yamaryamar
12-07-2005, 04:11 PM
Salaam 'Alaikum everybody. I was wondering whether anyone has any ideas about the most tactful ways to give Islamic understanding to our parents, uncles, and aunties. I know that MANY of us have to face at least one elder that is not very religious and likes preach their secular ideas to us. They take advantage of the respect and consideration young Muslims are obligated to give their elders and like to feed their egos by giving long uninterrupted lectures about "being progressive"...or something along those lines.
The scenario can be more or less intense, but I think most of us have to be subject to it more often then we'd like...right? I know the best thing to do is to make du'a for them..this is essential insha'Allah. But while their saying outright/borderline sacrilegious things all the examples/ayaat/hadith are echoing through our mind, we tend to keep our mouth shut to maintain good akhlaaq..but there has to be some way we can make a point as well. I know it should not be through curt remarks. I want to just be able to recite an ayah or hadeeth effectively and leave it at that..and to not have it be replied to by sarcasm or a joke. I know that personally, I'll try not to go beyond that because when I get going, I tend to get heated up and it shows. Does anyone else have any ideas?
May Allah Azza w'Jal give us all the tawfeeq to first work on ourselves and be the best examples of Muslims to help soften the hearts (with the mercy of Allah) of all those around us, Muslim and Non-Muslim. We should remember that if another person is not as close to Allah Azza W'Jal, it is not our place to judge them. If are a step closer, it is by the Mercy of Allah Ta'ala. SUBHAN 'ALLAH this hadith comes to mind:
Related by Ibn 'Asakir
the Prophet Salallahu Alayhi Wsalam said, "The Muslim is the mirror of his Muslim brother."
And this has been interpretted to mean that if we see a brother/sister indulging in fitnah or going astray in any way, our first reaction should be to check ourselves, make taubah for our wrong-doings, and then approach the other with softness and kindness, as we would like to be approached.
Insha'Allah forgive me if the post was too long.
The scenario can be more or less intense, but I think most of us have to be subject to it more often then we'd like...right? I know the best thing to do is to make du'a for them..this is essential insha'Allah. But while their saying outright/borderline sacrilegious things all the examples/ayaat/hadith are echoing through our mind, we tend to keep our mouth shut to maintain good akhlaaq..but there has to be some way we can make a point as well. I know it should not be through curt remarks. I want to just be able to recite an ayah or hadeeth effectively and leave it at that..and to not have it be replied to by sarcasm or a joke. I know that personally, I'll try not to go beyond that because when I get going, I tend to get heated up and it shows. Does anyone else have any ideas?
May Allah Azza w'Jal give us all the tawfeeq to first work on ourselves and be the best examples of Muslims to help soften the hearts (with the mercy of Allah) of all those around us, Muslim and Non-Muslim. We should remember that if another person is not as close to Allah Azza W'Jal, it is not our place to judge them. If are a step closer, it is by the Mercy of Allah Ta'ala. SUBHAN 'ALLAH this hadith comes to mind:
Related by Ibn 'Asakir
the Prophet Salallahu Alayhi Wsalam said, "The Muslim is the mirror of his Muslim brother."
And this has been interpretted to mean that if we see a brother/sister indulging in fitnah or going astray in any way, our first reaction should be to check ourselves, make taubah for our wrong-doings, and then approach the other with softness and kindness, as we would like to be approached.
Insha'Allah forgive me if the post was too long.