My female relative and her husband, she asks about Islam's rules

[jello]

Salam alaykum,

I have a married Muslim female relative. She is sick, but her husaband refuses to pay for her expenses on the basis that there is no obligation in Islam for the husband to take care of his sick wife, except in childbirth.

So my relative is obviously worried, and would like to know if there is any Islamic way she can get this payment out of her husband, or to make this payment of her sickness become obligatory upon him.

[JayshAllah]

Wa alaykum as-Salam.

The man in question is a jerk. May Allah guide him.

[woeuntothee]

Wa alaykum as-Salam.

The man in question is a jerk. May Allah guide him.

Seconded. What a jerk!

A muslim has an islamic duty to help any other muslim in need, let alone his own wife. The family takes precedence when it comes to financial help anyway.

[hole299]

http://qa.sunnipath.com/issue_view.a...=4296&CATE=445


http://qa.sunnipath.com/issue_view.a...=9163&CATE=340


They must have some really HUGE issues in their marriage for him to be soo hard hearted!

May Allah guide both of them and do what's best for them in this world and in the hereafter, and the rest of us as well. Ameen

[scents of paradise]

It is a really sad case..but we should also be asking ourselves where this man got this information..from the schools of thought..there was a thread about this here..you can ask the admins im not kidding.

[scents of paradise]

its interesting the links above support the husbands stance..

the theoretical answer to your question is that no, it is not technically obligatory on the husband to pay for his wife's medical expenses. This is an expense that the jurists have determined to be her own personal responsibility: women are capable of earning their own living, just as men are, and she would have to earn this money herself

[JayshAllah]

As for the amount of maintenance, the guideline is what is sufficient, based on the words of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) to Hind, the wife of Abu Sufyaan: “Take what is sufficient for you and your child on a reasonable basis.” al-Bukhaari (5364) and Muslim (1714).

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What counts with regard to what is sufficient is food and accommodation with proper facilities, as well as clothing and medical treatment. Anything surplus to that, such as gifts and luxuries, do not count, and he is not obliged to cover these expenses for his wife.

http://www.islamqa DOT com/index.php?ref=103422&ln=eng&txt=wife%20medical%20e xpenses

[tijaarat]

its interesting the links above support the husbands stance..

saalam,

I think that is said for extreme situations. Just like a woman doesn't have to lift a finger to do anything if she is married. (cook, clean, etc.) Thats another side of the coin. But in reality this does not happen. Just like that, I am sure most of the men do pay for the medical expenses of their wives.
Just like the link says, if marriage is just not about following rules, it wont work. It has to be about compassion and mercy.
For example, a woman could tell her husband that she wont do anything in the house (her right) even though all day she does is watch tv and sit on couch. A husband could then reply back and say when you get sick, I aint paying your medical bills.
This whole "my rights" trend in conferences and discussions on Islam these days bring about more conflict because people become more selfish and demanding instead of contributing.

I hope this explains.
saalam

[scents of paradise]

tit for tat??

[poor]

i can't believe there are muslims out there who wouldn't support their wives when they are sick! this is sad. I can understand if it was a special case, i.e. if the family is poor and so on