How to finish a call?

[cotton]

How to finish a call?

When I am talking to close relatives/friends on the phone, sometimes I just cannot end the call.

I, then force myself to talk an extra 10-15 minutes than I would like to.

Can anyone help me and tell me a polite way to end my calls with some really close and good friends?

[eat-halal guy]

"Arright man, everything else ok?"

"Yep"

"OK I better get going now...[reason if you want]...take care!"

or

"OK, I'll let you go now..."

[maaz]

be like: yo: i am DONE talking to you.
or, WOW look at the TIME....
or: oh ****! i gotta pray...
or: my mom's calling me...
or: i'm getting another call...
or: my ear is starting to hurt...
or: create awkard silence, then the person will be like, hey you there still?? then wait a little longer, then the person will ask again: hello? where'd ya go?? then be like ya ya ya, i'm here. the person will hopefully get the hint.
or: just pull the plug, and apologize ("the line died") next time you hear from them.
or: say "ya know, i think msn is easier"
or: just emial me the story....


ok, thats enough from me...

[cotton]

JAK for the replies.




"OK I better get going now


Now, is there any way we can induce the other side to initate this sentence?

[UmmIbrahimIsa]

assalamu alaikum wr wb

here's a good one;

"OMG Isa no!!! I have to go. He just spilled something, he pooped. I have to go."

well you dont have to use Isa's name in there but any other kid in the place...

[Hypermodestmuslima]

Say something really boring like...

omg i was walking today and i noticed my shoelaces were so nice...so i started to count how many fibours were on it...or o yeah today i was so bored that i started to count my beard hairs...want me to start it again...one two three four five...

hopefully the person will get disgusted and say assalamu alaikum i gotta go bro...

you could always keep breathing in the fone...that gets me hanging up

or i think this is the simplest

Oii sorry i gotta go...Assalamu alaikum...talk to you later

The person's got no choice but to reply to your salaam and hang up.

If you want the other person to stop talking chances are they won't unless if they get busy...but if they're talking to you that long than that's not likely to happen this century. So you have to initiate the i gotta go i'm busy we'll talk later scenario.

Or you can try Sis Umm Iby Isa's line...of course it doesn't always work if there's no kid around...

Assalamu aliakum

[el_Turki]

Just hang up and say that you're battery was low :cheesygri

[cotton]

JazakAllah khair for the replies.

Now,
what about the "call-ending-method" for those ppl who we regulary speak to?

We can not make the same excuses to them everytime? How do we solve this.

(In practical life it is easy to finish the conversations with 95% of the telephone calls, but the 5% calls who are to very good nice friends/relations what do we do?

i.e what do we do, without them feeling bad? or without them even felling offended? or even feeling as if we did not talk to them with our full heart?

[ahsanirfan]

JazakAllah khair for the replies.

Now,
what about the "call-ending-method" for those ppl who we regulary speak to?

We can not make the same excuses to them everytime? How do we solve this.

(In practical life it is easy to finish the conversations with 95% of the telephone calls, but the 5% calls who are to very good nice friends/relations what do we do?

i.e what do we do, without them feeling bad? or without them even felling offended? or even feeling as if we did not talk to them with our full heart?

end one call with a fight.. so that he/she never calls again....
:cheesygri

[eat-halal guy]

I just tell them, "OK sorry, I've gotta go. Talk to you later."

[cotton]

I just tell them, "OK sorry, I've gotta go. Talk to you later."


I try to say the same.......but I try to slow down the pace of the conversation before I say: "ok....... bye", but before that, the caller starts some story of his own......which can last for ages.....so I feel it would be rude for me to end now, as the caller will think---what a selfish little boy......when my turn to say something came.....he just didn't have the time to listen.

[Makki]

its not good to lie, so i wouldnt make up a reason lacking any kind of literal basis, say honestly "i have to go now bruv, assalamu alaikum"

easy peasy :D

[Hypermodestmuslima]

usually when a conversatin gets too long...my parents ask for the fone...so i go...

sorry i gotta go...u can hear my mum/dad asking for the phone...

but best bet is eat halal guy's call ending...

sorry, bro, i gotta go...

or something like i gotta go pray (insert Salaah name)

or whoah...lets talk about this another time...call u later...assalamu aliakum

[Goldi]

'were just making small talk now. let's talk some other time.'

'ok, were pretty much done here'

'im gonna have to continue this conversation some other time'

[UmmIbrahimIsa]

'can you hold the line please another call coming through.'

sing a song during this time or count to 20 and make dhikr....
then pick up the phone and say sorry bro/sis i have to go it was long distance and they're going to call me back..i'll call you when im free again.

[maaz]

pray to allah thus:

oh allah, save me from useless talk, if this is of benefit let it continue, but if it is not, please save me from this person and his useless phone call. amen. ;)

best part: no lying....

[eat-halal guy]

best part: no lying....



I agree. I think the worst thing we can do in this situation is make up stuff just to end a call.

[suhayl]

make a buzzing disconnectiong sound..."sshhhss...krrr...sshhh"

shout down.. "SORRY YOUR BREAKING UP"... "sshshhhh krrrr shhhh"....put the phone down

[UmmIbrahimIsa]

assalamu alaikum wr wb

lol
my husband's grandmother calls us on occasion and sometimes if we cant talk we let her know but she'll just go on and on...

all we do is listen...and then 3-4 hours later we're still listening cuz we nod and say yes....

:) but it's when they have to go it's when they do...

[auron]

d you think people who think they must use their free mobile talk time everyevening would call otherwise :cheesygri ,

[Hypermodestmuslima]

d you think people who think they must use their free mobile talk time everyevening would call otherwise :cheesygri ,

nope...

[Ameera_Kurdiya]

:salam:

Say:

"Okay bro/sis... Insha'Allaah speak to you soon/ it was nice hearing from you/ hope to see you soon Insha'Allaah/ Anyway, send my love to the family"

Insha'Allaah that'll help!

[cotton]

I finished from a ~100 minute monster.

Actually I made the call.........during the call I wished that I could log on to this thread and then find one way or the other of ending the call.
As my mind had gone blank.

Finally when my friend then took the initiative to end the call.......boy was I relieved.

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Sometimes I call deliberatley before food, or some event........so that I can use that as a means to end the call.

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...grandmother calls us........... then 3-4 hours later we're still listening ......


Wow....un-believe-able.

[**muslimah*4*evr**]

yeh it is unbelievable ummibyisa!!
actually normally my frinds dont know what to say because we just talk in school anyway and my best friend who lives in blackburn never has anything to say anyway so i dnt have the same problem as bro cotton! but if my cousin or sum1 fones and deyr chatting away and u hav no clue wot deyr on about and ur secretly wishing ur sumwer else...dn as im booka-holic i wud grab my book, hold the fone one or two inches away from my ear so that i can tell wen d persons stopped speaking, and just start reading my buk...well thats what i wud do....if im simply gettiong late for something but i dunt wanna sound rude and cut the person off their sentence, i wud most probably say sumthing lyk...
"yeh i know that is sooo totally true....now listen i gotta go...not meaning 2 b rude...ill catch ya later" and hang up. its much easier on d internet....u can just tell the person ur chatting 2 "sorry i gotta go" and blok dem:D!

[abdushakur]

this is a funny thread!
although its only funny bcos of the amount of lame excuses given!

however, like a few ppl have said....Just Be Honest. Be Confident.

the best phone call ending i have experienced is when i call an alim i know.
he's much greater than me in terms of social standing and therefore he could easily just be a bit forceful and end the convo whenever he wished in whatever way he liked....but he doesnt.

ive noticed he tries to follow the sunnah in everything he does....including his speech....its a pleasure to speak to him and hear his easy-going, soft voice.

when ive asked whatever i need to ask him...he just says in a soft voice "teek hain" (or "okay")...and then he says (still in a soft voice) "dua meh yaad ("remember me in ur duas")....and then he says softly "as-salaamu alaykum...."

and i reply with "walikum as-salaam..."

and a few milli-seconds later he puts the phone down gently.
so simple and so easy and SO beautiful.

its a pleasure to hear him end the call!

sunnah in practice.

[VeiledOne]

Be honest when you really have to go..
If the person is a close relative or friend then I'd just talk it out until I have to go...No cutting off in the middle.
Sometimes when you try to makeup excuses and hang up in a weird way, if the person on the line is close to you he/she might say "hey, where do you have to go? Are you mad at me? Why are you avoiding me?"
Then guess who is going to be on the phone for another 20 minutes trying to explain "no I'm not mad"... :)

So just go with the flow. When you don't want to talk anymore just be like "I should get off the phone now. I have some things to take care of. I'll speak to you later, insha'Allah."

[islamonline]

say:

hey hey can u hear me, [he/she's name] you there?? can you hear me??? helloo helloo then put phone down lol:p

[abdushakur]

this is most definitely turning into the official SF comedy thread.

what will our youth be thinking?

its ok to tell porkies when trying to end a call? :confused:

[nayyerjigar]

- "Oh noooooooooooo, my program just crashed...sorry bro I got to go" :)

[Hypermodestmuslima]

Just say...I have to go...sorry...Assalamu alaikum

I say that...and it wroks after two minutes!

[eat-halal guy]

"So how's everything else?"

(At this point in the conversation, the person at the other end rarely remembers anything else and normally just says "good, :alhamd:")

"Good! Arright man, sorry. I gotta jet."

(The average person will then get the point and move towards ending the call)

"Take care. Wassalam-u-alaikum."


I've used it countless times and it works like a charm.

[mishor]

A good way to end a call is if you are using a mobile phone, just say you're running out of credits. lol. Works for me.

[**muslimah*4*evr**]

well...normally its not a prob 4 me to end a call because d only thing i fone my m8s 4 is 2 talk about d l8est football chat and so when i hav 2 go i jus say, "yeh well its goes on all d tym dun it??listen m8 i gotta go now, hope l'pool win against villa...c u round.

[abdushakur]

on a serious note...
i find it easier to end a call that i myself have inititated ie. dialled.
but when i answer a call i find it hard to tell the other person that i need to go.
is this what the thread-starter was enquiring about?

[Omar HH]

Weird moments.

Like when you want to end a conversation in person and walk away but you don't know when.

[Hypermodestmuslima]

In person its horrible...its like...umm sorry...umm...ok i'll stay a minute longer.

Smile...

Ok two minutes longer...

Ends up getting really long...

Finally the person lets you go...

[**muslimah*4*evr**]

lol...i jus remembered...its really by coincidence but me and my m8 make it out as summat else completely...wont tell u wot...anyway ders dis old m8 we got and by coincidence we manage to see her evry week on saturday wen me and my m8 r in twn...and wen we see her we quikly scarper to hide but either she finds us or we feel guilty and go say hi 2 her...well in d end she wastes around 10 mins of our time and den we dnt get 2 go 2 d shops we wanna and its in one particular store we always see her and so ive made a mental note to tell my m8 not to go there on saturdays oderwise d 'afat' will cum..oh d 'afat' is jus a random word we pikd from d blu 2 giv her...lol...if it actually means sumthing in a zombie language please tell me!(do i talk abit too much??ive noticed...aprt from HMM and hijabi on da loose and i tink ummibrahimisa not many people really say as much as me!)

[abdushakur]

this one goes out to all the mods dem/

can we create a separate comedy/jokes forum and possibly place this thread in it as the inaugural thread?

[out of yadd]

[Muztik]

hmmmm.
How about this...

You are the weakest link!! Goodbye/ Salam Alaykum.

[**muslimah*4*evr**]

:thumbsup:

[Hypermodestmuslima]

hmmmm.
How about this...

You are the weakest link!! Goodbye/ Salam Alaykum.

South Asian Relative Response: Vut U mean Beta? Vut dis Veak link?

Tis a joke, not intended to offend people. But thats the likely response you'd get from most people who call you...and do not watch television or am aware of the media.

[Strider]

lol, oh man this thread is jokes! I think the bro just wants to end his calls... by some of the suggestions here u'd think he wants to end his friendships! If someone started makin' awkward sounds when I was talking to them, that'd probably be the last time I call them! lol.... ok i'm out.....Wasalaam

[abdushakur]

too right this thread is jokes...ive been saying that....for the past week now.

i think this thread must be the one thread that never gets checked by the mods/admin.

[it seems like in the "Muslim Youth" forum....pretty much anything goes....reminds me of shoundvishion.com]

[rose]

It seems like the people that most close are those u have problem endin the call with, if they're so close to u am sure they would get the msg without getin offended!

[Hypermodestmuslima]

Ok on a serious note...how does one end a call?

Lets see....there's the simple... I have to go now...

That works all the time...unless if that person happens to be a really close or old fashioned (and thats not a bad thing so don't take this in a rude analogy) person, then you have to be very courteous in your farewell.
"Umm...sorry but I really have to go...Insha'allah we'll talk again..."
If its your friend, then well...as the previous sister said...they should understand the needs and obligations of another person. Not everyone else has all their life to stand their and listen to you finish talking your mouth off.

[rose]

Just say "shoot, i am getin stabs of pain in my heart, oh my god am havin a heart attack" and throw the fone down..