My faith has faded away.

[shahpertun]

Asalam-O-Alaikum,

I am a new member here and i just wanted help of those who have proper knowledge about Islam in these forums.

I think that my faith has faded away completely, I have stopped praying and reciting the Quran completely and even if i have a thought that i should pray there is another feeling that it doesn't matter because every time i have prayed and asked for something, something completely opposite of that has happened to me; I wouldn't have been hurt if the dua would not have been fulfilled but something opposite to happen is completely demoralizing . Since 18-20 years or so i have been waiting for the answers to my prayers and some ray of hope but nothing has yet happened and hence i don't believe in anything anymore. I also know that nothing will ever get me to get my faith back now, i hate the fact that i am alive, i hate that i believed that something will ever happened and change my life all together, i hate that i kept my hope alive and i just want to die and i don't know what to do...there are times i want to run away and go to some place where i don't have to face anyone...but for now the situation is such that even when i think of praying something makes me not believe and forget about praying...some people said its test but what kind of test is this and i really don't mind failing this test because i am not a prophet i am just a human being, my tests started when i was a little kid and didn't have the ability to think properly and i was hit by demoralizing things one after the other without any breaks...after thinking of the way my life has been ever since i can remember i feel i am right to have decided and understood that its better to get rid of this faith and life my life without getting scared of the judgement day or the qabr kay aazaab..i am completely shattered and so is my faith.

[Faqeeh]

Asalam-O-Alaikum,

I am a new member here and i just wanted help of those who have proper knowledge about Islam in these forums.

I think that my faith has faded away completely, I have stopped praying and reciting the Quran completely and even if i have a thought that i should pray there is another feeling that it doesn't matter because every time i have prayed and asked for something, something completely opposite of that has happened to me; I wouldn't have been hurt if the dua would not have been fulfilled but something opposite to happen is completely demoralizing . Since 18-20 years or so i have been waiting for the answers to my prayers and some ray of hope but nothing has yet happened and hence i don't believe in anything anymore. I also know that nothing will ever get me to get my faith back now, i hate the fact that i am alive, i hate that i believed that something will ever happened and change my life all together, i hate that i kept my hope alive and i just want to die and i don't know what to do...there are times i want to run away and go to some place where i don't have to face anyone...but for now the situation is such that even when i think of praying something makes me not believe and forget about praying...some people said its test but what kind of test is this and i really don't mind failing this test because i am not a prophet i am just a human being, my tests started when i was a little kid and didn't have the ability to think properly and i was hit by demoralizing things one after the other without any breaks...after thinking of the way my life has been ever since i can remember i feel i am right to have decided and understood that its better to get rid of this faith and life my life without getting scared of the judgement day or the qabr kay aazaab..i am completely shattered and so is my faith.

Salam aylikum,

cheer up sister/brother I've seen people recover mentally and physically from very difficult situations and I dont think your situation is worse then that of a man who got hit by a grenade and doctors had to keep his intestines together during the run to the operating table.

Whatever it is that you have come across in your life, you need to look beyond it and you might have had more setbacks than some of us but it doesnt mean it will stay like that. It will only stay like that when you dont undertake anything to change it.

I dont want to get too philosophical with you but get the right councel brother/sister and I am very sure you will be fine. Just signing up to this forum and admitting or confessing this is a step in the right direction.

Wasalam

[abulayl]

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[Taymullah]

Faith is certain to fade away if it is only upheld in the hope of gaining worldly benefits, such as wealth, fame and honor. True faith however is based on love and is incorruptible and enduring. Please consult Shaykh Zulfiqar Ahmad's English edition of Ishq Ilahi: http://tasawwuf.org/writings/love_allah/index.htm

[Rahmaniyyah]

Asalam-O-Alaikum,

I am a new member here and i just wanted help of those who have proper knowledge about Islam in these forums.

I think that my faith has faded away completely, I have stopped praying and reciting the Quran completely and even if i have a thought that i should pray there is another feeling that it doesn't matter because every time i have prayed and asked for something, something completely opposite of that has happened to me; I wouldn't have been hurt if the dua would not have been fulfilled but something opposite to happen is completely demoralizing . Since 18-20 years or so i have been waiting for the answers to my prayers and some ray of hope but nothing has yet happened and hence i don't believe in anything anymore. I also know that nothing will ever get me to get my faith back now, i hate the fact that i am alive, i hate that i believed that something will ever happened and change my life all together, i hate that i kept my hope alive and i just want to die and i don't know what to do...there are times i want to run away and go to some place where i don't have to face anyone...but for now the situation is such that even when i think of praying something makes me not believe and forget about praying...some people said its test but what kind of test is this and i really don't mind failing this test because i am not a prophet i am just a human being, my tests started when i was a little kid and didn't have the ability to think properly and i was hit by demoralizing things one after the other without any breaks...after thinking of the way my life has been ever since i can remember i feel i am right to have decided and understood that its better to get rid of this faith and life my life without getting scared of the judgement day or the qabr kay aazaab..i am completely shattered and so is my faith.

Assalamu 'alaykum sister,

It is obvious you know and believe the teachings of Islam are true else you would not have taken the time to ask for advice regarding it.

Our Creator, the one who is closer to us than our jugular vein, the one who knows our deepest desires and secrets says:

"O my Servants who have transgressed against their souls! Despair not of the Mercy of Allah: for Allah forgives all sins: for He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful." (az-Zumar 39:53)

There are many examples of people in the past who were so far from Allah, and then they repented and they became the greatest awliyaa'. It is not too late.

Allah listens to ALL du'as and they are accepted in one of three ways:
1. Immediately in the dunya
2. Later on in this dunya
3. Allah will substitute the request with something much greater in the Aakhirah.

Really the third category is the most rewarding since any reward of the aakhirah is incomparable to that of this world - hence this may be taken as a sign of Allah's love for you. If you think, the Prophets (AS) went through the greatest of trials but they were the closest and most dearest to Allah; so it is for this reason we measure Allah's love for us by the trials He puts us through; to the extent that the saints of the past would become worried if no trial would befall them!!

Keep that in mind and I would advise you to do the following practically:

Firstly soldier yourself back into the routine of 5 daily Salah. Just do it. The Salah are the basis around which a Muslim's life revolves - we gain strength from this connection with Allah, even if we are too short-sighted to realise this.

And secondly continuously recite the shahaadah and constantly recite this beautiful du'a taught in the Qur'an, focusing on the meaning (they will increase your Certainty inshaAllah and reaffirm your Iman):

رَبَّنَا لَا تُزِغۡ قُلُوبَنَا بَعۡدَ إِذۡ هَدَيۡتَنَا وَهَبۡ لَنَا مِن لَّدُنكَ رَحۡمَةًۚ إِنَّكَ أَنتَ ٱلۡوَهَّابُ

"Our Lord! Let not our hearts deviate (from the truth) after You have guided us, and grant us mercy from You. Truly, You are the Bestower," (aal-'Imraan 3:8)

[shahpertun]

Thank you all for your replies, it already felt very comforting reading them...but seriously i have no strength left to do anything..i feel as if i am already died from withing...its just the external part working. Mashallah i have everything materialistic cars, wonderful house, respect, money...by the grace of Allah my father's job is also that in which he gets respect..but even then i am unhappy...so i know its not the materialist satisfaction that i want because i have it already (Mashallah Mashallah) but i just can't keep my hand to what is lacking in my life and i want it so badly that by not getting it i have become so irritated with life, so short tempered, lost my faith...even when i am scared of the consequences of this in the Qabr but i am so dissapointed with life and feeling so suffocated but i just want to get rid of me...i keep on crying the whole day, or i just get angry at stuff for no reason i just know i'll die miserably...there's no motivation to pray for some reason, no hope no nothing..i feel hollow..weird i can't even find the words to express myself.

[abu_ubaida23]

Asallaamualaykum,

sister if you don't mind, what is it that is troubling you? Maybe someone wise/knowledgeable on this forum could help you deal with it... cheer up

[TALHA6K]

I guess we have a lot in common, except for the fact that I am able to overcome with such feeling by using certain knowledge and reasoning that I acquired through eavesdropping on Tariq Jameel's, Sheikh Feiz's, and Jamal Badawi's lectures. Regardless, I would like to give you free valuable tips for you to cure your disease:
1) Never look people above yourself, yet always look for people below you; you will feel comfortable in mood and thankful to your creator.
2) Realize that nothing can come into existence by itself. If humans spend there full intellect, effort, and might to touch the surface of moon, then just imagine who could have created the moon itself; let alone the sun!
3) Try to observe the beauty of everything and not it's flaws, for flaws are in nature of every existence--fashioned in a deliberate manner--that belongs to the Earth, to say the temporary life, and to remind it's viewer that life on Earth is the one of flawed nature and if that itself consists of marvels so amazing so imagine not what beholds the life after so called life.
4) If you have not fallen in love yet, then this doesn't apply to you, but I'll say it regardless since there might be more people trying to relate their life with your problems. Love i define as extremism in awe, which itself is a feeling of peak emotional state that may erase the difference between pleasure and pain for your brain. A person who had experience such feelings can define and witness the lust for life, and believe it or not, it's the lust for life that forms the infinite loop of living life and makes life keep going. So yeah I pray that lord make me fall in love everyday so my emotions make me not blue but rather make me feel strong and provide me with the strength and stamina of the lover to achieve tasks which might be in my interest, if not the mankind. I guess i'll leave it to that!
My philosophies doesn't have to apply for all, but it does to me. I am always open for new information and ideas. And hey I know you are smiling

[Hamza81]

Asalam-O-Alaikum,

I am a new member here and i just wanted help of those who have proper knowledge about Islam in these forums.

I think that my faith has faded away completely, I have stopped praying and reciting the Quran completely and even if i have a thought that i should pray there is another feeling that it doesn't matter because every time i have prayed and asked for something, something completely opposite of that has happened to me; I wouldn't have been hurt if the dua would not have been fulfilled but something opposite to happen is completely demoralizing . Since 18-20 years or so i have been waiting for the answers to my prayers and some ray of hope but nothing has yet happened and hence i don't believe in anything anymore. I also know that nothing will ever get me to get my faith back now, i hate the fact that i am alive, i hate that i believed that something will ever happened and change my life all together, i hate that i kept my hope alive and i just want to die and i don't know what to do...there are times i want to run away and go to some place where i don't have to face anyone...but for now the situation is such that even when i think of praying something makes me not believe and forget about praying...some people said its test but what kind of test is this and i really don't mind failing this test because i am not a prophet i am just a human being, my tests started when i was a little kid and didn't have the ability to think properly and i was hit by demoralizing things one after the other without any breaks...after thinking of the way my life has been ever since i can remember i feel i am right to have decided and understood that its better to get rid of this faith and life my life without getting scared of the judgement day or the qabr kay aazaab..i am completely shattered and so is my faith.

Asalaam wr wb, sister happiness and contentment of the heart ONLY lies with Allah! Whether we gain this happiness and true contentment really depends on how obedient we are to Allah's commandments! Remember everything that is good comes from Allah and everything bad that happens comes from us and our own doings! My sister in Islam Allah tests his creations in MANY different ways! He may test us in any aspect of our lives! He says in the Qur'an aswell that do you think that you will not be tested? What is the point and purpose of life if we are not to be tried and tested by Allah! Allah just wants to see how we will react when were tested! Will we go closer to shaythan or closer to Allah? Why should we let shaythan win? For Allah tests a person so that he may bring them closer to him!Who were tested the most? The prophets! Do you know why? Because they were the best of all creation!So the more Allah tests us the more he wants us to be closer to him because Allah is with the ones who are patient! Subhanallah

It is shaythan who wants you to become closer to him and will u let him? He ONLY wants your destruction! We make dua to Allah thinking that Allah does not listen to our prayers but OF COURSE HE DOES! He ALWAYS has something better in store for us: Consider this:

A man will appear in front of Allah on qiyamat and Allah will show him mountains of good deeds that he has done! The man will say, "Oh Allah i do not remember doing so many good deeds! When have i done all of this?"
Allah will reply, "Do you remember all those times you made dua to me and you thought i never accepted your prayers? Well these are the rewards of all the prayers i never accepted in your lifetime"! The man replied, "Oh Allah i wish you NEVER accepted ANY of my duas and gave me all of the reward in the hereafter"! SUBHANALLAH

Allah always has something better in store for people who are decieved by shaythan into thinking that Allah is rejecting their prayers! It is shaythan who has been deceiving you for so long! It is shaythan who wants to make you lose faith in Allah and make give up all hope! It is shaythan who wants to see your destruction! Will u let him do this to you and win? Will u let him jeapordise your imaan?

You know in life there are many things that we may ask for and we think it is best for us but Allah ALWAYS knows whats best for us and he always has something better in store for us because we are his beloved creations! Look at how much Allah has blessed you with a comfortable life with wealth,shelter,family,food on a plate everyday etc and look around the world and see how many people have NONE of this! How much Allah has blessed us and are we appreciative? We should look around us in the world and see how fortunate we really are then we will never feel so down about our own lives!

My sister Allah has not asked us for much in this life compared to what he's got on offer for us in the hereafter! Allah has just asked us for full obedience to him for a short amount of time and in return for this he has promised us eternal bliss! Is'nt that an amazing offer? On top of that Allah has given us everything we need, life,shelter,wealth,food,clothing i can go on and on on the favours of Allah!

Allah just wants the best for us and he shows us in the Qur'an that rightousness is the path to success in this world and the next! This life for us can end at any time sister as we have seen for ourselves people dying around us and we know how temporary life is and if we waste our lives further then we will surely regret it on qiyamat because we will ask Allah for one more chance but it will be too late because Allah will say have i not given you enough chances in this world to change? We get soo many chances from Allah everyday but yet again and again we don't take those chances and one time we might not get anymore! So its best for us to change now and strive to abide by the commandments of Allah and go closer to him because he is our beloved creator and he knows whats best for us we don't! If your dua does not get accepted then you should be patient and know that Allah wants the best for you and he has something MUCH better in store for you and just because he has not shown you yet it does'nt mean that you listen to shaythan and give up hope in him and lose faith because you will get BETTER than what you asked for but you have to persever in patience because Allah is with those who are patient and if you should always keep in your mind that he knows whats best for you because he created us so obviously he knows MUCH better than us what is best for us!What we think is best for us is NOT the case at all because we just human! We always think we know whats best for us but we clearly don't sister!

Our duas should be for our betterment. If Allah(swt) feels that what we ask for will harm us then He will not grant us our wish. A child who has no sense of what is harmful often cries and weeps asking him mother to let him play with a knife. The mother knows that he can cut himself and thus expose himself to pain if he is given the knife and hence does not fulfill his request. Similarly we often ask for things that are actually indeed harmful to us. Due to our limited wisdom we cannot assess the harmful effects of it but Allah(swt) in His Divine Wisdom knows of it and thus in order to protect us, He does not fulfill our request.

Now, as for man, when his Lord trieth him, giving him honour and gifts, then saith he, (puffed up), “My Lord hath honoured me.”

But when He trieth him, restricting his subsistence for him, then saith he (in despair), “My Lord hath humiliated me!” – [Quran 89:15-16]


We don't know how much time we have left so we should NOT dwell on our past or bad experiences etc because it will do us no good! Being depressed or down about life and losing hope and faith will NEVER benefit us but cause our doom! If we think to ourselves that life is too short to be down or lose hope and faith and that i should spend most of my time working for the next life then this is the best way to live our lives because what is the point of investing time and efforts in this world when those efforts are for something that is temporary and could end at ANYTIME! Why not spend our time and efforts on the hereafter which is for ETERNITY and any investment we put into the hereafter will benefit us forever and we will wreak the rewards for eternity!

We all have done mistakes in our life that we wish we can get a time machine and do things differently! We wish we could go back and change things so that things could have been different but what is the point of thinking this way? We are wasting even more time thinking this way when we could be using the precious time that we have in doing things better now and the future because thats what really counts!Lets move on and NOTthink and dwell about the past because our life experiences make us who we are and make us wiser people! Sometimes in life we have to learn the hard way becaue the hard way is the best way to learn at times and we have to just accept whats happened and move on because life goes on but we don;t know for how long! We have to realise how precious time is! Death will NEVER be moved forward it will happen at EXACTLY the time it is appointed for and this is something that should really make us realise that we can really DIE AT ANY TIME! So lets forget the past now and move on and do the BEST we can now and the future in pleasing Allah and trying to be the closest to him and repenting our past sins because if we repent with full sincerity with the intention of NEVER doing it again then Allah almighty will forgive us inshallah thats how merciful he is!

One of the main reasons why your feeling like this is due to a lack of knowledge of Islam! Knowledge always makes things clearer to us! Once you gain more and more knowledge of Islam then your imaan(faith) will increase inshallah and you should also try to keep up your namaz as it is the most important aspect of Islam after faith and it is the first thing we will be questioned for!Also do loads of zikr(rememberance of Allah) and read the Qur'an because thesse are the best ways of gaining Allah's pleasure and pure contentment and happiness in our hearts and in these ways your imaan will increase inshallah and you will think differently in regards to this life and ones purpose and the reasons for many things!You will also know that Allah ONLY wants the best for us and that he has something better in store for us and all he wants is for us to be patient and continue to have full hope and yaqeen in him!
Then everything will become clearer sister i promise you! Because learning knowledge of Islam will opens up our eyes more wider than they currently are and sincere worship of Allah will bring contentment in our hearts aswell as happiness!

Lets make the best of every second we have now and NOTwaste it anymore! Lets learn as much as we can about our beautiful way of life because it is truly amazing and has perfect wisdom in it!Once we become closest to Allah we will feel more amazing than we have EVER imagined because Allah says that you will NOT find contenment and true happiness in money or anything else but you will ONLY find true contentment and happiness in me and NOTHING else!

Sister we must be sure that what we wish for is halal and not haram. We must have faith in Allah(swt) and know that He will fulfill that which is good for us. Our intentions should be pure and the dua should be made with humility and sincerity. It is important for us to refrain from that which is haram and follow the commands of Allah(swt) as strictly as we can. Losing faith in Allah(swt) is harmful only for us for He needs not that we have faith in Him but we need him!Without his help and guidance we are doomed forever and sister trust me we do NOT want to experience a second of torture of the grave or Hell! Prayers that are unanswered in this world are deferred to be rewarded GREATLY for in the Hereafter. Most importantly, we must recognize that Allah(swt) tests us and thus should practice patience during such times.

We also know that a Dua of a believer is never wasted. If our dua is not granted and we are patient then Allah (SWT) either turns away some evil that was going to inflict us, or Allah (SWT) reserves its rewards for the hereafter. On the day of judgement when we see the huge rewards we get for our Dua's not being answered, we will wish none of our Dua's got granted on earth! So even if our Dua in not answered in this life we should hope for its rewards in the next.

One of the main purposes of Dua is that we have an attentive heart towards Allah (SWT). That we turn to Him and acknowledge His Power. This however requires patience, purity and sincerity. We need to call out to Allah (SWT) with a sincere heart, for verily Allah (SWT) does not accept any Dua made from a neglectful heart. How sincere is our heart? Right now the choice is ours!

I have attached a file for you to download and inshallah it will help you to increase you imaan, it is "10 ways how a person can increase their imaan(faith)" and i hope you find it very helpful and beneficial inshallah! If theres anything else you need sister or need to know or any help you need then pls don't hesitate to ask! Hope i have helped! Take care! Allah hafiz

[Rahmaniyyah]

Thank you all for your replies, it already felt very comforting reading them...but seriously i have no strength left to do anything..i feel as if i am already died from withing...its just the external part working. Mashallah i have everything materialistic cars, wonderful house, respect, money...by the grace of Allah my father's job is also that in which he gets respect..but even then i am unhappy...so i know its not the materialist satisfaction that i want because i have it already (Mashallah Mashallah) but i just can't keep my hand to what is lacking in my life and i want it so badly that by not getting it i have become so irritated with life, so short tempered, lost my faith...even when i am scared of the consequences of this in the Qabr but i am so dissapointed with life and feeling so suffocated but i just want to get rid of me...i keep on crying the whole day, or i just get angry at stuff for no reason i just know i'll die miserably...there's no motivation to pray for some reason, no hope no nothing..i feel hollow..weird i can't even find the words to express myself.

Seriously if you get back into your routine of praying, reading Qur'an regularly etc, you will feel alive again - remembrance of Allah IS what gives life hearts and distancing away from His remembrance is what will cause you to feel like this. That is what is missing.