Need Career Counselling

[Simple Muslimah]

Assalamoalykum,

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u can ask all ur questions here inshallah u will be guided by our sisters and brothers, but plz remember not to reveal ur personnel things

by the way what is fsc and omg

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does ur country have distance mode system u can complete ur intermediate(class 12) and go for distance mode in degree



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[Shaykh]

Sister...i am from Pakistan and have lived half of my life in karachi and half in isb. I know khi...distance learning is a waste and like you said that it is not worth it... i dont think so that it is wise of you to stay at home and "waste" your precious years...the Ulema are right in pointing out the wrong things at college... yet at the same time the greatness comes from observing piety and also refraining from any non shariah acts...

I am a academic / career counsellor myself and have guided many people in their careers... listen to me carefuly, there is nothing wrong in going back to karachi... the only thing that i am worried about is that all-girls college are not that well reputed in terms of many things that i am sure you would know...

So i am just worried about that... excluding your personal details... do give an account of your current situation, family obligations, finance, support from parents and what you would like to pursue in the future... in this way many of us can guide you better...

By the way i am a Human Resource Consultant therefore i come across these issues in my normal course of professional environment... so maybe a little detail will help...

From what i gather... you are not a resident of karachi! so most probably you would have to stay in a hostel...

Summary: Distance Education is not worth it in Pakistan

[Shaykh]

specially after starting pardah I feel things arent the same.. I cant live as I was living there before...

Yes you can... the heart of a believer is not affected by any affliction thrown upon by others or otherwise... i have lived alone in a hostel for 4 years when i was studying and another 5 years when i was working in karachi... during the latter years...i went a total reformation (just like you did) but i kept on living...however i believe that females dont have that liberty... just wondering if you have some family members there...

there are many things which should be taken into consideration..

Good...take them into consideration and overcome them one by one

What do you mean by current situation bro?

I asked about marriage, finances, serving parents, etc. etc. - you have answered it.

however it would be very hard to convince my father now..

It would be easy once you are clear about yourself and what u want to pursue

to go back Karachi but not only for Secular studies but for Islamic too..

Yes... but secular studies should be your priority.. dont overburden yourself first... you have a long life ahead of you... first secure yourself in worldly matters... there are many places in khi where you can go for islamic studies...it all depends whether you want to learn arabic first, the syntax and morphology, or just understand quran ...

I was a science student before (was dreaming for Agha Khan Uni) and was studying in a top college but I doubt I can again get admission there

It is settled - Aga Khan is your target... no ifs and buts... this is how you will tell your parents that you want to go to khi because you want to study at Aga Khan... Aga Khan is tough... the environment is liberal but from what i see, you will be able to make it easily... do not deprive this society of a doctor who is islamic oriented... so go ahead and chalk out a career path that leads to Aga Khan...once into Aga Khan... go for part time Islamic studies

I once came across a young lady... she was very pious and very God fearing and excellent... i was surprised that she was doing her MPhil in Genetics at the Cancer Research in Aga Khan... plus she was an MBBS also...so there are people like this young lady and you can also survive at Aga Khan... Dow is very good, so is KE Lahore...

anyways to be honest now I just want to obtain a degree at least bachelor's. Maybe Bcom or...

Get this thought out of your mind... see what you really want...if it is Aga Khan... it is Aga Khan... a believer does not say "maybe" ... in fact he says insha Allah

? I dont think now I'd be able to complete MBBS or any such degree ..

Yes you will be able to complete it.. think out of it...those who come out of Aga Khan arent extra terrestials or superhumans... they are just like you... and you shall be one of them...

I had lived there as a paying guest before but now I dont have this opportunity maybe we'd rent an appartment and I'd persuade my younger brother to live with me..

If you go for a rented apartment then your brother or someone else will have to live with u... so either go back to the paying guest option with a firm heart or try to see if you can settle with any of ur families residing their

but am not sure how things gonna work? It'd be tooo difficult.. I dont know I'll be able to manage or not but I have to take a step InshaALlah!

Nothing is difficult... assumptions, presupposed fears and obstacles are the greatest impediment to any progression.... things dont work when one does not have a firm belief in Allah...you have a firm belief then what to worry about...

Chalk out your career first... planning for islamic studies can come at a later stage...

Summary - The society needs professionals (either in medical or otherwise) like you who are islamic minded.

Summary - Low Aim Is A Crime - Never Underestimate Your Talent...
Wassalam

[Shaykh]

By the way why dont you start a blog or something like it? It'd be very beneficial to many Muslims around

1. I dont know how to start a blog?

2. It will eat up my time...

3. SF is the only forum i can afford...

4. SF can be used for all sort of guidance...there are many who are more qualified than me in all aspects....

5. Keep a regular track of SF postings and you will learn about Islam quickly... by reading other people's post you can chalk out a plan for yourself also...

[Shaykh]

Will get back to you on this... give me 24 hrs...

[Shaykh]

I visit SF regularly but not everyone does this.. and in Pk we need career cousellers with Islamic minds as you said Islamic professionals are needed in every field. So if you start a blog one can easily refer it but we cant always refer SF as you may not always be posting here for some reasons and got packed routine etc.. but you can easily check your emails if someone post a question at your blog.. starting a simple blog is very easy its not necessary that you should be good at computers.. its just 3 steps and lo! your blog is ready..

Jazakallah Khayra

You open a blog for sisters .. operate it and manage it... and post useful things on it related to all matters... whatever you can find useful on SF can be posted there... it would be a nice experience for you...

As you said... it

s just 3 steps and lo! your blog is ready..

You will have a virtual community supporting you...

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maybe they'll cut their ties with me as I being away from Deen and going astray in eyes of some... I have already lost all my school friends as a result of trying to be a Muslimah..
and secondly my family.. So now your molvis are changed blah blah..
Its harder to face people now than before,

hmmm it is a common thing for all those who want to come on true path or go astray, if we are going on true path then we also face problem, and we are going astray then we will feel happy for that

well its the time when allah will be testing us and shaitan will be trying to remove us from that path. u will come to such a situation that u will feel " it would be better if i didnt follow islam" but if u hold steadfast and pass the test of Allah and follow islam properly, then u will see inshallah those who ever critisized u will stand and do salam to u (its my practical experience)

[Shaykh]

This is just to cheer you up...

In the days of bygone my friend and i used to tease this neighbour girl of ours all the time... she wanted to be a doctor and wanted to get into AKU... well we used to say to her that you will never get to AKU and never become a doctor... she used to cry out loud and we used to laugh... then she worked hard and finally got admission into AKU... when she used to come and visit her parents we teased her that she will never pass AKU as it is very difficult and she will fail... but she managed to go through and blossomed into an excellent doctor... when she completed her studies she returned to visit her parents and happened to meet us also... she stuck out her tongue at us and shouted "You Losers" .... well we could not do any thing... anyways she got a housejob and took revenge from us by marrying my friend... my friend who happens to be an investment banker has taken her to swiss alps for honeymoon... when i received a card from them... it had the usual tongue sticking out at me...

Moral of the story is that never let go of committment... motivation and dedication no matter what obstacles come in the way...

So insha Allah you will also one day succeed...