Cure for Masturbation

[macl.2]

Drink a lot of water, what i mean by a lot of water I mean ALOT of WATER!! (or alot of liquids)
Urinating usually stops an erection and the interest of even masturbating.
and it is healthy too.

[strivingforward]

One sheki advised a brother by saying " Recite quran in your hands and spit on it, then when ever you have the urge to do it you will remember that you recited quran on your hands and that will inshallh prevent you from doing so, it like having the quran in your hands

[5M1L3Y]

Another thing I would advise is, don't drink too much milk! I mean it, cut down on cereal until your Hawwa becomes your slave, a few days ago I think I ate too much milk with my cereal and I could literally feel my heart aching in Salah, I don't think I have lust that bad for many months...

Milk increases your testosterone levels, it may be because of the hormones they put in to it.

[Abdullah the Sheikh]

If a person has been doing this sin for a long time, it will not be easy for the person to quit right away. If only he feels ashamed of doing that sin and Repents, Inshallah Allah will accept his reptence.
May Allah helps us all from staying away from this shameful sin. Ameen.

[Hubb-e-Rab]

Latest news: you can even marry a pious lady without going for four months! ;-)

Aslm, But its been observeed that without 4 months, the eeman required for basics of deen like namaz is also missing, for a huge majority of the common ummah. Yeah, the khawaas who get into madrassas or get into a shaikh's company manage, but ofcourse, for the uninterested common muslim, 4 months is a boon from Allah Paak. I am saying this with my own personal experience. So, even if the pious lady is there, lack of four months means, for a huge majority of the ummah, lack of basic deen...which naturally means huge exposure to filthy pictures etc., which are present everywhere and a susceptibility to porn!...Many even dont know masturbation is haraam ( with sex doctors advocating to enjoy it, in fact!!!)...and take it as another way for pleasure apart from the one with wife...So sir, with all due respect, you also need to consider the present state the ummah is in...before the ridicule ( I am sorry if I am wrong, but I felt there was a bit of ridicule in there).

[Hubb-e-Rab]

Aslm,

Really bhai, without the courage to mujaahida...it wont happen. People addicted to masturbation, when they have that urge, inspite of all the knowledge, knowing all of the tips( they definitely help tremendously and must be exercised with total dutifulness, of course!) they just give in to that sexual enjoyment the nafs promises! And dirty pictures start flashing in the memory and shaitaan joins the game bringing in forgotten thoughts and it becomes too enjoyable an option to lose upon! And also, the person begins to feel that it is out of his control! Of course, the lure of tauba and washing it off is there from shaitaan!

At this moment, however, one should remember..like my shaikh (Db) says, that Allah Paak never tests anybody beyond what is within his control ( This is a mafoom of Quranic verse - please correct me if I am wrong and none can deny that alright!) and do mujaahida....make oneself understand that let me die (nothing is going to happen, in fact there is a priceless sweet feeling at the end fo it!) but I wont do it. And with mujaahida, run to the nearest place where one can get a group of pious ppl, or a good friend or the masjid etc.

Moreover, this thing is not going to be a one time mujaahida and case closed. The urges repeat often, but the last mujaahida always gives the extra courage to face it this time and we have to fight it anew everytime. One careless giving in and it starts all over again.. Over a period of time, the nafs begins to get wary and stops commanding to do it. But, the consistency of mujaahida has to be maintained forever.

Its mostly on internet that it happens. So, making a list of the work for which we are intending to do on the net and visiting only those websites is important..otherwise, with lost focus, we veer off and some bad pictures here and there and the urge starts growing!

Visiting the websites in areas where there are people around and the desktop is within somebody's vision limits is also important. ( How unfortunate, if only we had fear of Allah paak watching, instead of the fear of maqlooq watching!)

Dont visit internet. Best thing. For a lot of people, internet can be easily replaced by telephone (instead of mails and chats, let it cost more, it will be pure sadaqa inshAlllah!) by a great measure. Because when a medium definitely makes us commit haraam, the medium itself becomes impermissible for us, as my shaikh says!

And of course the nooraaniyat from regular tahajjud and tasbeehaat and tilawat, takbeer e oola (inferaadi aamaal) is indispensable. Like an elder of mine says, it is the noor of the heart that suppresses the fire of the nafs. Nothing else can suppress it!

Lots of prayers. Laa haula wa laa quvvata illaa billaah..."The power to do good and refrain from evil is given by Allah Paak alone"....so lots of crying in front of the Most Merciful and He will help!

Marriage is definitely an emergency for such people. Scores of addicts have completely left the habit forever, after marriage!!! : ).....and a little bit of care to not stay away from wife for long periods, and working towards a loving relationship are also noteworthy points.

Phew!,...Those were some points I could add....will add whatever else I can, later inshAllah...may Allah Paak bless us all with taqwa!

[Colonel_Hardstone]

Assalamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh

1) Stop listening to music.
2) Stop watching ANY kind of TV, movie etc. and throw away your TV, movies and music.
3) Remove pictures from your living place
4) Don't look/listen/touch at/to non-mahram women.
5) Don't have an idle mind/body, keep yourself doing something useful either worldly, religiously or both.
6) Do not entertain erotic thoughts, when they come, do dhikrullah. (Recite the Quran.)

7) Don't use the internet when you're idle, NEVER visit websites like y**t*be. (Not even for so-called 'Islamic' reasons, as it is a generally indecent place which most often suggests haram videos on sidebar.)
8) Don't use internet/computer when alone, use public computer.
9) Avoid bad company/bad friends, keep company with pious brothers. Avoid being alone for long time periods.
10) Do not read newspapers where you know that you will encounter indecent imagery. (There are plenty of ways of keeping yourself informed in a halal way.)
11) Do not eat spicy food
12) Do not sleep on your back neither on your stomach, sleep ONLY in sunnah way

13) DO MUCH DHIKR
14) DO MUCH DHIKR
15) DO MUCH DHIKR

Completely deactivating images in Firefox: Edit -> Preferences -> Content: Remove the check at "Loading Pictures Automatically".
(You might want to add exceptions for safe websites like Sunniforum.com or Askimam.org)

Completely deactivating flash: Uninstall the Flash Player (YES, it is possible to live without flash, there are plenty of people who enjoy the web without flash.)

Anyways, these are all only measures to prevent pulling the trigger of the urge.

In effect the above measures should be a standard, every Muslim should actually already have taken precautions because many things mentioned in the above are not permissible anyway.

But keep in mind: In the same way you are able to de-activate images/flash you are also able to activate them. The real reason which keeps you from doing the bad habit is to actually have strong iman. Strong iman is the only thing which keeps you from actually doing sin when being alone.
That is why you need to strengthen your iman by the will of Allah through dhikr; e.g. read Quran.

At some time, even with all these precautions the urge might nevertheless come up because it will be a simple waswasi proposal from Shaytan.
This is the point where the actual combat starts and it is won purely by your heart fearing Allah, doing dhikrullah and simply NOT doing it.

May Allah strengthen and guide you. Amin

Wassalamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh

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• Even married people masturbate.
• I know a brother with two wives who masturbates
• People Bay’t to a Shaykh and doing all the required daily Dhik’r masturbate
• People who fast Masturbate
• People who read Qur'aan on a daily basis Masturbate

The issue needs to be understood psychologically and addressed in A MAN’S BRAIN before it can be rectified. As a man, the first and the basic concept which should be understood is “The Trigger Point”.

• What makes you get excited?
• Lack of "Halal" oppurtunties?t
• What makes you engage in this despicable habit?

Lets work backwards, a lot of men do it because they are simply bored and have nothing exciting to do with their life or simply do it out of habit when they are not even fully seeking pleasure. The solution to this issue is to ENGAGE in constructive and fruitful pursuits and ensure that the man has NO FREE TIME to be spending in this non-sense.

Those are not married should get married. The other issue is that a lot of Brothers are married but their spouses are either unable to fulfil their “Halal desires” fully or are deficient in the matter and the solution is to discuss the matter. Take a second wife where possible and where the solution is not there and for a married people there is no solution EXCEPT to practise Rada-Bil-Qadha (be satisfied with your destiny) and adopt Taqwa. Accept what Allah (SWT) has written in your destiny and seek Shariah compliant solutions (i.e. ask the first wife to modify her behaviour, take a second wife or simply be patient because none of those two are options).

The top issue is “excitement” where you may be engaged in Haram activity and lustful gaze etc and the solution there is to know what excites you and every man deep down knows this and the trick is to AVOID those situations, constantly turn to Allah (SWT) for protection and safety.

Every man needs to understand why he practises in this despicable act and be honest and come clean. Once he comes clean then the solution is easy.

The issues of women masturbating are more emotional and longing for support and desire to be loved and cherished. And there are many many Muslimahs who are married, pious and practising but Masturbate. Again, they need to questions themselves and come clean and in general its easier for Muslimahs to STOP then men because women usually don't resort to despicable habit as a first method of dealing with issues.

The first and the most basic step is to NOT BE ALONE for both Muslims and Muslimahs. You will see this single trait in almost of those who masturbate that they generally lack good enjoyable company and have a lot of time on their hands.

[BakrSulayman]

There is a hadeeth that narrated like "Nikah completes the Imaan". So when Imaan gets completed, bad thoughts gets vanished, precautions still are recommended to stay away from it.

But the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Whoever amongst you cannot marry, then he should fast. Because fasting diminishes sexual urges."

To prevent masturbation, you need to prevent all the routes that lead to it. But more importantly you need to train your nafs like a child, whenver you get the thought then immediately prevent it from continuing. That's the key.

[sunshineheaven]

dear all
asalam o alikum
in my point of view following are the major contributing factors to this habit

1 bad company
2 lack of attention at home
3 taking about sex or asking any one for proper guidance in our youth was considered to be sin
4 parents (father) especially never guided his growing son, about the physical changes he is having or going to go through
5 teachers / religious scholars never discuss this important issue in the public or teach their pupils about this damaging habit

this bad habit can lead to many other horrible sins and habits which one regrets for ever

our ulamas/ teachers/ parents/ elders shall openly talk to younger generation about natural changes in body of a male and female and properly guide them, for a beter mental health, better physical health, better emotional control, above all remedy for every sexual sin is early age marriage (15 to 18)

so request every one to talk to their children ( male / female) for them to become good Muslims, good citizens,
as healthy minds keep healthy body

ALLAH PAK TAMAM LOGUN KEY HIFAZAT KAERY OR SUB KO SEDHA RAASTA DEKHAEY

[Abu_Bilal]

Assalam Alaikum.

Brother Hubb-e-Rab, both of your posts were very good and worth reading. Whatever you wrote, is exactly what goes on with a person. JazakAllah Khairan.