how to take care of a hyperactive child??

[mscheepers]

Salaam akykum

Does anybody have tips on how to handle hyperactive kids?
Is there a muslim parents forum i could join to adress his needs.

Any advice is welcomed.

Muhammad

[ze leetle elper]

wa alaykum salam

what exactly do you mean by hyperactive? how old is your son? what is he specifically doing that makes you think he is hyperactive?

also:

what is his diet like?
how much physical activity does he get in a day?
he is mentally challenged at home/ school or does he find it easy/ boring?
do the parents interact with the child while he is playing on a regular basis or is the child having to gain attention using his own means?
how do the parents speak to the child? Do they compromise and give way on unimportant things or do they insist he follow their words to the dot?

[mscheepers]

SALAAM ALYKUM

Well my son is six years old. And he cannot sit still.The doctor also said he is hyper but no tests done.

Diet

Likes fizzy drinks, sweets ect. I know its wrong so i am working on it.

School work

Well he can remember all the lessons. He hates to write. Struggles to write.
But understand all by just listening. Hes memory is very good.

The point is if he likes the work it gets done. But work he dont like hard to do.

And he easy to be distracted.

Playing

He likes to play alone. Does not like outside interference.

Sadly we often give in. Dos and donts rules i have been very slack on.

But lately we have been more strict in laying down rules. So he is adjusting to them.


I have noticed also if a other child anger him, he wants revenge at any cost.
He gets really angry.

Wls muhammad

[kayra]

SALAAM ALYKUM

Well my son is six years old. And he cannot sit still.The doctor also said he is hyper but no tests done.

Diet

Likes fizzy drinks, sweets ect. I know its wrong so i am working on it.

School work

Well he can remember all the lessons. He hates to write. Struggles to write.
But understand all by just listening. Hes memory is very good.

The point is if he likes the work it gets done. But work he dont like hard to do.

And he easy to be distracted.

Playing

He likes to play alone. Does not like outside interference.

Sadly we often give in. Dos and donts rules i have been very slack on.

But lately we have been more strict in laying down rules. So he is adjusting to them.


I have noticed also if a other child anger him, he wants revenge at any cost.
He gets really angry.

Wls muhammad

sister, it sounds like you're on the right path already - you've recognized some things that could improve (like diet and strictness).

However, IF it has been too much lenience that has made him this hyperactive and angry, then you should expect that it will probably take months for things to get better. If he has been allowed to get away with naughtiness for all his life, then it will be a solid part of his view of the world around him - "I can do whatever I feel like!" So, don't feel discouraged if it takes time for these new limitations to start having a positive effect on his behavior in general.

I'm one of those people who believe that small children shouldn't have sweets or fizzy drinks at all. My husband thinks I'm a Junior Diet Fascist in this respect, and insists that he and siblings grew up on sweet junk and they all turned out fine - and now he often gives our baby a few sips of fizzy drink or a small bit of chocolate. She hasn't become any more hyperactive than before... New studies appear to disprove the theory that sugar consumption is linked to hyperactivity in children.

Having said all that - nowadays natural (but annoying, or even criminal) impulses of children, teens and adults seem to be classified as "medical conditions". Nobody seems responsible for bad or uncontrolled behavior any more! I don't know how much of this is based on scientific fact, but I do know that almost ALL children are bewilderingly energetic with very short attentions spans.

In my grandparents' day, over-energetic children were sent to run around outside to "burn off" their excess energy for a few hours every day. It was accepted as a matter of course that many children needed a huge amount of strenuous physical activity every single day, or they would be uncontrollable!

Maybe your little boy needs more regular exercise? An hour of football, and another hour of swimming or climbing trees or gardening or chasing rabbits or cycling round the yard or junior kickbox classes?

Insha'Allah a few changes to his life is all that's needed to make things easier for your family.