I Want To Dieee

[ZUBAYR]

Don't you cry my sweet sister. If you need anything which i can provide for you, just ask. Hold on to the rope of Allah, and never let go, even when you feel like you have to. Keep making du'aa and there will be mountains of treatures waiting for you in jannah insha'Allah. You are going through a series of trials, keep your faith steady and built it up and thats it.

& I am sure your not so useless as i am.

SALAAMZ

U WANT TO DIE THINK ABOUT THE CRIPPLE THE ABNORMAL THE BLIND THE HUNGARY THOSE SUFFERING FROM ANY FORM OF DISEASE SHOULDNT THEY B WISHN FOR DEATH BUT THEY DONT INSTEAD THEY TURN TO THE ALMIGHTY AND ASK HIM FOT GUIDANCE AND FORGIVENESS WE AVE EVERYTHING IM NOT TALKING BOUT MILLIONS CAUSE WE DONT NEED THAT EVIL SIMPLE BASICS LIKE FOOD AND WATER AND A ROOF THE MERE FACT THAT WE LIVN N WAKN UP EVERY DAY HOW SELFISH AND UNGRATEFUL CAN U B. AND WHICH OF THE FAVOURS OF U LORD CAN U DENY(SURAH ALRAHMAN)

[ZUBAYR]

[QUOTE=onlyfaith;219917]Don't you cry my sweet sister. If you need anything which i can provide for you, just ask. Hold on to the rope of Allah, and never let go, even when you feel like you have to. Keep making du'aa and there will be mountains of treatures waiting for you in jannah insha'Allah. You are going through a series of trials, keep your faith steady and built it up and thats it.

& I am sure your not so useless as i am.

UR FATE SEALED ALL U GOTTO DO IS ALLOW ALLAH BACK IN2 UR HEART THE NAME OF ALLAH WILL EMERGE LIKE A WHITE LIGHT IN THE DARKNESS OF UR HEART N SOUL AT MIDNITE U SHOULD BOW DOWN TO ALLAH MAKE ISTGHFAAR AND ASK ALLAH TO GUIDE YOU WALLAHI U WILL STAR SEEING A DIFFERENCE

[Julaybib]

As Salaam Alaykum.

Brother Zubayr, When a person is suffering severe depression, just saying "think of those who are worse of than you, show some gratitude"..............Does not solve the depression. You have to been through it to know what it feels like.

Often the person ends up feeling worse when they see those who are suffering from afflictions they think to themselves........" I am useless, I am hopeless, I am no good for myself or anyone else I am selfish I am ungrateful, People are worse of then me. They do not complain, but that is all that I do."

This results in the person having feelings of Selfhatred....And thinking I am evil. and I deserve to be Punished e.t.c.

So You have to experience it to realise what the Sister is going through.

[Julaybib]

As Sallam Alaykum.

Having read most of your post I think you are a lot older then people think.

Perhaps that is also an issue we see all the people the same age as us and they have achieved many thing in their life. Whilst we feel what have I done with my life...........It has been a total waste.........I am just useless.

Insha'Allah we should try not focus on those wasted years....we will just end up feeling more useless and depressed.

Perhaps making a thread in The sisters section and hooking up with sisters locally will help.
I know it is probably more difficult to meet up with total strangers and share problems with them in real life. But there is no harm in trying........you might just end up meeting some wonderful people.

Anyways Here is a link to a story from the Inspirational stories section I don't if you read it. But this brothers story really touched me. Insha'Allah if you have time Have a read.

Here is the linkhttp://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=24480.

[Tanya]

SALAAMZ

U WANT TO DIE THINK ABOUT THE CRIPPLE THE ABNORMAL THE BLIND THE HUNGARY THOSE SUFFERING FROM ANY FORM OF DISEASE SHOULDNT THEY B WISHN FOR DEATH BUT THEY DONT INSTEAD THEY TURN TO THE ALMIGHTY AND ASK HIM FOT GUIDANCE AND FORGIVENESS WE AVE EVERYTHING IM NOT TALKING BOUT MILLIONS CAUSE WE DONT NEED THAT EVIL SIMPLE BASICS LIKE FOOD AND WATER AND A ROOF THE MERE FACT THAT WE LIVN N WAKN UP EVERY DAY HOW SELFISH AND UNGRATEFUL CAN U B. AND WHICH OF THE FAVOURS OF U LORD CAN U DENY(SURAH ALRAHMAN)

HERE WE GO AGAIN, ANOTHER ONE RAMBLING ON ABOUT BEING GRATEFUL I'M NOT BLIND AND DISABLED!!!

[Tanya]

Salaam's

You feel in total despair, You feel you just don't have the strength to struggle anymore, Dont want to struggle just had enough of life. As the years pass by things just get worse, Feelings of Uselessness, sometimes SelfPity.......... other times Self hatred, and some days a mixture of both............This thing about looking at blind people, It just does not work, when you are in a state of severe depression. Thinking of people with disabilities does not address the depression.


Where there is life there is hope Trust me Insha'allah things will improve. Slowly but surely.

PHEW... FINALLY SOMEONE WHO UNDERSTANDS ME AND BACKS ME UP WHEN IT COMES TO DEALING WITH PEOPLE WHO TRY TO BLOCK MY DEPRESSION BY TELLING ME I SHOULD BE GRATEFUL I'M NOT BLIND OR DISABLED OR ALL THAT OTHER ****.

THANK YOU

[Tanya]

As Salaam Alaykum.

Brother Zubayr, When a person is suffering severe depression, just saying "think of those who are worse of than you, show some gratitude"..............Does not solve the depression. You have to been through it to know what it feels like.

Often the person ends up feeling worse when they see those who are suffering from afflictions they think to themselves........" I am useless, I am hopeless, I am no good for myself or anyone else I am selfish I am ungrateful, People are worse of then me. They do not complain, but that is all that I do."

This results in the person having feelings of Selfhatred....And thinking I am evil. and I deserve to be Punished e.t.c.

So You have to experience it to realise what the Sister is going through.

COULDN'T HAVE PUT IT BETTER MYSELF

[Julaybib]

As Salaam Alaykum.

I think People just mean well...Sister.
Incidentally I used to offer the exact same advice to people who where depressed. " Think of those who are worse the blind the poor etc".

It is only when you have experienced depression yourself that you realise that it is just not so easy to overcome.............especially if one has suffered over a longtime.

[Tanya]

I HAVE BEEN TO DOCTORS, I'VE BEEN ON ANTI DERESSANTS, I'VE BEEN TO IMAMS, I'VE BEEN TO OTHERS WHO TELL ME I HAVE BLACK MAGIC OVER ME, BUT NOTHING HAS HELPED, EVEN THE REMEDIES I WAS GIVEN TO CURE THE MAGIC DIDN'T WORK. THEN OTHERS TELL ME TO STAY AWAY FROM PEOPLE LIKE THAT, I'M STUCK IN THE MIDDLE AND I'M SICK AND TIRED OF PEOPLE TELLING ME ONE THING AND OTHERS TELLING ME THE OPPOSITE. I'M SO ANGRY AND FRUSTRATED WITH LIFE I COULD SIT HERE AND RIP MY HAIR OUT

[Julaybib]

Salaam's

I know when you get conflicting advice it is very confusing.

My depression was more illness related...........What I found really funny is how everyone suddenly becomes a Doctor even after you tell them theres no cure. They give you advice about all kinds of Herbal remedies and stuff.

I think perhaps meeting a sister in real life who has been through the same things you have and has suffered from depression. Will be of greater help.

The problem is most people dont understand depression.........They either think the person is a Moaner.......Or they think the person is seeking attention.

I have a physical illness yet I have heard people say there is nothing wrong with him.......he is just acting.

So I suppose it would help to meet someone in real life who has gone through the same problems and who actually understands.