hijab + family = disater

[wardato]

Salam alaikum, im 17 years old and im a new muslim since 3 months al humdullah. My familly is chretiens and they pressure me to change my mind. I really want to wear the hijab but my family hate Muslim and dont even accept the fact that im muslim. They said im young and i will change my mind later....

How can i said to them that i love Islam and i want to wear the hijab?

thank you
wardato

[IlyasLahoz]

Salaam 'alaikum Sister and congratualtions on your wonderful decision.
I pray that the information in the link below will be of help!

How should one to unsupportive family on wearing hijab?

[Harun_Abdul_Hakeem]

Assalaamu Alaykum Wa Rahmatoulahi Wa Barakatou

Congradulations on becoming a Muslim Dear Sister,May Allah Bless & Guide You & Yours,Ameen.As for your predicament in my personally opinion,seeing that i Come from the same backround, i would say have patience and ask Allah to open a door for you because one of his 99 names is AL-Fattah (The Opener),so Insha Allah if he can close one way then he can make another path just have patience and through time everything will come.obey your parents and be polite and always do there Kidmat (meaning help out alot),because this will soften there hearts and it might insha allah lead to easy and acceptable dawaat because there hearts will be open to you.Also you should ask the sisters on the Forums as well for advice or aid im sure there quite knowledgeable in this aspect of deen,well once again congradulations and may Allah make everything easy for you and the Ummah,Ameen.

[Pink_Pearl]

As-Salaam Walikum
May Allah (SWT) GUIDE Us All. Ameen.
As-Salaam Walikum

[Sulman]

As-salaam wa'alaikum,

Subhanallah, it is great to hear that your heart is firm on following your fitrah and it is turning towards Allah. Perhaps a way to think about your situation is to look in the history of the faith. In the early history of Islam, the first believers in the religion faced pressures from both their society and within their homes to not be swayed by our beloved Prophet (pbuh) or the message he brought. Many were turned out of their homes, beaten, starved, or otherwise persecuted...but Allah saw their struggle and surely gave them a reward that was far above their opressors. So do not feel like your struggle is one unique to your situation or one that could be avoided if you were just "born into the faith". What you are facing is actually the real test of Islam that the earliest generation of Muslims faced, so think of them and let their lives give you strength. I agree with the posts before, in that you need to keep the respect for your parents, and make dua for them that Allah not only opens new paths for you but for them as well. Inshallah, maybe Allah will chose to guide their hearts, maybe even in their last moments, like Abu Talib. I am a brother, so my comments on the difficulties of wearing a hijaab would not come close to appreciating the difficulty you are going through sister; but as your brother, I offer you my support and dua. Inshallah, you are going through a trying time, but remain steadfast, always make dua for those that oppose Allah or his ordainments, and do not engage in fighting with your parents to retain your Islam. Your Islam is in your heart, and Allah sees it, regardless of what is covering your hair. Don't read me wrong, your decision is a beautiful one, but remember, that in the end, your faith is between you and Allah...and no one else. Stay strong sister; your purpose is not to convince anyone right now, but to just hold fast to the rope of Allah. If your parents berate you for wearing the hijaab, you could oppose it with your tongue, but remember, if you disrespect or hurt them, it would be worse. So it is better to oppose them silently; be courteous, exhibit beautiful character, be a good daughter...inshallah, inshallah, allah will soften their hearts.

I will make dua for you

[maymunah]

Assalamu Alaikum dear Sister,

Since you realise the importance of the hijab and are clearly ready to wear it I think you should go ahead, even with the objections your family are making. I was born a muslim but I too faced the same problem, my parents didn't want me to wear it. I respect them, love them and obey them so long as they don't ask me to do anything against my religion. Your duty is to Allah first. Since the command of the hijab is obligatory you should fulfill it when you're ready, and by the grace of Allah (swt) you sound ready. So go forth sister.

Put up with the derogatory comments made by family, friends and strangers all sisters experience this, it will only make you a stronger person, God willing. Continue to treat your parents with the same respect you have always shown them, but remember your allegiance is to God first, family second.

I pray that you remain steadfast, I know how difficult it is, and I too have a friend who reverted so my supplications are with you sister.

Fi Amanillah

[smile]

assalaamu alaikum, alhamdolillah sister - I found it hard at first as my family disagreed with my choice but they have learned to accept my new look my mum even wore one at the mosque for my nikkah alhamdolillah.

Inshallah your parents will come around to it but in the meantime stand firm in your belief but always be respectful to your parents.

[Usman]

Wa'alaikumus salaam sister wardato. Hmm.... here's something from the general saying, as Dave Von Kleist says : "it's been said that all truth passes through three stages, the first one being denial, the second one being 'voilent opposition', and then there's a third stage, which is , 'wide spread acceptance as common knowledge' ...". To tell the truth, I really don't care what a wasteful person as he really means by this, but this point is a beaut.

Yourself has seen the first stage, and probably are going through the second stage. Insha'Allah there will be a third stage too, the final phase, where not only your family will bow to your Islamic practices, rather, some, or I pray, all might end up being Muslims. But as other brothers and sisters have said, it requires patience and steadfastness. Just see, if the family and others, whist being wrong, are so much devoted and dedicated to their wrong doing, why should you being on the right path , give up? You should be more devoted to Islamic teachings and practices than their opposition. A couplet in 'urdu' language says that the reason for the amazing spread of Islam is the opposition of others. The more people oppose Islam, the more they tend to learn about it.

So be steadfast on your faith, and also, try to join some community of Muslim sisters in your area. May Allah be with you..... aameen

[HafizAhmedRaza]

Very very congratulations to you.