Marrying the widow next door..

[qibla]

Assalaamoalaykum-w-w
Please brothers and sisters ... remember I had asked for advice on how to go about marrying the widow next door as i felt sorry for her kids. Anyway she said no coz she says I am too young! Later I found out that she was being supported by a community fund and this would stop! This really really hurt me deeply... so i did something stupid...coz i charged her for fixing her kids computer and she looked at me very sadly.
I feel so guilty!

[marco100]

Assalaamoalaykum-w-w
Please brothers and sisters ... remember I had asked for advice on how to go about marrying the widow next door as i felt sorry for her kids. Anyway she said no coz she says I am too young! Later I found out that she was being supported by a community fund and this would stop! This really really hurt me deeply... so i did something stupid...coz i charged her for fixing her kids computer and she looked at me very sadly.
I feel so guilty!

brother

So give the money back and say that you overcharged her. Simple

[5M1L3Y]

Give her the money back and give her more money on top as a gift.

EDIT: Tell her you were upset because she refused your marriage proposal.

[verdana]

Swiftly invest that money until you triple or earn even more; then give it all to her saying it is her money invested.

[Sulaiman84]

yeah do what they said......there's a lot of ajr and good dealings in doing so.

[qibla]

Assalaamoalaykum-w-w
Yeah! I just did what you guys told me to do and guess she was all beaming with happy! jazakAllah!
but her daughters computer broke down again!!

[Mutazili]

Salam

u cannot marry a woman just because u feel sorry for her !

u can help her in other ways and be there for her as a muslim brother !

but if you are in love with her then this is different.

u seem like a very sensitive man and that's good but you need to know when to put your foot on the brakes of your emotions

ws

[muminah]

Just remember there are many challenges with broken families.

[ssjkakarot]

Wa alaykum salam,

u cannot marry a woman just because u feel sorry for her !

Of course you can. Love can later develop. How can you love someone without even knowing them?

And what of all those sisters who say polygamy should only be done in the cases of supporting 'widows and the divorced'? If it can be done in them cases, surely there is nothing wrong with marrying a divorcee out of pity as a single guy.

[maneatinglizard]

Salam

u cannot marry a woman just because u feel sorry for her !

u can help her in other ways and be there for her as a muslim brother !

but if you are in love with her then this is different.

u seem like a very sensitive man and that's good but you need to know when to put your foot on the brakes of your emotions

ws

Then for what reason should one marry, if feeling sorry for them and their children is not valid?

Also, how would one "be there" for a non-Mahram sister? Wouldn't just "being there" be a sin in many cases (i.e. when there is no one else present).