SILA RAHMI - Importance of & Incidents depicting SILA RAHMI
Bismllahir Rahman nir Rahim
It seems to me that incidence of family disputes, strained relations, backbiting and badgumani about family, jealousy, not seeking advice/opinion/consultation of senior family members, avoiding meetings or just not getting the chance to meet at all due to busy life etc has increased a lot.
Not only have i come across such situations with aunts, uncles, their children, second cousins and distant relatives but in many cases even immediate family are drifting apart.
In addition to families, I think, similar to a certain level is the case with our work colleagues, neighbours and circle of friends.
If a similar thread does not already exist on the forum, a thread can be started with the following objective:
1. Refresh/emphasize the significance of sila rahmi and endeavour to adopt & practice this noble practice in our daily lives.
2. Cite incidents from the lives of Sahaba (RA), our pious predecessors, elders and muslims in general that can serve as an inspiration and example for us to manage/improve our relationships. (Examples can be a great help because at times we face situations were we are at a loss to know the right way to take a situation)
May Allah swt grant us all the ability to excel in sila rahmi. Ameen
Read a nice article earlier today titled 'Importance of Kinship" by Khalid Baig and thought about this thread. From the article:
"Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him maintain the bonds of kinship" [Bukhari]
The young man went to attend the weekly hadith lecture of Sayyidna Abu Huraira, Radi-Allahu anhu but the routine opening announcement stopped him. “If anyone sitting here has severed any ties of kinship (qata-ur-rahim), he should leave.” He recalled that an aunt lived in the town with whom he had not been on speaking terms. The young man quietly left the gathering and went straight to his aunt’s home. He asked for forgiveness for his past behavior and sought rapprochement. When the aunt inquired about the reason for this change of heart, he narrated the entire incident. She accepted the apology but asked him to inquire from Abu Huraira, Radi-Allahu anhu, the reason for this unusual announcement. Why did he leave all the other major sins and focus only on this? What was so special about ties of kinship? Sayyidna Abu Huraira replied that he had heard from the Prophet that our deeds are presented to Allah every Thursday night and anyone who has severed family ties has all his good deeds rejected. He did not want any such person sitting in his gathering, which was held on the same night, for fear that it could deprive the entire gathering of blessings. Another hadith explains further the reason for this fear: “Allah’s mercy will not descend on people among whom there is one who severs ties of kinship.” [Baihaqi, Shuab Al-Iman]