I posted this in an older thread but it got buried:
I have been thinking about giving bay'ah to Shaykh Zulfiqar for about four years now and I feel that I have already delayed too long. I just have a few concerns and I was hoping if there are any of the Shaykh's mureeds in New York could we request the mods to allow us to get in touch via e-mail, instant message or phone so I can ask some questions?
I have been moved most when reading the English translations of Shaykh Zulfiqar's writings available on the Tasawwuf website, and also when listening to his khalifah Shaykh Husain Abdul Sattar's talks. I have never met either of them. I feel that I should give bay'ah to one of them. However, I am located in New York. I know Shaykh Ahmad Arshad is the khalifa in NY; any mureed who can help me get in touch/introduce me?
Is it more appropriate for me to try to give bay'ah with one of the Shaykh's khulafaa or with the Shaykh himself? Which one is "better"? I realize Shaykh Zulfiqar is very busy and has thousands of mureedin and don't want to waste his time. Not only this, but my present circumstances do not allow me to travel to meet any Shaykh which I feel is the most appropriate way to seek bay'ah. Is it ok to give bay'ah over the phone or in a letter? It seems that that would be kind of rude.
I would also prefer to do this discreetly and not make it known to most people that I have given bay'ah, so would that be ok, or would I have to make it known to family, friends, etc?
Is it normal to feel apprehensive about giving bay'ah? I've been putting it off for so long because I just am unsure about what exactly it would entail.
If one is the mureed of a shaykh, is it appropriate to ask for advice on worldly matters or should one only ask about spiritual matters (there are some worldly issues that have spiritual implications)?
I currently have some awraad that I try to carry out every day; if I become a mureed, would I have to give them up?