Why do Salafi sisters prefer Salafi Brothers

[abdou-118]

Assalam alaykoum wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh

First , I would like that you excuse me for my weak language ,
and I ask you to be patient and comprehensive about the fact that I discuss this topic which may be won't please some of you ,

Now the problem I wonder about , is that I find some thing of wrong when I see "Salafi" sisters preferring to marry "Salafi" brothers , so that I find a hard feeling of jalousie and some times I am angry ,

Let me explain what do those words mean in my community : in my country " Algeria " , we call "Salafi" sister , a woman who wear Djilbab , since it is a sign which distinguish them from women who do not practice well their Islam.
And we call "Salafi" brother , a man who do Sunna , ( that is to wear traditional Islamic wear and to let grow his beard ... etc ) and who well practice Islam .

I know it , "Salafi" brothers are better than us in many criteria , and since they practice well their Islam ,
I know it , since the Messenger of Allah , Peace Be Upon Him , said : " when comes to you a man whom qualities and Deen satisfy you , then , accept to marry him "

In the same way , I find "Salafi" sisters widely better than other Muslim women , It's to Allah to judge who is better than who , but from my point of view of a man towards women , let me say it , I find a great feeling towards "Salafi" sisters , and I think it's not so bad to say it.

However , I feel some thing does not much when I find that they prefer them on us .

[seafood]

becuase the rest of us are kafirs so they understand.

[abdou-118]

Seriously please . thqanks

[slave of allah]

look its the same with evryone ok. shias 4 shias. brealwis 4 brealwis deobandis 4 deobands and so on. if salfi sisters feel more comfortable marryin salfis brothers then thats good for them. this aint an issue worth discussing.

[Islam inc.]

The outward adherence to the sunnah is more likely to indicate an inward adherence (not always of course), so it makes choosing a spouse that slight bit easier. But yes obviously there is a preference towards someone who follows the same ideology.

[abdou-118]

I don't think so my brother ; if you qllow yourself to devide Islam into those parts and you say shi'a , sunna ; and I don't know what else ; I think I am not but a Muslim , I didnt mean that it was right to devide Islam into salafis and non-salafis ; I don't know if you anderstood me .

[lumumba_s]

There is nothing wrong with that. A person should only marry someone who has the same understanding that they have of religious beliefs and practice. Otherwise, there will be a great deal amount of stress in the home and the possibility of resentment instead of love and compassion. I am glad that you can admit this, because I got strange looks when I stated plainly that I would never marry a Salafi sister, even though one of the Salafis in my community told someone that they would never marry their daughter or sister to me and did not get the same response. I understand what you mean. A Salafi sister would no more want to pray behind a husband that they would consider it better not to pray behind because of his Ash'ari beliefs for instance, than I would want to have the constantly defend using a misbaha or the dhikrs that I do (or struggle to).

[lumumba_s]

And why do you say that Salafi brothers are better than Salafi sisters? And based on your description of what a Salafi is, would you considered a member of the `Alawi tariqa who grows a beard and practices Islam to be a "Salafi"?

[Flora]

in my country " Algeria " , we call "Salafi" sister , a woman who wear Djilbab , since it is a sign which distinguish them from women who do not practice well their Islam.
And we call "Salafi" brother , a man who do Sunna , ( that is to wear traditional Islamic wear and to let grow his beard ... etc ) and who well practice Islam .

I know it , "Salafi" brothers are better than us in many criteria , and since they practice well their Islam ,

In the same way , I find "Salafi" sisters widely better than other Muslim women

I think your definitions and assumptions need revision.

[loveProphet]

And why do you say that Salafi brothers are better than Salafi sisters? And based on your description of what a Salafi is, would you considered a member of the `Alawi tariqa who grows a beard and practices Islam to be a "Salafi"?

Assalam-o-Alaikum,
Actually brother, i was also thinking on why he thinks that "salafis" brothers or sisters are better than Sunnis??

Sunnis also wear Jilbab, Hijab and beard and follow the Sunnah wear etc.

That i believe is no way to differentiate between a group.

According to your view brother, Mawlana Sheikh Nazim al-Haqqani(RA) would appear a "salafi" lol.

So please do revise your definitions of "salafis". The difference between them and Sunnis is of basic Aqeedah and Fiqh, not the physical appearances.

Wa Salaam