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    Default A dua for anger

    Salaam Alykum

    I need help conserning my son. He is 5 years he has a short temper and get angry very quickly.

    He dont like if people touch him. Hes also not shy to hit anybody or spit.

    I have tried everything. So does any body know a short dua to protect him from anger.

    OR any other dua i can read in the morning. To protect him during the day.

    The problem is also that he european. And we live in a era of malaysia where they never seen "white" kids before.

    So offcourse its dufficult for him. He gets a lot of unwanted attention.

    Here sadly also peole feel that if u not malay u not muslim. U have to be malay fisrt act like malay to be muslim.

    So that also adds to the problem. Its a matter of people not respecting a persons privacy.

    Any ideas???

    I considerd moving away. The problem is my wifes family business is here.

    Please give me ideas

    Muhammad


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    Default Re: A dua for anger

    Supplication for one whose affairs have become difficult:

    O Allaah, there is no ease except in that which You have made easy, and You make difficulty, if You wish, easy.

    Control of anger movie and use of dua:

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ApoHUw6WdOA

    Lectures on anger, including what to do about it:

    http://www.jamiat.co.za/library/trea...for_anger.html

    Here also is a fiqh flash on Anger 101, how to control anger: http://www.fiqhflash.com/content/anger/index.htm
    Salaam,

    Abdulhamid


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    Default Re: A dua for anger

    Quote Originally Posted by muhammadscheepers View Post
    Salaam Alykum

    I need help conserning my son. He is 5 years he has a short temper and get angry very quickly.

    He dont like if people touch him. Hes also not shy to hit anybody or spit.

    I have tried everything. So does any body know a short dua to protect him from anger.

    OR any other dua i can read in the morning. To protect him during the day.

    The problem is also that he european. And we live in a era of malaysia where they never seen "white" kids before.

    So offcourse its dufficult for him. He gets a lot of unwanted attention.

    Here sadly also peole feel that if u not malay u not muslim. U have to be malay fisrt act like malay to be muslim.

    So that also adds to the problem. Its a matter of people not respecting a persons privacy.

    Any ideas???

    I considerd moving away. The problem is my wifes family business is here.

    Please give me ideas

    Muhammad
    Asalaam wr wb here are a couple of dua's and also an article that i hope is beneficial inshallah! Please make dua for me and inshallah! Allah hafiz

    Dua from the Qur'an for Disobedient Children

    Wa as lih lee fee dhurriyathee. Innee thub thu ilayka wa innee minal muslimeen

    And (O Allah), be gracious towards me in the matter of my off-spring. And surely.I have returned to you in repentance, and surely, I am of those who surrender (to you).

    Anyone whose children are disobedient should recite the above dua after every Salaah. Inshallah they will soon become obedient. But have in mind one's children when saying dhurriyyati.

    Also say: Auoodhu billahee minashaythanirajeem

    I seek refuge in Allah from the shaythan

    Encourage the child to learn this aswell and repeat it when they get angry

    Dealing with Anger in Children

    Jul.15, 2008 in General Upbringing

    Children like anyone, will experience anger at some point. We need to understand that anger is inherent in human nature and as parents, we should understand more about the concept of anger and how to manage it in our children.

    The first thing we should note is that anger is not “all evil” and that how anger is channelled is important. Anger actually has some benefits when “used” for the right reasons. For example, anger can be a useful instrument when defending oneself, religion, honour as well as the keeping the Muslim lands safe from the plots of the aggressors. When anger is used in this way, it is a commendable thing; however we should note that anger is not the same as being irrational or unjust. The type anger referred to above is not the anger we are considering today.

    In more than a few verses in the Qur’an, Allah commands us to repress anger and repel evil for that which is better. For example:

    And the slaves of the Most Beneficent (Allāh) are those who walk on the earth in humility and sedateness, and when the foolish address them (with bad words) they say, “Peace”

    Qur’an 25:63

    And again when describing commendable acts; Allah says:

    …those who in prosperity and in adversity; who repress anger; and who pardon men; verily, Allāh loves Al-Muhsinun (the gooddoers).

    Qur’an 3:134

    The Prophet (peace be upon him) said:

    A man once asked The Prophet (peace be upon him) for advice. The Prophet (peace be upon him) responded, “Do not become angry and furious.” The man asked (the same) again and again, and the Prophet (peace be upon him) said in each case, “Do not become angry and furious.”

    Al-Bukhari

    As parents, it is our responsibility to implement the above on ourselves as well as those under our care.

    Here are some tips:

    •Prevention is better than cure. The best way to manage anger is to prevent the reasons for occurrence from occurring. That is, if you know that something will make your child angry; try to distance it from them. Causes could include that you’re children has “learnt” how to have a short fuse from you. In this case, you should give the children a good example by being forbearing and patient. This advice is general and should not misinterpreted for that parents giving in to their children’s tantrums.

    •When angry, change the position or situation the child is in.
    The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If any of you becomes angry and he is standing, let him sit down, so his anger will go away; if it does not go away, let him lie down.” Musnad Ahmad

    •Encourage the child to make wudhoo and tell them you will continue the discuss etc once they have made wudhoo.The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “When one of you gets angry, let him make ablution with water as anger arises out of fire.”

    •Emphasis the virtues of patience. Teach them that strength is about being about to control anger. As children, inshaAllah they will be encouraged by this and want to be seen as “strong”.
    The Prophet (peace be upon him said): “The strong is not the one who over comes the people by his strength” “But the strong is the one who controls him while in anger.” (Bukhari)

    •Encourage the child to “relax” and not talk until the anger has subsided.
    The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If any of you becomes angry, let him keep silent.” (Imaam Ahmad)

    •Seek refuge in Allah from Satan as well as encouraging your child to do the same.

    •Teach your children about Allahs will and about Qadr. Teeach them that whatever happens it is because Allah Most High has allowed it to happen and they will be rewarded for being patient.

    Teaching your children from an early age how to view and manage anger will given them many advantages for their future and inshaAllah, their personality will be one of pleasantness and sanity, their ethics will be high and they will be free from psychological deficiencies.
    Last edited by Hamza81; 13-12-2008 at 02:16 AM.


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