I am STUCK & Confused and need tips & advice

[SisterinDeenalHaq]

Aslamo Alaikum wr wb

I am stuck in a problem and here it is
a very close relative of mine is involved with a girl, for more than a year now, and I don't how far have things gone

he's been asked several times, if he knows anyone that he wants to get married to he always said no, and his parents want him married, but he always says not now...I got some other things to handle...
I thought he was being honest and i told his parents that you know he'll let us know when he wants to be married...

an dnow Allah SWT revealed it to us, He is so Merciful to His servants that he doesn't want his slaves going astray he reveals to others so that they can help the person get out of trap..
n e ways...
plz plz I don't know what advice or tips to give to his parents or how to confront that brother

plz give me any advice tips...everything will help...just be very quick...i don't want ne more time to pass...
and make sincere dua for him plz plz

[chviky]

AOA, sister

I think first of all track down that girl by ur self and if they r serious then try to work on ur relative parents. u can give them the pic of that girl and then the parents themselves ask their son to marry by showing that pic. But if nothing is serious then condemn ur relative of making this continuous sin!!

ALLAH NIGEBAN

[SisterinDeenalHaq]

Brothers and Sisters

I amvery Serious
Please help me out here

JazakAllah Khair in advance
JazakALlahKhair 2 brother for his input
but I personally do not like that girl for my bro at all, she is not Islamic at all

[Sister Khadijah]

Brothers and Sisters

I amvery Serious
Please help me out here

JazakAllah Khair in advance
JazakALlahKhair 2 brother for his input
but I personally do not like that girl for my bro at all, she is not Islamic at all

so she's muslim, but in ur opinion isn't deep in faith? practicing? as practising as u?

[!~~*JaNaAt*~~!]

very difficult question 4 me sis may allah help u in making decision i hve no idea sis

[gabriel]

You may need to put your personal feelings aside on this matter and resort to a more intellectual approach.

I witness these situations again and again, the difficulty is that most decsions or choices made in these matters are emotional. If you steer someone from marrying a particular girl then this can have repercussion long-term, if he does marry the girl then this can also have repercussion; therefore it is a double edge sword.

If the individual in your case your Cousin is not inclined towards the deen or travelling on a journey towards self recitification then either decision can be harmful for him.

a) Does not marry the girl, he regrets it.
b) marrys the girl he regrets it.

???

A person however that is on the deen and on a journey of self rectification can make the best of the situation.

a) Marry the girl and assists her in become deeni
b) Does not marry the girl, believes in was in his Taqeer and will marry a girl who is deeni or that he can make deeni.

The onus is entirely on him. We live in times that our descions are governed by emotions and our religious choices are infested with baseless desires, this maybe a decsion that you can not make for him; but encourage to at least look at the long term options carefully and with rational. Tell him, in fact write down the long term pros and cons of his choices and tell him to go away for a day or so in a neutral area and really contemplate on choices.

[hafs]

Asalamualaikum,
I would advise if he is a distant relative i.e cousin then leave him alone to find his own way round .Sometimes we do more harm then good by interfering .

If he is your brother ask your Mum to have a private chat with him , it is hard these days .Boys will often marry a particular girl to please their parents but the girlfriend remains a girlfriend even after the marriage .The adulteress relationship is maintained even after the marriage .This is the norm (sadly )amongst the vast majority of muslims today .

Ialways find leaving alone what doesn't concern you works best these days as the fitna's are often too big to handle.
Best regards.
wasalam

[bint abdul hameed]

AOA,
ALLAH NIGEBAN

I always hear that in the Pakistani News (ALLAH NIGEBAN), What does it mean???? That Allah ta'ala is watching???

oh, and sister I am speechless, I'll just help you by making duas, insha allah! Im sorry, i really dont know what to say.

[abuhajira]

I always here that in the Pakistani News (ALLAH NIGEBAN), What does it mean???? That Allah ta'ala is watching???

oh, and sister I am speechless, I'll just help you by making duas, insha allah! Im sorry, i really dont know what to say.

May Allah be the Watcher over you.

Same like Fi Amanillah, (May you go)In the security of Allah..

[SisterinDeenalHaq]

Aslamo Alaikum all
Jazak AllahKhjair for all the input

now lets not get off topic please...

The guy is not my cousin, my mahram.
So yes I am very worried
I was not supposed to find out but I did somehow, now how do I confront him

and the girl is totally not right, no emotions on the way.
as far as I know, she is not practicing Muslimah
please any parents, anyone I need tips or what am I supposed to say