ANSWERED: Nikkah while in education?

[Sabaah]

:salam:

I was just wondering on the opinion of scholars on the new found tradition that many young people are doing nowadays, where rather than being engaged for a long period of time, they will just get their nikkah done, but will still be living in their own homes or what not, but this would just make it halal for them to see each other and talk often. I am sure this is not a traditional practise, thus I was wondering what scholars think of this? This is usually done when both individuals are in school or the brother does not have the complete financial capabilities to support a wife or what not.

:jazak:

[Mossy]

Salam,

Some Sunnipath fatwas for your perusal..

Marrying a man without a job (http://www.sunnipath.com/resources/Questions/qa00003949.aspx)?

Nikah or engagement before the actual wedding party? (http://www.sunnipath.com/resources/Questions/qa00003907.aspx)

and, probably closest to the question at hand: What is the ruling on marriage? What if one fears falling into sin? (http://www.sunnipath.com/resources/Questions/qa00003379.aspx)

Getting married early helps to keep young people out of.. trouble.. amongst other benefits.

Being a typical young muslim, I'd say it's a good response to the temptations of today's world provided you take care. Firstly it should, of course, be with the full support and blessings of the parents. Secondly, it's good to have a firm grasp about what marriage is - it's not only about two people making a commitment to one another, but, more pertinently, making a covenant before Allah (swt). Thus it would be a good idea for there to be an extremely large amount of import placed both on the deen of a prospective partner and the direction in which they are looking and what their aims in life are. If two people are both striving for jannah and to be as good muslims as they possibly can, then I'd say that was a great base to work from.. If two muslims just think the other is hot etc then I'd say that's probably a less good basis..

But Allahu alim,

ws

Mossy

[UmmIbrahimIsa]

Assalamu alaikum wr wb

Allahu Alim, but go to where it says from sunnipath.

I know a few ppl that have done this, they'll be islamically married but legal wise depending on where they live, US/Canada/UK they are not legal in that country...but islamically in front of the imam they agreed to be husband and wife.. so they are married. they are allowd to see each other and spent time alone. They've had their kutub kitab, or nikah done already. Just waiting to perform the walima ceremony where they will be living together. They do that so they can start planning on finding a place to live, search together as well as pick out the things they need for the house together, and plan the wedding list together.

If they didnt have this arrangement they would always have to wait for someone to be available to take them around places and go with them when choosing this, by them having their nikah done its set.

Though it shouldnt be a long engagement like make them wait 2-6 years before moving in or consumation.

[eat-halal guy]

Salam,

Some Sunnipath fatwas for your perusal..

Marrying a man without a job (http://www.sunnipath.com/resources/Questions/qa00003949.aspx)?

Nikah or engagement before the actual wedding party? (http://www.sunnipath.com/resources/Questions/qa00003907.aspx)

and, probably closest to the question at hand: What is the ruling on marriage? What if one fears falling into sin? (http://www.sunnipath.com/resources/Questions/qa00003379.aspx)

Getting married early helps to keep young people out of.. trouble.. amongst other benefits.

Being a typical young muslim, I'd say it's a good response to the temptations of today's world provided you take care. Firstly it should, of course, be with the full support and blessings of the parents. Secondly, it's good to have a firm grasp about what marriage is - it's not only about two people making a commitment to one another, but, more pertinently, making a covenant before Allah (swt). Thus it would be a good idea for there to be an extremely large amount of import placed both on the deen of a prospective partner and the direction in which they are looking and what their aims in life are. If two people are both striving for jannah and to be as good muslims as they possibly can, then I'd say that was a great base to work from.. If two muslims just think the other is hot etc then I'd say that's probably a less good basis..

But Allahu alim,

ws

Mossy


:salam:

I couldn't agree more. While this may not be the exact sunnah method of getting married, it should be highly recommended for young people in this day and age, in my opinion. Care should be taken though that this does not turn into a sort of Halal dating game, where people pick up someone (just have the nikah), then dump (i.e. divorce) whenever they grow tired of each other after a few weeks/months. Nikah and marriage and Islam are much more than just a love/dating game.

Allah knows best.

[Sabaah]

:salam:

:jazak: for all of the responses :) I found them highly helpful.

Actually the reason I was asking was because, yes, many youth today find it a good alternative to getting engaged. Especially if they find someone who is perfect in everyway and most importantly someone who will constantly remind them of Allah (swt) and insha'allah help them to jannah :insh: I personally think it is an amazing way for two people who want to get married, but may not have the means, to make the most of the time before the walima. My sister did it, as did many of my friends. But I knew it was something that was not traditionally done, thus it occured to me to ask what the scholarly opinion was.

so :jazak: for helping :)

[eat-halal guy]

Waiyyak.