If suicide isn't a escape, where is the escape?

[Abu Shuja'ah]

Sister you sound well off, however, I don't understand your problem. You don't feel loved by your mom and you can't a find the perfect husband?

Sister, you don't marry someone because you 'feel they are right', you marry them to please Allah(swt), you love this person for the sake of Allah(swt).

I've been through domestic violence and a lot of more pain, but all of those things have brought me closer to my deen, in your case it seems you are very close to your deen but have begun to question things.

Islam does encourage us to ask questions, but when we start doubting our faith, then we need to hold up and see where this doubt is coming from. The truth is all we can tell you is to stick to Islam, however why would you want to kill yourself?

Tomorrow, in the morning, after Fajr Salaat, go outside and sit down, drink a cup of warm tea, watch the sun rise, hear the birds chirping, see the sky turn a hazy red, watch the world come to life, then think. Life is beautiful and we fail to see so, all we see are shortcomings and that's bad for us.

Remember sister, a life is not worth enjoying if there is no struggle in it, you have a struggle, you have a reason, you have Islam.

Allahu Alam

[Colonel_Hardstone]

Asslamo Allaikum,

Subhanullah!

There is a good looking professional educated practising Brother who has been going through the same thoughts for a while.

He stopped praying and things took their toll on him but Alhumdolillah he is getting married in a few weeks.

We are all humans and we are all affected by ups and downs. The trick is to "Keep going"...You may get your toes burnt along the way but evertime you fall down you gotta get up and keep going.

This life is a test and in the grand-scale of things a "short test"....Trust me it doesn't feel like it when you are undergoing a test but detach yourself and look at it and you will see that its short (in duration).

Its basic human nature and desire to be loved and we all need it from time to time.

Turn to Allah (SWT) with your anguish and your needs as there is NONE who can cure and none can provide except Allah (SWT).

We (ALL 1.3 BILLION OF US) LOVE YOU and every single one of our brothers and sisters. We (ALL 1.3 BILLION OF US) are your family Insha'Allah.

I would advise you to do one thing:

1) Read La Hawla Wala Qu-watta illa billah 100 times or as many times as you can as Prophet (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) has stipulated that this will wash your anxieties and sorrows...

Make a schedule (routine) of reading above and believe me you will feel the difference, Insha'Allah.

And DON'T LET SHAYTAAN MESS with your head you sound like a good person to let Shaytaan win!!!

[Colonel_Hardstone]

Read La Hawla Wala Quwatta Illa Billah 100 times or as many times as you can and it will help with Sorrow, grief, depression or anything else, Insha'Allah.

حدثنا ‏ ‏أبو بكر بن أبي شيبة ‏ ‏حدثنا ‏ ‏محمد بن فضيل ‏ ‏وأبو معاوية ‏ ‏عن ‏ ‏عاصم ‏ ‏عن ‏ ‏أبي عثمان ‏ ‏عن ‏ ‏أبي موسى ‏ ‏قال ‏
‏كنا مع النبي ‏ ‏صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏ ‏في سفر فجعل الناس يجهرون بالتكبير فقال النبي ‏ ‏صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏ ‏أيها الناس ‏ ‏اربعوا ‏ ‏على أنفسكم إنكم ليس تدعون أصم ولا غائبا إنكم تدعون سميعا قريبا وهو معكم قال وأنا خلفه وأنا أقول لا حول ولا قوة إلا بالله فقال يا ‏ ‏عبد الله بن قيس ‏ ‏ألا أدلك على كنز من كنوز الجنة فقلت بلى يا رسول الله قال قل لا حول ولا قوة إلا بالله ‏
‏حدثنا ‏ ‏ابن نمير ‏ ‏وإسحق بن إبراهيم ‏ ‏وأبو سعيد الأشج ‏ ‏جميعا ‏ ‏عن ‏ ‏حفص بن غياث ‏ ‏عن ‏ ‏عاصم ‏ ‏بهذا الإسناد ‏ ‏نحوه ‏

Abu Musa (RA) reported: We were along with Allah's Apostle (may peace be upon him) on a journey when the people began to pronounce Allah-o-Akbar in a loud voice. Thereupon Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) said: O people, sh mercy to yourselves for you are not calling One Who is deaf or absent. Verily, you are calling One Who is All-Hearing (and) Near to you and is with you. Abu Musa told that he had been behind him (the Holy Prophet) and reciting:" There is neither might nor power but that of Allah." He (the Holy Prophet), while addressing 'Abdullah b. Qais, said: Should I not direct you to a treasure from amongst the treasurers of Para- dise? I ('Abdullah b. Qais) said: Allah's Messenger, do it, of course. Thereupon he (the Holy Prophet) said: Then recite:" There is no might and no power but that of Allah." Saheeh Muslim

حدثنا محمد بن النضر الأزدي قال : حدثنا خالد بن خداش قال : حدثنا عبدالرزاق ، قال : حدثني بشر بن رافع الحارثي عن محمد بن عجلان عن أبيه عن أبي هريرة قال : قال رسول الله e : (( لا حول ولا قوة الا بالله دواء من تسعة وتسعين داء أيسرها الهم))

Abu Hurairah (RA) narrates that Allah's Apostle (may peace be upon him) said, "There is neither might nor power but that of Allah has cure in it for 99 diseases and the least of those is Sorrow (grief). Tabarani, Al-Mujam Al-Awsat

[reeha]

Assalamu Alaikum sister,
I understand your problem very well.Believe me it will pass just like a passing cloud inshallah.Some people's life may seem perfect to u outwardly but that is not the actual fact.Life is a struggle for most of us.Islam is all about overcoming that struggle for the sake of allah.no matter what comes our way we should not give up our deen.So sister mashallah u have strong Iman,if you pray tahajjud salath regularly definitly suicidal thoughts will get rid of ur mind.There is relief for every difficulty.
There are so many things that we want in life but we haven't got.and there are so many things we have got even without asking.Allah designs our affairs the way He wants and not the way we want it to be.Life is not the same for every1 of us.Certain things are delayed in certain people's life.It s because Allah wants to check their patience.Have sabr,Allah will reward you more than you expected.
I'll pray for you inshallah.And we are glad that you joined this forum.

[Jawad_ Khan]

Read the following books by Aarif Billah Hazrat Maulana Shah Hakeem Muhammad Akhtar Sahab Damatbarakatuhum. They will inshAllah help.



1. The Purpose of Life (Read Online) (Download)

2. A Life of Piety (Read Online) (Download)

If you can read Urdu then you can also read the urdu version of these books on the website.

[As-Sakina]

hehe... So you like saying that urglass is half full...

As Salâm Alaykum wa Rahmatullâh wa Barakâtuh

I don't understand brother ...

My glass is half full ???

I just want to say that if the sister has problems, suicide isn't the escape, the escape is to invoke Allâh ...

Explain me please

Wa Alaykum Salâm wa Rahmatullâh wa barakâtuh

[sudoku]

As Salâm Alaykum wa Rahmatullâh wa Barakâtuh

I don't understand brother ...

My glass is half full ???

I just want to say that if the sister has problems, suicide isn't the escape, the escape is to invoke Allâh ...

Explain me please

Wa Alaykum Salâm wa Rahmatullâh wa barakâtuh

'glass half full' meaning you like looking at things positively, optimistically. A glass can be half full, or it can be half empty. Someone thinking positively will see it as being half full while the negative thinker will see it half empty.

I totally agree with you, btw. In the end, Allah is the One and Only who can fulfill the aching emptiness one feels in one's life. Allah is the One who will always be there for a person, and when a person seeks Allah, Allah is there for that person. The only one we can really depend on, beg to, and receive from, is Allah.

[As-Sakina]

'glass half full' meaning you like looking at things positively, optimistically. A glass can be half full, or it can be half empty. Someone thinking positively will see it as being half full while the negative thinker will see it half empty.

I totally agree with you, btw. In the end, Allah is the One and Only who can fulfill the aching emptiness one feels in one's life. Allah is the One who will always be there for a person, and when a person seeks Allah, Allah is there for that person. The only one we can really depend on, beg to, and receive from, is Allah.

As Salâm Alaykum wa Rahmatullâh wa Barakâtuh

Barak Allâhou fik oukhti, masha Allâh.

If I'm optimistic, it's because I rely on Allâh. Of course, sometimes the faith falls : Sheitan always wants to take us away from Allâh. Solution : dikhr, dikhr and dikhr Allâh, dou'a, prayers, Quran ...

Wa Alaykum Salâm wa Rahmatullâh wa Barakâtuh

[Dhul-Qarnayn]

Salam,

Obviously you are going through a lot of pain. Many of us empathize with you even if some of us are brothers.

Allah is a certain way towards certain people because of their superior character inshallah you are one of them. Read stories of the pious they will help you hold on inshallah. Forbearance with trial has a tremendous reward.

How long have you been feeling like this? Sometimes depression goes away after a few years and life becomes more bearable. I am not a big fan of chemicals but if you are on the verge of suicide and really can't take it, take some pills.

In general, these recommendations have been given for depression:

1) Stop reading, watching TV and news. They are negative, and makes you more depressed.

2) Community service.

3) More social life.

4) Exercise

Perfect suggestions. Not to mention that watching TV, films, and exposing yourself to all the imagery in print and on the internet alters your perception and creates unrealistic standards, helping compound your troubles in finding a suitable husband.

[TiredofLife]

I just want to say thank you to all for your suggestions and advices.