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    Question ANSWERED: non-muslim friends


    What is the shariah ruling of marring a guy who has girls as friends, has the wife got the right to tell her future husband not to have other women as friends. Also if the guy goes he cannot give-up his friends and that there's nothing to worry about as he only see's them as friends and nothing more is it right to marry this guy even knowing that he wont give-up his non-Muslim friends who also happens to be girls. Also What does the shariah law say about having non-Muslims as friends, and inviting them over to your house and feeding them and letting them stay over..

    Last edited by raeekha; 09-09-2004 at 12:36 PM. Reason: need a reply

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    One should look for deen in both men and women.
    Yes the wife should advice him to stop doing gunaah (sin).
    Its upto a person if they want to marry a brother like this but later on in life it can cause problems.
    Islam does not allow friendship between non-mahram males and females.
    You can not like a non muslim in the way you like muslim friends.
    Allah says @ do not befriend my enemies and your enemies' Surah mumtahinah.
    You can feed non-muslims.Say you have a non muslim neighbour, theres nothing wrong in calling them over for dinner.

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    for our own souls and salvation, we are told to stay in the company of the saliheen (righteous) therefore to spend the rest of your life with someone who is openly sinning is not a good idea, although allowed, but still not a good idea.

    You can have non-muslim friends, but if they are close friends then there is a problem as you should seek to be close friends with those who have their focus on the afterlife, rather than this one. And also, you will find that you will be affected by the company you keep, so therefore you should keep good company.
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    In regards to a guy who you wish to marry, sister Adidas has given a good response to that.

    As brother Abu Usama said very correctly, we should stick around and have friends who are pious.

    "The example of a good companion and a bad companion is like that of the seller of musk, and the one who blows the blacksmith's bellows. So as for the seller of musk then either he will grant you some, or you buy some from him, or at least you enjoy a pleasant smell from him. As for the one who blows the blacksmith's bellows then either he will burn your clothes or you will get an offensive smell from him."(2)

    In his commentary of this Hadith, Imam an-Nawawy said that the Prophet (s.a.w.) compared a good companion to a seller of musk and spoke of the virtue of having companions who are good, who have noble manners, piety, knowledge and good culture. Such are those who grant us from their virtue. And he (s.a.w.) forbade us to sit with those who do evil, commit a lot of sins and other bad deeds, as well as with innovators, backbiters, and so forth. Another scholar said: "keeping good company with the pious results in attainment of beneficial knowledge, noble manners and righteous actions, whereas keeping company with the wicked prevents all of that." Many times a Muslim is encouraged by his friends to do evil and to forget his duties. The result is that Muslims themselves are often ashamed to leave them to perform prayer, their friends thus causing them to clearly deviate from the Right Path.

    Taken from, and worth a read too; Islam & The Concept of Friendship

    In regards to non muslims and friends. Its an issue which i have come across many times, not in the stlye that you have asked, but rather our 'neo-salafies' who seem to stress the verse of Surah Al Madiah without any proper understanding or give us a picture of Islam being a somewhat cruel, or isolated deen, which it is far from.

    This is a fatwa issued by Dr.Muzammil Siddiqi, former president of the Islamic Society of North America (ISNA).

    Wa`alaykum As-Salaamu Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh.

    In The Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.

    All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.

    Dear questioner, thank you very much for having confidence in us, and we hope our efforts, which are purely for Allah's Sake, meet your expectations.

    In his response to the question, Dr. Muzammil Siddiqi, former president of the Islamic Society of North America, states the following:

    “The Qur'an does not say that non-Muslims cannot be Muslims' friends, nor does it forbid Muslims to be friendly to non-Muslims. There are many non-Muslims who are good friends of Muslim individuals and the Muslim community. There are also many good Muslims who truly and sincerely observe their faith and are very friendly to many non-Muslims at the same time.

    Islam teaches us that we should be friendly to all people. Islam teaches us that we should deal even with our enemies with justice and fairness. Allah says in the Qur'an in the beginning of the same Surat Al-Ma’dah: “O you who believe! Stand out firmly for Allah as witnesses to fair dealings and let not the hatred of others to you make you swerve to wrong and depart from justice. Be just, that is next to piety. Fear Allah, indeed Allah is well-acquainted with all that you do.” (Al-Ma’dah :8)

    In another place in the Qur'an, Allah Almighty says:

    “Allah forbids you not with regard to those who fight you not for your faith, nor drive you out of your homes, from dealing kindly and justly with them. For Allah loves those who are just. Allah only forbids you with regard to those who fight you for your faith, and drive you out of your homes and support others in driving you out, from turning to them for protection (or taking them as wali). Those who seek their protection they are indeed wrong- doers.” (Al-Mumtahinah: 8-9)

    Moreover, Allah Almighty has described Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him, as "a mercy" to the worlds. He was a sign of Allah's Mercy to all, Muslims as well as non-Muslims. In his kindness and fair treatment he did not make any difference between the believers and non-believers. He was kind to the pagans of Makkah and fought them only when they fought him. He made treaties with the Jews of Madinah and honored the treaties until they broke them.

    He, peace and blessings be upon him, is reported to have received the Christians of Najran with kindness in his Masjid in Madinah. They argued with him about Islam, but he returned them with honor and respect. There are many examples from his life that show that he was the friendliest person to all people.

    In the verse you quoted, the word "Awliya" is used. It is a plural and its singular is "wali". The correct translation of the word ""wali"" is not "friend" but it is someone who is very close and intimate. It is also used to mean "guardian, protector, patron, lord and master".

    In the Qur'an this word is used for God, such as “Allah is the Protector (or Lord and Master) of those who believe. He takes them out from the depths of darkness to light…” (Al- Baqarah: 257)

    There are many other references in the Qur'an that give this meaning. The same word is also sometimes used in the Qur'an for human beings, such as “And whosoever is killed unjustly, We have granted his next kin "wali" the authority (to seek judgement or punishment in this case)…”(Al-‘Isra' :33)

    The correct translation of the verse in Surat Al-Ma’idah is: “O you who believe! Do not take Jews and Christians as your patrons. They are patrons of their own people. He among you who will turn to them for patronage is one of them. Verily Allah guides not a people unjust.” (Al-Ma'dah :51)

    It is obvious that Jews patronize the Jews and Christians patronize the Christians, so why not Muslims patronize Muslims and support their own people. This verse is not telling us to be against Jews or Christians, but it is telling us that we should take care of our own people and we must support each other.

    In his Tafsir, (Qur’an exegesis) Imam Ibn Kathir has mentioned that some scholars say that this verse (i.e. the one you referred to) was revealed after the Battle of Uhud when Muslims had a set back. At that time, a Muslim from Madinah said, "I am going to live with Jews so I shall be safe in case another attack comes on Madinah." And another person said, "I am going to live with Christians so I shall be safe in case another attack comes on Madinah." So Allah revealed this verse reminding the believers that they should not seek the protection from others, but should protect each other. (See Ibn Kathir, Al-Tafsir, vol. 2, p. 68)

    Muslims are allowed to have non-Muslims as friends as long as they keep their own faith and commitment to Islam pure and strong. You are correct in pointing out that a Muslim man is also allowed to marry a Jewish or Christian woman. It is obvious that one marries someone for love and friendship. If friendship between Muslims and Jews or Christians was forbidden, then why would Islam allow a Muslim man to marry a Jew or Christian woman? It is the duty of Muslims to patronize Muslims. They should not patronize any one who is against their faith or who fights their faith, even if they were their fathers and brothers. Allah says: “O you who believe! Take not for protectors (awliya') your fathers and your brothers if they love unbelief above faith. If any of you do so, they are indeed wrong-doers.” (Al-Tawbah : 23)

    In a similar way, the Qur'an also tells Muslims that they should never patronize the non-Muslims against other Muslims. However, if some Muslims do wrong to some non-Muslims, it is Muslims duty to help the non-Muslims and save them from oppression . The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said that he himself will defend a Dhimmi living among Muslims to whom injustice is done by Muslims. But Islam also teaches that Muslims should not seek the patronage of non-Muslims against other Muslims. They should try to solve their problems among themselves. Allah Almighty says, “Let not the Believers take the unbelievers as their patrons over against the Believers…” (Aal-'Imran :28)

    He Almighty also says: “O you who believe! Take not for patrons unbelievers rather than Believers. Do you wish to offer Allah an open proof against yourselves?” (An-Nisaa’:144)

    May Allah guide you to the straight path, and guide you to that which pleases Him, Amen.

    Allah Almighty knows best.
    This one simply explains the relationship and catergories that exist in regards to friendship with non muslims.

    From Mufti Ebrahim Desai.

    Can a Muslimah not associate with any non muslims?


    There are different types of association in Shari’ah. a) Mu’aamalaat (dealing), b) Muwaasaat (sympathetic), c) Mustaaraat (kind), d)
    Muwaalaat (hearty friendship).

    The first 3 types of association are permissible. The fourth type, i.e. very close relationship is strictly prohibited with a non-Muslim as
    there is a fear of being influenced against Islamic values and principles.

    And Allah Ta'ala Knows Best

    Mufti Ebrahim Desai

    Answer 93
    “If anyone of you gets angry, let him keep quiet”.

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