Impact of culture on the choice of abortion

[Hard2Hit]

Salaams,

Consider this scenario - A girl marries someone by choice, then has a tough time with her husband who is abusive and also asks her to support both herself and him as well by getting money from her parents. She tries to correct him but doesn't succeed, and in the meanwhile she gets pregnant, and soon after conceiving she realizes that her husband wont ever correct himself and she and her offspring would be in dumps for life. And finally decides to file divorce.

This girl is not even 20 yet and no man would take her as a wife if she gets divorce and gives birth to the child she is pregnant with, because thats how her culture works. Now, given everything, would it be permissible or acceptable if she goes for abortion ? also considering that a single girl can not survive on her own in the same culture ?

Also, I've gone through the fatawa at sunnipath, according to them its only permissible if it poses a threat to girl's life literally. But the threat i'm talking about here is not her death, but the misery that she'll face for being single in rest of it.

The choice is between killing a foetus or the girl living single and in misery at the hands of society, for the rest of her life. She is 10 weeks into pregnancy.

[meelash]

Salaams,

Consider this scenario - A girl marries someone by choice, then has a tough time with her husband who is abusive and also asks her to support both herself and him as well by getting money from her parents. She tries to correct him but doesn't succeed, and in the meanwhile she gets pregnant, and soon after conceiving she realizes that her husband wont ever correct himself and she and her offspring would be in dumps for life. And finally decides to file divorce.

This girl is not even 20 yet and no man would take her as a wife if she gets divorce and gives birth to the child she is pregnant with, because thats how her culture works. Now, given everything, would it be permissible or acceptable if she goes for abortion ? also considering that a single girl can not survive on her own in the same culture ?

I don't think this is true. Shaytaan and the evil people around us are always trying to plant in our minds about what the culture is, and what "everyone else" is like, but it's not that bad. Inshaa Allah, if the girl looks among the righteous Muslims for a husband, she can find one that will marry her. Why not? It is the noble practice of the Prophet to marry even the widows.

It is the same way with marriage. If you tell my relatives that I am looking for a wife who practices Islam, wears niqaab, etc., and the wedding and walima will be simple and according to the Sharia, according to them there is no one in the whole of Pakistan that is willing to do that, because it is not in the "culture." That is not the reality of the situation.

Finally, how would having an abortion solve the situation? What, will the girl lie and not tell the next husband that she was already married? Will she not tell him that she had an abortion? So now the girl is going to ruin the next marriage right from the beginning again by starting it out with a lie.

The girl should follow the Sharia and trust in Allah. These are tests from Allah, but the reward is unbelievable. Just through the tests and patience of this single action, a person could become a wali of Allah, assuming she is performing all the other compulsory actions; it would not even be necessary to perform extra nawaafil and so on.

[Umm Sabr]

Salaams,

Consider this scenario - A girl marries someone by choice, then has a tough time with her husband who is abusive and also asks her to support both herself and him as well by getting money from her parents. She tries to correct him but doesn't succeed, and in the meanwhile she gets pregnant, and soon after conceiving she realizes that her husband wont ever correct himself and she and her offspring would be in dumps for life. And finally decides to file divorce.

This girl is not even 20 yet and no man would take her as a wife if she gets divorce and gives birth to the child she is pregnant with, because thats how her culture works. Now, given everything, would it be permissible or acceptable if she goes for abortion ? also considering that a single girl can not survive on her own in the same culture ?

Also, I've gone through the fatawa at sunnipath, according to them its only permissible if it poses a threat to girl's life literally. But the threat i'm talking about here is not her death, but the misery that she'll face for being single in rest of it.

The choice is between killing a foetus or the girl living single and in misery at the hands of society, for the rest of her life. She is 10 weeks into pregnancy.

She should consider the baby as a blessing from Allah and not opt for abortion. Remind her that there is light at the end of tunnel, I know of a woman who had two children from a previous marriage which she put up for adoption, because of a failed marraige and the need to re-marry. The children were adopted by Muslim families who provided them with much love and care.

I also know of sisters who have one or more children and have happily re-married to men who also have children from a previous marriage.

The sister's reasons for abortion are highly unlikley to materialise especially when in this day and age, more and more people are divorced with children and do eventually re-marry. Divorce is now almost as common if not more than marraige itself.

As for her surviving on her own, it is possible even with the "culture" she speaks of. I assume she is living in the west. All in all, I would say she needs to be reminded of the grave sin of abortion without reason. There are women out there who regret it for the rest of their lives, and also she may never be blessed with a child again. Even if she were to go for abortion, there are two options, medical and surgical. There are great risks in both types of abortion which could leave her organs damaged permanently and the chance of being infected leading to infertility. There is also an increased chance of breast cancer. She will also be psychologically affected by it as are most women who do this.

As a last resort, I would advise her to have the child and put it up for abortion. There are MANY MUSLIM couples out there who would love to adopt the child.