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  • I don't know any Muslim man with an older wife!

    7 21.88%
  • I know 1 Muslim man with an older wife!

    13 40.63%
  • I know 2 Muslim men with an older wives!

    1 3.13%
  • I know 3 Muslim men with an older wives!

    11 34.38%
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Thread: Marrying a woman older then yourself

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    Question Marrying a woman older then yourself



    A thought occured to me recently. I can't recall having met anyone in my entire life who married a woman older then him. Thats an astonishing personal statistic...

    How many men do you guys know with wives older then them?

    Actually I just remembered one person and his wife was 1 year older so what I mean now is significantly older....

    Wow! Thats really spooky I don't know anyone with a significantly older wife...


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    Default Re: Marrying a woman older then yourself

    Quote Originally Posted by Colonel_Hardstone View Post


    A thought occured to me recently. I can't recall having met anyone in my entire life who married a woman older then him. Thats an astonishing personal statistic...

    How many men do you guys know with wives older then them?
    Uncle Sahib

    lol i know many!

    Many Bengalis [men and sometimes women] are duped by their spouses age when they go to get married off in BD, their spoues might look young but actaully put their ages quite dramatically down than their real age.

    Dont worry i didnt get duped lol

    p.s. you should change the q's you put out, one should have "I know many" : )

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    Default Re: Marrying a woman older then yourself



    I know at least three ladies who are significantly older than their husbands, two of them around 5 + years older, and one 12 years older than her husband.
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    Default Re: Marrying a woman older then yourself

    Quote Originally Posted by al_Zayn View Post
    Uncle Sahib

    lol i know many!

    Many Bengalis [men and sometimes women] are duped by their spouses age when they go to get married off in BD, their spoues might look young but actaully put their ages quite dramatically down than their real age.

    Dont worry i didnt get duped lol

    p.s. you should change the q's you put out, one should have "I know many" : )



    So it happens by deception and not by choice. Surely that shouldn't count for the poll should it? I mean voluntarily...

    The reason this thought occured is because a Non-Muslim at work is married to someone 15 years older then him and we know the age difference between Rasul-ullah (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) and Sayyidiyuna Khadeeja (RA).
    Last edited by Colonel_Hardstone; 06-04-2010 at 02:41 PM.


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    bro zain,did u study at UWC of the atlantic?
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    Default Re: Marrying a woman older then yourself



    I know many lol...age is just a number isn't it? I have a few friends and their older than their husbands by 1-3 yrs and there is really no difference,it was a personal choice.I also know a sister whose 8 years older than her husband and they have been married for a long while now and mashaAllah is blessed with many kids.


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    Default Re: Marrying a woman older then yourself

    I can say i know a woman who is married to a man older then him. Alhamdullilah, i dont find anything wrong with it. they r blessed with kids and living happily.
    I would prefer to marry an older woman aswell. I dont know why i want to, but thats how i feel.


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    Default Re: Marrying a woman older then yourself



    That Sunnah needs to be brought back in vogue on a larger scale.


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    Question Re: Marrying a woman older then yourself

    Quote Originally Posted by Sulaiman84 View Post


    That Sunnah needs to be brought back in vogue on a larger scale.


    Would marrying an older woman be considered a Sunnah?


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    Default Re: Marrying a woman older then yourself

    Assalamu alaikum,

    I know quite a few american women who married (muslim) middle east and north african men they met online. The vast majority are older than their husbands, which I think is simply a factor of who's online when. Young 20 something men in the middle east don't have jobs, and spend a lot of time at the internet cafes. Some actively look for american or european women to marry and get out of their country, while sometimes the relationships just develop. The women who are online are late 30 somethings through 50 somethings, so that's who they talk to and marry. A good deal of these are unfortunately scam situations, where the husband leaves his wife after a green card or citizenship (thus leaving the non muslim woman with an awful view of islam).

    But then, this is a whole tangent to the actual topic. In my (limited) understanding, marrying an older woman is not culturally acceptable in these places, but it can be overlooked because the older woman is a ticket to a potentially better life.

    Personally, I'm a few years younger than my husband. We met when I was young (for a westerner), 20, so if he was younger than me, he would have been very immature and we probably wouldn't have clicked. Being younger suits me, as I find men tend to mature more slowly than women, so with a few years age difference, we're about on the same wavelength maturity wise.

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