What do you think of Muslim Online Marriage Sites and Dating? Halal or Haram?

[strivingforward]

In My opinion Muslim Dating And Marriage Online sites are no good at all. Its the same as dating but it is done online.

[AffanR]

It is an other big fitna.

[Abu Zakariya Yahya]

In My opinion Muslim Dating And Marriage Online sites are no good at all. Its the same as dating but it is done online.

It depends on the actions and intentions of the two people doing it. It is possible that a family may look for a mate for their daughter through this way.
And in turn everything would be considered halal, because the two people never spoke together privatly. Obviously this is kind of rare in this day and age, but that doesn't change its ability to do good for the person wanting good.

[Jahid]

It depends on the actions and intentions of the two people doing it. It is possible that a family may look for a mate for their daughter through this way.
And in turn everything would be considered halal, because the two people never spoke together privatly. Obviously this is kind of rare in this day and age, but that doesn't change its ability to do good for the person wanting good.

Nicely said!
So funnyto say that a family´d be looking for a ´mate´...
I am not at all an advocate for these marriage sites, I think it´s not nice at all, but what you say is true, and maybe some people have ended up with a happy marriage because of a website like it. Especially for reverts or people without family or social contacts.
I would never use a site like that.

[Was_tha_musafir]

Salaam

but if some1 has told there parents i am going on the site to look for a spouse, and al other avenues have been tried, then if there parents are just keeping an eye on them, and the people using the site, are just strictly on there to find a spouse i dont see the harm in it,

yes if u are using it for a different purpose then it is


it all depends upon intentions and actions, as it is increasingly getting more difficult for the youth who want to marry

[strivingforward]

Aslamu Alikum
Muslim dating sites are a big issue espicially to the muslim community, To my understanding in a Muslim dating site a female and a male post pictures of them selfs seeking a spouse. They also engage in chats with each other, I am not saying weather its halal or haram. But it seems so wrong Yes its understandable that when a person is seeking a spouse they look through many resources but to go on to a Muslim dating/marriage site seems to be an extreme approach, I mean its so risky , by risky i mean you'll face many fitna looking at pictures of females and when engaging in the chat rooms you come across shytan who can cause you to change the subject to a bad/Haram topic or even you can be chatting to the point where you lose time of prayer or you may chat until midnight. All this goes the same to the female. In my opinion marrigae sites are a harm to a muslim spiritually and physically, physically meaning you may get addicited.

[Abdullah Ibn Adam]

It doesn't work, seriously.

[Abu Zakariya Yahya]

It doesn't work, seriously.

It may not have for you, but for others it may. Especially for converts who have more difficulty in marrying then born Muslims, especially born Muslims who wont marry outside their race, Sometimes converts have to rely on alternative means to obtain that which is halal.
If Marriage sites are haram(absolutely) then so are many other things out of the principle that something may lead to haram so it is haram completely. If someone uses this concept then the Internet would haram, driving a car would be haram, living in an apartment building would be haram, etc...
But this is not the case, and not the principle. Something is haram if haram is done with that thing. Something is halal if halal is done with it. YES marriage website MAY lead to haram, Addiction, seeing pictures of the opposite sex, HOWEVER if the people fear Allah and know that he is watching they would look for that which is beneficial for their hereafter, a women specifically shouldn't post her pictureand contact should be done through the wali of the girl.

[Riyad]

It may not have for you, but for others it may. Especially for converts who have more difficulty in marrying then born Muslims, especially born Muslims who wont marry outside their race, Sometimes converts have to rely on alternative means to obtain that which is halal.
If Marriage sites are haram(absolutely) then so are many other things out of the principle that something may lead to haram so it is haram completely. If someone uses this concept then the Internet would haram, driving a car would be haram, living in an apartment building would be haram, etc...
But this is not the case, and not the principle. Something is haram if haram is done with that thing. Something is halal if halal is done with it. YES marriage website MAY lead to haram, Addiction, seeing pictures of the opposite sex, HOWEVER if the people fear Allah and know that he is watching they would look for that which is beneficial for their hereafter, a women specifically shouldn't post her pictureand contact should be done through the wali of the girl.

With regards to this quote and your earlier post. I think it is clear the bad and 'potential' bad far outweigh the good. I mean we cant set up and accept such a method which is such a simple and efficient route for many bad actions and intentions. The initial website and concept might not be wrong, but it is an avenue to haram and fitnah.

Internet has only been heavily active and social for the past decade or so, if people can find means to get married before the internet, they can do so now without that excuse. There are many events held for reverts to go to in order to meet a spouse and aid in marriage, much more real, practical and without any hidden activities which cant be monitored or seen.

In Islam many things are prohibited / not recommended not because of the initial act or concept, but because what it can lead to further on down the road.

Its for the very same reason why having a boyfriend / girlfriend is not acceptable in Islam. Sure there may be people who have pure intentions and only want to 'get to know' the person etc, but Islam and its ruling don't allow any avenues for shaytaan and haram to get at you, and since many intentions would be impure and the majority of cases misused and people fooled into thinking their intentions are pure / exploiting the situation, it is therefore not acceptable in Islam to have a boyfriend / girlfriend. The bad far outweighs the good. I think the same can be applied here.

[seeker247]

With regards to this quote and your earlier post. I think it is clear the bad and 'potential' bad far outweigh the good. I mean we cant set up and accept such a method which is such a simple and efficient route for many bad actions and intentions. The initial website and concept might not be wrong, but it is an avenue to haram and fitnah.

Internet has only been heavily active and social for the past decade or so, if people can find means to get married before the internet, they can do so now without that excuse. There are many events held for reverts to go to in order to meet a spouse and aid in marriage, much more real, practical and without any hidden activities which cant be monitored or seen.

In Islam many things are prohibited / not recommended not because of the initial act or concept, but because what it can lead to further on down the road.

Its for the very same reason why having a boyfriend / girlfriend is not acceptable in Islam. Sure there may be people who have pure intentions and only want to 'get to know' the person etc, but Islam and its ruling don't allow any avenues for shaytaan and haram to get at you, and since many intentions would be impure and the majority of cases misused and people fooled into thinking their intentions are pure / exploiting the situation, it is therefore not acceptable in Islam to have a boyfriend / girlfriend. The bad far outweighs the good. I think the same can be applied here.

Assalamaualykum wa rahmatullah wa barakatuhu,

well said brother riyadh..
one has to be very careful,no matter how pious for the satan is always waiting...one may start something with the right niyyah but there is a risk he/she may slip and the niyya gets contaminated.


may Allah taala guide us to what pleases Him.ameen


wassalamualykum