I Want To Dieee

[Julaybib]

Salaam's

Anyways I have to go but...I hope that what I have stated has been of Some help
Insha'Allah.

I pray that Allah turns your difficulties into ease ameen.

[Tanya]

Salaam's

I know when you get conflicting advice it is very confusing.

My depression was more illness related...........What I found really funny is how everyone suddenly becomes a Doctor even after you tell them theres no cure. They give you advice about all kinds of Herbal remedies and stuff.

I think perhaps meeting a sister in real life who has been through the same things you have and has suffered from depression. Will be of greater help.

The problem is most people dont understand depression.........They either think the person is a Moaner.......Or they think the person is seeking attention.

I have a physical illness yet I have heard people say there is nothing wrong with him.......he is just acting.

So I suppose it would help to meet someone in real life who has gone through the same problems and who actually understands.

Sorry to hear about your physical illness, InshahAllah everything will ok.
Your so right, people just think we moan or are looking for attention, then when you tell them they haven't been through it, they so easily say they have, but no, they would understand the pain and suffering if they'd been through it, and realise how they would feel if they were going through it how would they react when someone's brushing them aside and telling them to get over it.

[verdana]

* FIRST REMEDY

Unhappy sick person! Do not be anxious, have patience! Your illness is not a malady for you; it is a sort of cure. For life departs like capital. If it yields no fruits, it is wasted. And if it passes in ease and heedlessness, it passes most swiftly. Illness makes that capital of yours yield huge profits. Moreover, it does not allow your life to pass quickly, it restrains it and lengthens it, so that it will depart after yielding its fruits. An indication that your life is lengthened through illness is the following much repeated proverb: “The times of calamity are long, the times of happiness, most short.”

* SECOND REMEDY

O ill person who lacks patience! Be patient, indeed, offer thanks! Your illness may transform each of the minutes of your life into the equivalent of an hour’s worship. For worship is of two kinds. One is positive like the well-known worship of supplication and the five daily prayers. The other are negative forms of worship like illness and calamities. By means of these, those afflicted realize their impotence and weakness; they beseech their All-Compassionate Creator and take refuge in Him; they manifest worship which is sincere and without hypocrisy. Yes, there is a sound narration stating that a life passed in illness is counted as worship for the believer—on condition he does not complain about God. It is even established by sound narrations and by those who uncover the realities of creation that one minute’s illness of some who are completely patient and thankful becomes the equivalent of an hour’s worship and a minute’s illness of certain perfected men the equivalent of a day’s worship. Thus, you should not complain about an illness which as though transforms one minute of your life into a thousand minutes and gains for you long life; you should rather offer thanks.

For rest of this real relief, give it a try.

[verdana]

* FIRST REMEDY

Unhappy sick person! Do not be anxious, have patience! Your illness is not a malady for you; it is a sort of cure. For life departs like capital. If it yields no fruits, it is wasted. And if it passes in ease and heedlessness, it passes most swiftly. Illness makes that capital of yours yield huge profits. Moreover, it does not allow your life to pass quickly, it restrains it and lengthens it, so that it will depart after yielding its fruits. An indication that your life is lengthened through illness is the following much repeated proverb: “The times of calamity are long, the times of happiness, most short.”

* SECOND REMEDY

O ill person who lacks patience! Be patient, indeed, offer thanks! Your illness may transform each of the minutes of your life into the equivalent of an hour’s worship. For worship is of two kinds. One is positive like the well-known worship of supplication and the five daily prayers. The other are negative forms of worship like illness and calamities. By means of these, those afflicted realize their impotence and weakness; they beseech their All-Compassionate Creator and take refuge in Him; they manifest worship which is sincere and without hypocrisy. Yes, there is a sound narration stating that a life passed in illness is counted as worship for the believer—on condition he does not complain about God. It is even established by sound narrations and by those who uncover the realities of creation that one minute’s illness of some who are completely patient and thankful becomes the equivalent of an hour’s worship and a minute’s illness of certain perfected men the equivalent of a day’s worship. Thus, you should not complain about an illness which as though transforms one minute of your life into a thousand minutes and gains for you long life; you should rather offer thanks.

For rest of this real relief, give it a try.

After reading and pondering over that and this article I wanted to have my depression and distress last even longer. Then after a while, listening to beautiful recitations of Qur'an (in arabic of course) I found that my depress left me for ever! Was kind of sad to loose it so quickly

[nayyerjigar]

how about a nice vacation to the swiss alps...set up a post near some lake and spend the whole day swimming and fishing there...

[verdana]

how about a nice vacation to the swiss alps...set up a post near some lake and spend the whole day swimming and fishing there...

Nope. Will add even more sorrow. Worldly pleasures had never been any cure to anybody.

[nayyerjigar]

ur right, was just trying to cheer her up...

[Abdul Sattar]

dear sister Tanya,

I pray the advice of our brothers and sisters has been of some benefit. There is a book that has been written however, and I have learned that many have found it very beneficial.

http://islamicbookstore.com/b7651.html

inshAllah it helps now and provides light for many days to come.


As for spending time away in beautiful landscape - using the time to reflect on the beauty of creation, the grandness of the creator, and the fact that He (swt) has a plan for you may help.

I was reading a work by Ibn Atallah al-Iskandari on the train this morning - and he writes beautifully about how much love, care, and mercy Allah (swt) has for you, even when you do not recognize it.

How those who loved and trusted Allah (swt) but went through many difficulties will wake up on the Day of Judgement, and they will have seen this entire life has nothing more than a bad dream. But because they persevered, because they did not lose their hope in Allah, because they did not do anything drastic, Allah will shower them with mercy.

The feeling that a person has when they wake up from a nightmare, and her mother is right there, calming and soothing her. Or her husband, or her father, is right there, ready to protect her and comfort her.

Imagine, on the Day of Judgement, Allah (swt) Himself, and His blessed Messenger, will be there to comfort and protect those believers who went through a life of hardship in this world. Imagine that feeling...drinking from the Messenger's hand as he smiles at you out of pride that you are a member of his Nation

And above all, knowing that Allah's grasp can encompass all things in His hand by the forelock! and can give strength, comfort, and blessings to His servants in THIS world as well, without effort.

Please do not lose hope. This life is a but a dream, and Allah and His Messenger will comfort us when we wake as long as we hold on! And Allah has the power even before that to make the bad dream into a beautiful one without any effort from Him.

wa alaikum assalam
Abdul Sattar

[Julaybib]

Salaam

I will leave you with the brief outline of a story I am writing at the moment for the "Start With Self" thread in the general section.

Once there were two brothers both twins one was called Samir And the other Amir their parents died when they were both 13 years old. The Boys both ended up on the streets with no one to look after them.................ten years passed by and they were now both 23.......Amir had become a very successful business man, had everything a wife Children a nice house....Samir had remained on the streets
unable to cope with life, he had become an alcoholic and a drug addict.

someone approached Amir and asked what had made him so successful he replied. " with the Childhood I had what do you expect, the struggle to survive as a child gave me the drive and energy to succeed and made me stronger."

"The same person approached Samir and asked what made him turn to drink and Alchohol he replied " With the childhood I had what do you expect, the only way i could cope was to turn to alchohol and drugs."


So the Moral of the story is that you may get Two people who have been through exactly the same experience one will be strengthened by it. The other might be destroyed by it.

So if Allah has protected us and made us stronger we should be grateful to him.

We should also realise that another person may have greater difficulty in coping
with a similar situation. We should not Brush them off and act dismissively towards them. Because it could easily have been us in that same situation and their shoes.

[Julaybib]

Salaams

Thanks for posting that Br Verdana Subha'Allah some beautiful advice.