come'on ppl, please try to be more supportive towards the sister. So, maybe all she needs is some encouragment from time to time. Alhamdulilah she is Muslimah. We only know as much as she is willing to tell us, perhaps it's even worse than she's willing to reveal. I think hadith states that Allah shows mercy on the one who shows mercy to others. If someone comes to us for help over and over again we should not tire of that person, Allah willing, this will be the person Allah has guided towards us and we have that potential to help that person.
Neither should a person be sent away nor should a person kept/keep away from seeking help, especially after Allah has shown that person the way for guidance. Apparently in this case, it's the members of sunniforum. (the helpers)
Tanya, hope you are doing better? . Remember at the end of the day, all is in the Hands of Allah, He is the one in control of everything at every point in our lives.
On the authority of Abu al-Abbaas Abdullah ibn Abbaas who said: One day I was riding behind the Prophet (peace be upon him) and he said to me,
“O young man, I shall teach you some words (of advice). Be mindful of Allah and Allah will protect you. Be mindful of Allah, and you will find Him in front of you. If you ask, ask of Allah. If you seek help, seek help in Allah. Know that if the nation were to gather together to benefit you with something, they would not benefit you with anything except that which Allah has already recorded for you. If they gather to harm you by something, they would not be able to harm you by anything except what Allah has already recorded against you. The pens have been lifted and the pages have dried.” — Al-Tirmidhi.
Maybe sometimes you get upset and say what you don't really mean and really hope you repent and gain forgiveness. Allah willing. Remember that this life is a temporary one and the one who suffers will be rewarded for whatever pain and difficulty that person goes through.
"Be sure we shall test you with something of fear and hunger, some loss in goods or lives or the fruits (of your toil), but give glad tidings to those who patiently persevere, Who say, when afflicted with calamity: "To Allah We belong, and to Him is our return":- They are those on whom (Descend) blessings from Allah, and Mercy, and they are the ones that receive guidance. [Quran 2:155-157]
May Allah grant you favourable solutions to all your problems and provide for you from His pious servants. Ameen.