sarah Mc]

Salam
Wonderful post :) I wish non-Muslims would understand how Islam isn't a bad religion, how every Muslim with a beard is not a terrorist and how every woman wearing the hijab is not an isolated, lonely no-body ~ for Allah is most gracious, most merciful and those few who are terrorists will have the severest punishment set by Allah in the Hereafter.

Many people who believe women are beaten by their husbands, neglected, raped by them and then he kidnaps her children and one day leaves her ~ of course this happens but things like that happens in every religion, whether that be Christianity, Islam or Hinduism - it isn't just Islam.

Wonderful post, fahid, ma sha Allah.

Sarah

[UmmeGibrel]

Salam
Wonderful post I wish non-Muslims would understand how Islam isn't a bad religion, how every Muslim with a beard is not a terrorist and how every woman wearing the hijab is not an isolated, lonely no-body ~ for Allah is most gracious, most merciful and those few who are terrorists will have the severest punishment set by Allah in the Hereafter.

Many people who believe women are beaten by their husbands, neglected, raped by them and then he kidnaps her children and one day leaves her ~ of course this happens but things like that happens in every religion, whether that be Christianity, Islam or Hinduism - it isn't just Islam.

Wonderful post, fahid, ma sha Allah.

Sarah

Point to be considered.

[seeking]

Salam
Wonderful post :) I wish non-Muslims would understand how Islam isn't a bad religion, how every Muslim with a beard is not a terrorist and how every woman wearing the hijab is not an isolated, lonely no-body ~ for Allah is most gracious, most merciful and those few who are terrorists will have the severest punishment set by Allah in the Hereafter.

Many people who believe women are beaten by their husbands, neglected, raped by them and then he kidnaps her children and one day leaves her ~ of course this happens but things like that happens in every religion, whether that be Christianity, Islam or Hinduism - it isn't just Islam.
Sarah

Bismi Allahi al-Rahmaan al-Raheem

Assalaamu alaykum

Just a thought:

Why would the inheritors of paradise care what the inheritors of the hell-fire think?

Wa Salaam

[SisterSabiha]

Assalamu Alaikum,

I believe it is that we care what they think because their thinking becomes actions, actions like war and abuse.

Wasalam

[Sarah Mc]

Yes, I totally agree with SisterSabiha (Aoibheal?) We care what these people think because their thoughts soon become actions, and, that soon then becomes phases of abuse and war. And of course, like everyone else on this forum, we reject that and hate it.

Sarah

[adampuri]

Wonderful
I really come to know that i can demand many things from my hubby

[usmanaftab]

I believe that the sister has given all 60 ways in the light of following hadith:-

"The most perfect believers are the best in conduct and best of you are those who are best to their wives." (Ibn-Hanbal, No. 7396)[/I][/I]

[qibla]

Assalaamoalaykum-w-w
Now Now Miss Ms Mrs AdamPuri Please dont get excited.
There is always 2 sides to a coin.

sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=37694

Dont forget the other 60.!

[RomanticAtHeart]

salams all,

I am trying hard to do these 60 ... or at least some inshaAllah. Can any of you please help me see different perspectives on the following though? I really want to, this is not a sarcastic post.

How do I see the following in my wife (married 5 years AH) as not too negative? how do I not make a big deal out of these? how do I make peace with these things? please note, she is a practising muslimah, proper hijab and all as well alhamdolillah:

1. she is more interested in social gatherings than spending time with me
2. she is more enthusiastic about friends and outside home than me
3. her relax time is movies / dramas etc. I havent seen her read the Quran in a long time
4. she remembers & makes time for everything except important things at home like tidying up, paying her bills, discussing issues with me etc.

I think Im making a big deal out of these, wanting too much. I just wanted for someone else to share how these CAN be small things and IM not seeing it!

thank you so much everyone.

Romantic At Heart