Glad tidings

**Leila81** · 21-12-2006, 06:23 PM

Assalaamu alaikum

I would like to remind all brothers and sisters of the following insha'allah:

Surah Al-Hujuraat (49: 8 - 12)

" A favour and a blessing from Allah
and Allah is All-Knowing and Wise.

And if the two factions of the Believers fight
you should make peace between them.
But if one of them continues to wrong the other
fight the transgressor until they return to Allah's command.
If they then do so, make a just peace between them
for verily, Allah loves the just ones.

Verily the Believers are brothers
so make peace between your two brothers
that perhaps you may receive mercy.

O Believers! People should not scorn others
for perhaps they may be better than them.
Neither should women scorn other women for
perhaps they may also be better than them.
You should not discredit each other nor abuse each other
with nicknames. The worst of titles is that of "Immorality"
after that of "Belief", and whoever does not repent is truly an oppressor."

This surah requires much understanding and consideration especially in the Ummah of today where we see much division, lack of the concept of unity or mercy between our hearts.

Islam is a learning curve - we are learning from the moment we are born alhamdulillah and some of us get set back on our paths by outside means. Others stop dead in their tracks, ponder, pause or return to the beginning through their own fault. None of us are invincible and all of us are constantly learning whoever we are and we should have mercy on one another and pull each other along...what is a journey without a companion to light your way? a lonely one indeed.

Jabir b. Abdullah said that Rasulullah saw said : "Allah is not merciful to whim who is not merciful to people ". ( Bukhari, Muslim )

From Anas : Rasulullah saw said : "By Him in whose hand is my soul, a servant (of Allah) does not believe (truly) until he likes for his brother what he likes for himself ". ( Bukhari, Muslim )

From Anas : Rasulullah saw said : " Make thing easy, and do not e make them difficult, and give good tidings and do not make people run away" ( Bukhari )

Abdullah b. Umar ra said that Rasulullah saw said : " The best companion with Allah swt is he who behaves best to his companion, and the best neighbour with Allah swt is he who behaves best to his neighbour " ( Tirmidhi )

May Allah swt guide us all.

Salaams

**Ansari_UK** · 21-12-2006, 07:12 PM

Thank you for the reminder Sister, as always at the right time too.

PS> I did the Nikkah. i certainly would not recommend it to just anyone, it was such a labour intensive process but alhamdullilah, they are both "married" now and not in Zina anymore. Im still trying to sort out their problems but, i have the Nikkah papers which i inshAllah wish to register at the local mosque. I spoke to the Imam and he told me guidance on the couple so it is also from a senior, just thought u should know.

**Leila81** · 21-12-2006, 07:32 PM

Alhamdulillah may Allah swt reward you well for helping and guiding them - and may Allah swt bless them with a happy marriage insha'allah. That is some gift you have given them - your patience and guidance and involvement in their Nikah - masha'allah. It would not have happened without Allah swt but to have been part of that - wow, alhamdulillah what a lovely thing to share with them - a great story to tell their kids too insha'allah.

I posted this thread because I sometimes feel there is a disconcerting amount of haste amongst ourselves for the way we speak to one another. Naming no names and it is not exclusive to this board but in general, the Ummah. I find it upsetting and I am too guilty of this at times so a reminder to us all I thought would be a good idea - after all we all know this insha'allah.

There is much difference of opinion amongst us and sometimes I feel we focus too closely on that and not what we have in common - a love and fear for Allah swt. When I came to Islam it was with the grace of Allah swt and the help of those around me (may Allah swt reward them well) who displayed and continue to display an overwhelming paitence for my learning.....and it got me thinking, when do we ever stop learning ? We don't, not even til the day we die as every day is full of lessons and tests from Allah swt and its not always easy - so we should help one another - attainment in one area of Islam does not mean attainment in all.

Anywayz- just my thoughts.

Salaams

**Ansari_UK** · 22-12-2006, 08:17 PM

I posted this thread because I sometimes feel there is a disconcerting amount of haste amongst ourselves for the way we speak to one another. Naming no names and it is not exclusive to this board but in general, the Ummah. I find it upsetting and I am too guilty of this at times so a reminder to us all I thought would be a good idea - after all we all know this insha'allah.

There is much difference of opinion amongst us and sometimes I feel we focus too closely on that and not what we have in common - a love and fear for Allah swt. When I came to Islam it was with the grace of Allah swt and the help of those around me (may Allah swt reward them well) who displayed and continue to display an overwhelming paitence for my learning.....and it got me thinking, when do we ever stop learning ? We don't, not even til the day we die as every day is full of lessons and tests from Allah swt and its not always easy - so we should help one another - attainment in one area of Islam does not mean attainment in all.

Anywayz- just my thoughts.

Salaams

Walaikum Asalaam Sister,

As i said i definately wouldnt just recommend it to anyone without full thought (it took 3 weeks roughly from asking to sorting problems out) but Alhamdullilah, main thing is their relationship is "halal" so to speak. Now to try and help his Imaan. Basic bottom line is that the girl wants to change her ways and this led to the Nikkah now the boy has to follow suit. Im putting big pressure on him as his former life isnt going to lead him anywhere.

As for the rest of your topic, i dont think i have ever seen you in a bad light with other Musims slating them. Your point is a good one and my answer to this was that is why i took bayah with a good shaykh.

I was ex-salafi for a while, realised its not for me (just fake piety, blasting all other Muslims whilst not even bothering on oneself). Came into Sufism. Met a lot of bros alhamdullilah who helped me. the final clincher was when i was on Hajj. I did duah at the Kabbah asking Allah to guide me to a spiritual master who would help me in my religion. Alhamdullilah

Within 6 months i had just "walked" into the group, they are Shadhilli in Tariqah and the Shaykh now gives guidance to all our group. His no1 topic? Unity. I have a personal fault which is that i am far too harsh with the Salafis, however good reason - they took one of my best freinds away from me (no knowledge of arabic, revert, hasnt read Quran from start to finish in Arabic, doesnt study a particular Fiqh and with all these qualifications "so and so is an apostate, so and so is a kaffir, so and so is a bidati, so and so" - and he was a revert to Islam.

The Shaykh has shown me the full wisdom of learning ones Islams in stages and i dont make as big mistakes as i made before. Basically tuesday you have 1 opinion, wed you have another, thur you have another. This is the reason for our debates/issues & conflicts. He sends his mureeds to study under a lot of people even though he is Maliki.

I would sincerely advise you to talk to your husband seriously and consider bayah with a spiritual master. You (and he) wont regret it. I took my mrs and now she is considering it.

One final thing, taking bayah with a shaykh is a LOST Sunnah. All the 4 Imams had shaykhs, ibn taymiyah (ra) had a shaykh, all the salaf and the khalaf had Shaykhs. However, all of a sudden us "21st century englightened" Muslims dont need one? Hmmmm. Anyway you are a good sister and this is my sincere advise to you. Its like the "next step" up in your imaan. take care

Walaikum Asalaam