2 yr old not sleeping through the night

[syed bin muhammed]

salaam

i need some advice our 2 yr old is not sleeping through the night, he still wakes up for a feed every couple of hours.

what can we do to get him to sleep through the night..?

[savgee_1]

:salam:

my sister was having a similar problem with her 2 yr old aswell...what she did was tired her girl out during the day - so that she wont rest throughout the day...and come bedtime, she was knockd out! hope this helps

:wsalam:

[muslima2507]

I agree with what sister said above lol my mum uses the same technique for my little sister oh and if possible try not to let her have any naps in the afternoon and so hopefully she'll be real tired and hopefully will sleep through the night inshallah

[Sparkles]

That doesn't work for everyone though. I realize if my 2 yr old don't have a nap in the afternoon, by night he's so miserable and confused. It's very hard to soothe him down, since he is so tired. And then at nights he would still wake up.

Every child is different. When your child wakes up at night do you give him milk or water?

[Sparkles]

And don't worry about his waking up. He's only 2 and he will get over it soon Insha Allah. When you wake up at night think of all the rewards you are getting.
We did the same to our parents too!

[syed bin muhammed]

sometimes we give him water n sometime milk

[Sparkles]

sometimes we give him water n sometime milk


I realize that if you give water they wake up less. It's good for them too.i.e. their teeth. How about you gradually switch to water altogether?

[zainalabidin]

And don't worry about his waking up. He's only 2 and he will get over it soon Insha Allah. When you wake up at night think of all the rewards you are getting.
We did the same to our parents too!

ya salam, has been a father of six children, the first and second were 1 year apart , just imagine the havoc we have.....actually the child is our alarm clock for "tahajjud sholah".....maasalaam.;)

[~Aminah~]

Assalamu'Alaikum WaRahamatuhllahi WaBarakatuh,

My best advice is to watch what they eat no sweets after dinner even whole foods sometimes have high sugar concentrations.

Also no naps after 3pm...I always put mine down after an early lunch and woke them by 3~MashaAllah most nights by 9pm that was it they were sound asleep for the night.

2 is an awkward age as well your lil' one is going to be getting ready to give up diapers, nursing etc...so be patient and I can honestly tell you I have 4 boys and all of them were opposite from the other so just hang in there.

JazakAllahuKhair

[tahirnk]

Al salamu alaikum,

Your 2yo not sleeping through the night is completely normal. Infact it is an important part of his development for him to feel secure that you are still present and have not left him alone and by himself. The more he is reassured when he calls you and you go to him, the better and more confident he will become, bi ithnillah.

There is one thing that can however complicate this picture...that is that if you provide him with attention, then his waking will no longer be to ensure you are still alive and there to care for him, but rather to have your attention, even at night and EVEN if you give him tons of attention during the day. So....
The way to help him get back to sleep is by telling him nicely "sweetie its time for bed" and then you lead him back to his bed and lay him down with out another word. The next time he comes out, you just say "its time for bed" and then lead him back to bed. The next time he comes out just say "bedtime" and lead him back to bed without another word from you. The next time he comes out without a word just lead him back to bed and keep doing that as many times as he comes out.

If your child is not one who gets out of bed but just wakes up and cries or calls out for you and you provide him with attention (ie water) then you are training him to wake up every night. What you should do since you implemented this habit of waking up is to stop giving him water (make sure he is well fed and not thirsty B4 he goes to bed) and sit with your child comforting him until he is calm and tell him that you will need to leave in a little while. Try to extract yourself and tell him you will come back to check on him (but MAKE SURE you do it). Then subsequently the next night you will be able to spend less and less time there until you should be able to stand by the door and just say "go back to sleep baby." and eventually, insha-Allah he will stay asleep.

Bottom line, if you instilled the habit, you gotta be really really nice when you break it and never allow your child to just cry and cry and cry....That child will then understand that the world is a dangerous place and he will become mistrusting of everyone and depressed.

And Allah knows best
Tahir NK

[ze leetle elper]

What time does he wake in the mornings?

Try to create a routine suitable for him and stick to it for a couple of weeks, it takes time for children to adjust inshaallah.

Try to create a bedtime routine so he knows it is time for bed, always try to do the same thing each day...for example a warm bath, followed by dim lights and hushed voices, a cuddle or story from you, then what is good to start off doing is to just sit with him as he nods off. He will feel safe and secure because you are there.

If he wakes in the night, try to stick to giving him water, not milk. When he wakes up, keep the lights dimmed, and avoid talking to him or too much eye contact. You know that if he wakes he will want water, so have it ready next to him in a beaker or something and give it to him straight away. Once he has drunk it, settle him back down (no talking remember! :p ) and again just reassure him with a cuddle or something that you are here and he is safe.

Most 2 year olds will nap during the day still, my daughter (23 months) has to nap during the day or like you said she gets very irritable and tired. Try to put him down for a nap straight after lunch, that way he gets all afternoon and evening to burn of fhis energy! Avoid sugary foods in the evening, including juices etc.

How long does he nap for?