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[ILM_Sika]

What are the sayings from Quran and Hadith of disciplining (beating) a child...:cry:

[onetinywish]

What are the sayings from Quran and Hadith of disciplining (beating) a child...:cry:

:salam:

You might be better off asking this in another section of the forums. You can ask an Alim for specific hadith etc.

How old is your child? In my experience don't hit them. The best form of discipline is to teach them consistently not to do wrong things. You should look at the age of the child and see what is developmentally appropriate. For example a child of 2 or 3, even older than that may still scribble on walls etc. but you don't beat them for that. You say no and you put pens, pencils etc out of their reach. There's no point having a go at them if you leave things like that out within their reach if you know what I mean. SImilarly if they spill something or knock something over go easy on them. In Islam mercy is encouraged so be merciful. If you respect your children and teach them why we shouldn't do this or that they will listen to you and respect you.

I know that light beating may be permissible but never on the face and never when you are angry. Tell me how many times a parent 'calmly' hits their children? They are usually stressed out/angry/tired etc. when they lash out. Be patient with children and they will learn inshaallah.

I am not a perfect parent. I make mistakes myself. But as your children grow you look back and think I didn't have to do it that way etc. There are some good books to read including 'The Ideal Mother.'

I'm not a scholar, just a mother who understands. You will find more specific information asking on the other forum inshaallah.

May Allah make it easy for you or whoever is concerned with this question.

ws

[UmmIbrahimIsa]

What are the sayings from Quran and Hadith of disciplining (beating) a child...:cry:


Assalamu alaikum wr wb

We as Muslims and as parents shouldn't resort to harming our children.

look on the example of the Prophet SAW who never disciplined his children, or grandchildren no matter what they did. As far as I know or remember.
Even when his grandchildren would hang onto his back while he was in sujud in prayer, he (SAW) still did not discipline them nor raise his hand towards them in anger.

We should remember that, take on that example when we are dealing with children, our own children or just children in general.
Remember we were young once too, and despite however our parents raised us as, we shouldn't resort to harming our children even if we feel it's best for them to learn.
Children should not learn in fear or behave in fear of doing wrong.
They should just do it because it's right and they feel and know it's right.

I feel there are other ways to reach out to children in teaching them certain things without hitting them. You can raise your voice in a firmer way to get your point across, and even sitting down with them and talking to them is better than resorting to harming them.
Remember there is probably more harm than good in raising a hand to them.

And yes I understand these days it's not easy, especially in this society in where children are taught to talk back to the parents. Life was never easy on that, and we should still be patient and stick to still getting the message to them, and reaching out to them. There's always a reason for whatever the children do, they do and we as parents, and as Muslims should try to find out what, and handle it as appropriate as we should insha'Allah.

p.s. It's never easy to raise children, take it from me I have 3 that range in from different ages. yet, we were once that young not so long ago. We should remember that.

[ILM_Sika]

Jakakallah khair, I was looking for Information on this, and was Keen to know what Muhammad pbuh did in teaching children, right from wrong, Subhannallah I have a few greatpoints sisters, may Allah reward you for all your efforts. Ameen

[ILM_Sika]

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