ramzaan-head scarf?HELP

[faeema]

salaam 2 every1 and ramzaan mubarak!
i need some advise asap. im a young muslim sister i dont wear a scarf. i know i should as a muslim, but dnt feel ready 2 take on ALL the responsibilities that come with it.- some of you may think thats a lame excuse but i have my reasons. Inshallah ill be able to wear a scarf in the future without having second thoughts.

the reason for this post is that i want 2 wear a scarf through this holy month, but if i take my scarf off after the month is it strongly frowned upon? im quite confused...

[VeiledOne]

walaikum asalaam warahmatullah sis,

Ramadhan Mubarak and welcome to sunniforum.

:mash:, it is great to know you're thinking of starting hijab on this blessed month. From personal experience, I'd say it's a great time to start any good deed :insh:, because the shaitaan is not around. Make dua to Allah(SWT) that you're able to keep it on even after Ramadhan. Where there is a will, there is a way :insh: =) May Allah(SWT) accept your efforts...ameen

[laughinglion]

walaikum asalaam warahmatullah sis,

Ramadhan Mubarak and welcome to sunniforum. =)

:mash:, it is great to know you're thinking of starting hijab on this blessed month. From personal experience, I'd say it's a great time to start any good deed :insh:, because the shaitaan is not around. Make dua to Allah(SWT) that you're able to keep it on even after Ramadhan. Where there is a will, there is a way :insh: =) May Allah(SWT) accept your efforts...ameen

:salam: Ditto.

:mash:

[faeema]

salaams

thanks. wise words. inshallah i will make du'aa tht the way i strt off ramzaan becomes my new way of life.
btw this forum has got some interesting stuff on it. thnks learning mre and mre with evry post.

[Alhumdulillah]

Assalamoalaykum...

Sister Faeema, I say that you should go for it and just wear it. It's better to wear it than to not wear it don't you think? And don't worry what you will do about it after Ramadhan - lets get there first and then see what happens. But for now, just do it! May Allah Ta'ala make things easy for you and bring us and you closer to Him this Ramadhan. Ameen.

Wasalaam.

[maaz]

yes, sister, i'd encourage you. we all konw its tough, but do the best you can, inshallah. if you are sincere then ask Allah for strength in and out of ramadhan.

Allah wants us to be the best we can be. May Allah ease our tests. Amen.

[niqabee]

Salaam Sister,

Ramadan Kareem,

I think that if you start wearing the scarf now, and inshALlah it's such a blessed month, Allah, will give you strength to wear it at all times. Start with the intention of not taking it off so in this time you and people around you will get used to it & you will feel great inshAllah

Allah is great.

[Aya]

Salaam aleikoum dear sister,

I can just add my voice to the other sisters and brothers who posted here. If you decide to wear hijab, what better moment to start is there but Ramadan?

May Allah give you the strength and courage to become a true muhajabah.

Ma salama,

Aya

[amatullah]

As salaamu alaikum sis Faeema

SubhanAllah

May Allah make it easy 4 u sis...I promise you, the peace and satisfaction you get from wearing Hijaab, is priceless...Hijaab urges you onto a higher level, respected, beautiful, precious and pristine...

In my humble opinion, you should be grateful to Allah for the inclination of wearing the Hijaab in this Glorious month...it's an invitation from Allah towards Him...a gift - don't reject the gift of Allah , lest He (Na'oozubillah) give it to someone else instead.

It is my fervent Dua and belief that after sincerely wearing the Hijaab for Allah's Pleasure in Ramadaan, Allah will definately make you steadfast and grant you the Love of it after Ramadaan...One who realizes the true beauty of Hijaab will never ever feel like even taking off the Hijaab and Ramdaan is an excellent time to start as the rebellious shayateen are chained!It is only our Nafs that we have trained so well out of Ramdaan that hinders us in doing good and gaining close to Allah, once we combat that insha Allah everything will become easy to follow.

Another thing we should all remember is that Allah Ta'ala never ever orders an injuction for us without that injunction being the best for us (in this world and akhirat).And whatever Allah Ta'ala prohibits for us is only going to harm us at the end of the day.

Keep making Dua during this Blessed month that Allah gives us all the ability to wear the Hijaab in and out of Ramadaan and also fulfill all the obligations of Islam (Make Dua for me too please if you remember)

May Allah Ta'ala give us all (Me first) the ability to use Ramadaan as a means of gaining closer to Him and training of Nafs to be obedient to Allah Ta'ala so that after Ramdhaan it becomes easy to fight off the evil desires of Nafs and shaytaan.ameen. Ramadaan Mubarak to all, please remember this needy servant in your special Duas.

An article I came across I'd like to share:

One sister's journey to wearing hijab (http://www.jannah.org/morearticles/39.html)
by AnonymousSis

“In the name of Allah, the Compassionate, the Merciful, Praise be to
Allah, Lord of the Universe, and Peace and Prayers be upon His final
Prophet and Messenger.”

Asalaam alaikum wrt wb,
The following is a true story of a sister living in Iowa in the U.S.
Wasalaam,

Asalaamualaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu

MashaAllah, the first annual CZ-camp this weekend was no doubt a blast.
I have never before been surrounded by such a group of wonderful and
sincere people with so much knowledge to share in so many ways. All for
the sake of Allah (swt).

Growing up in ‘hickville,’ IA (not Iowa City), Islam was not very
prevalent and nearly unheard of by all the Caucasian, narrow-minded
residents when my family moved there. There was no Mosque in the city;
in fact the nearest one was almost 200 miles away.

In later years, I was what the ‘non-practicing’ Muslims referred to as a
‘good’ Muslim, even though that decision is left only to Allah (swt).
Until now, I have displayed modesty to what I believed to be the
fullest: long pants and such. I believed the hijaab to be every Muslim
woman’s personal journey. My personal decision had been to not wear it
until some undetermined time; sometime later in life. I made, for lack
of a better word, justifications for why I didn’t cover myself with a
hijaab. The pious Muslim women of my family in Pakistan had never worn
them, so my relatives would not accept it or would become offended or
intimidated by it. Not knowing Arabic well enough to read the Quran on
my own, I thought the head covering was part of culture or something
some scholars had made up to represent modesty. I was still representing
modesty, displayed through my clothes and actions. I feared that others
would stereotype my personality because of a cloth on my head. I didn’t
want it to define me as a person. Allah (swt) knows best.

I had in some ways been turned away from it by people (mainly some
brothers who thought they had the right to judge sisters without
hijaab), telling me to my face that this everyday-sin would by far
outweigh the good things I was doing for Allah (swt). They were forcing
it upon me, which made me reject it even more.

When my sister started observing hijaab, one woman came up me when we
were on campus and said “InshaAllah, next week I will see you wearing it
as well.” She assumed I would start wearing it as a conduct of
competition or jealousy. I didn’t want to wear it for such silly and
entirely false reasons. Alhamdolillah, I knew that one day I would
understand the hijaab, so much more than a piece of cloth to represent
modesty.

In this camp’s comfortable environment, I had the opportunity to take on
‘hijaab-in-training.’ When we arrived at camp, I put on my hijaab as I
would in any Islamic setting, such as I had done many times at the
Mosque. SubhaanAllah, I learned so much more than I had ever expected.
Wearing a hijaab was not difficult at all at the camp. It gave privacy
and hid the beauty from any looking eyes. It hid the “crown of a queen
(or princess),” as one Sheikh at the camp stated. I prayed to Allah
(swt) to give me strength to take what I learned and apply it outside
this comfort zone.

Just a few minutes before taking a final dip in the pool with the
sisters, saying last Salaams and taking on the five-hour trek back home,
I was given the opportunity. SubhaanAllah. Not just in an ordinary
location, but a town (actually village) at a level of hickishness
incomparable to even the hickville of Iowa where I spent seven years. In
this village, where 911 ceased to exist and the Harley bikers were the
diversity, I not only wore hijaab, but I experienced it.

I now realize the importance of the hijaab, especially in areas where
Muslims are underrepresented. It is not so much a symbol of modesty, as
I had thought before. Modesty comes from within and even a woman
observing hijaab can have a lack of it. However, Islam is outward and
the hijaab can be part of that outward Islam. In some ways, it will make
my life easier. InshaAllah I will never have to provide an explanation
of why I don’t want to take part in some event or activity that is
considered un-Islamic. No longer will I have to endure the nasty glares
that violate my privacy. Also, the opportunities for dawah will be
endless, InshaAllah. Above all, I will be pleasing Allah (swt).

As I know from Muslim sisters who already wear hijaab, it will be
difficult also. The stares will come, classmates may think differently
of me, and I will be a minority on the Iowa campus in this respect.
Further education could be more difficult, since engineering, which is
still predominately full of males, for some reason has not many outward
Muslims. It is Jihaad, internal and external. May Allah (swt) give me
strength to endure these challenges, and others that I may not be aware
of at this time.

I am writing these scribbled notes on the way back to home. I know I
must get this down on paper now. Alhamdolillah, just as I finish this,
the fever I had all day has just passed and we are only nine miles from
home.

Jazaakum Allahu Khair to each and every one of you at the camp for not
only taking part in the wonderful camp, but also for being a part of
such an “awesome” change in my life.

May Allah (swt) forgive me for any faults, they are entirely my own. All
praises are for Him alone.

[sara212]

salaam 2 every1 and ramzaan mubarak!
i need some advise asap. im a young muslim sister i dont wear a scarf. i know i should as a muslim, but dnt feel ready 2 take on ALL the responsibilities that come with it.- some of you may think thats a lame excuse but i have my reasons. Inshallah ill be able to wear a scarf in the future without having second thoughts.

the reason for this post is that i want 2 wear a scarf through this holy month, but if i take my scarf off after the month is it strongly frowned upon? im quite confused...


sister, in the quran it says 2 dress modestly, there r different interpretations of dis but nearly all da madhabs hav said 2 wear a scarf.
don't worry too much i wanted 2 start prayin 5 times properly in da month of the quran but hav not achieved it however ive tried and dats wat u should do, dont let ur nafs push u bak!

BASICALLY: go gal ;)

[c00kie4life]

a/s sis i think you should just start wearing it with bismillah if u wear it now it will be easier for u later thats all i wanted to see good luck in the future may allah give us all tawfeeq aameen
جزاك الله خيرا

[ze leetle elper]

Hijab.

For the ladies who don't wear hijab YET -- do not lose hope and try not to keep putting it off until it's too late. Something I remember my mother saying to me as I grew up and began to realise that I had to make my own decisions in life was 'Tomorrow never comes.' <-- sounds like a line outta James Bond or something eh? :lol:

Anywho, my point is that, no matter how hard or how difficult it seems in your current situation; don't put it off for so long that you end up living life and never addressing the subject.

I remember when I was going through the same hijab/no hijab battle inside my head. After all, hey, I dressed modestly, loose clothes and all. Plus I would wear it when it was the right time, when I was so many years old, when I got married, when I went Hajj, when I left college -- so many excuses, but I didn't realise that they were exactly that: excuses. Easy excuses to pacify my soul.

When someone takes a small step towards Allah, He (swt) comes running towards you.

My friends will ask me questions; how will I answer them? My family will make comments -- some may be not be nice; how will I handle them? People will stare at me -- what will I say? I want to wear hijab for the right reason, I want to wear hijab when I feel mature enough, I want to understand hijab before I wear it.

You know what? Just wear it. Worry about all the menial stuff later. If someone asks you and you can't answer them -- tell them you will do some research and get back to them. If someone makes a horrible comment -- ignore it, after all everyone is responsible for their own souls; you cannot please everyone.

One thing you will notice, and prolly slap yourself upside the head about, is how BIG a thing it seemed when you didn't wear hijab, but HOW easy it seems now you wear it eh?!

Of course at first, people will be curious, people will look, you may still be the noisiest in your crowd, you may still not pray all your salah YET, you may still be a stroppy cow and go into fits at the slightest thing, and you may be worried about the impression its all giving to those watching.

At the end of the day... SO WHAT?! It really doesn't matter that much. YOU have taken that step towards Allah and HE will make it easier for you. YOU have submitted to His law and He will protect you within it. NO ONE changes overnight. That is just silly to even assume.

Change takes time. But for change to occur at all, that 1st step needs to be taken. Hey most countries are going through winter at the moment now? Take this opportune moment and wrap up that head :p Try it. Its like one those new Chinese places that have opened down the road. The food smells good but you're worried it may give you a stomach ache.

Take the risk. Order some Chinese. Who knows, you may actually savour the taste... :cheesygri

[sunflower]

Hijab.
At the end of the day... SO WHAT?! It really doesn't matter that much. YOU have taken that step towards Allah and HE will make it easier for you. YOU have submitted to His law and He will protect you within it. NO ONE changes overnight. That is just silly to even assume.


Assalaam alaikum

This is so true, I made all the excuses you have mentioned. I started praying gradually all my salaats but still no hijab.My younger brother questioned me about salaat (i was doing it because its fard),so is not hijab fard??Why do I pick and choose which fard to follow.I thought about this and felt quite ashamed. what will i say to Allah, why did i do one fard and not the other.i realised there is no excuse and like you said, once you do it you wonder what all the fuss was about it becomes so easy alhumdullilah. ;)

[ze leetle elper]

^^ MashaAllah :)

[xmuslimahx]

mashALLAH great advice. i hope we all learn a lesson from this even ME :)
wasalaam

[Nafeesa]

what happened then? did u wear it, do u still wear it etc????

[sunflower]

what happened then? did u wear it, do u still wear it etc????

Assalaamu alaikum
Dont know if this is directed at me???
wasalaam

[xXxTazziexXx]

Salaam, I started wearing Hijab mid-ramadhan... and I hadn't intended to take it off come the ending of ramadhan but I did find that whilst wearing it.. i fell in love with it, so i didn't take it off at the end of ramadhan... i'v been wearing it ever since now and i still do love it.. :cheesygri

so i say to those sisters who are yet to wear hijab... go for it.. u will NEVER regret it inshallah ;)

[xXxTazziexXx]

oh and to those who dont wear hijab... dont make excuses and put it off you're whole life because excuses get you nowhere... not even in life.. the more you put something off.. the more tedious it seems... you begin to loose sight of the fact that you're wearng hijab to please allah and noone else....but don't wait for time to make it feel right... you make it feel right! having said that.... i still advice not to rush yourself.. if u rush yourself then you end up not loving the hijab and respecting it for what its really worth... possibly even resenting it... :cry:

[assalamu alaikum]

Congratulations sis,
Well done.....u GO girl! :)

[xXxTazziexXx]

thanx :$

[hijabi19]

Congrats, sis!