i am 17 year old student at mixed college
my Biggest problem there is the fitnah of women.
Though i dont really go up to girls and speak to them, whenever i have interaction especially
in class i tend to flirt and be over-friendly. i natrually smile at most people and i have quite a soft charecter so i dont know how to be a bit more like umar(ra) and just cut off all contact.
How do i stop myself from flirting.
I feel it has an effect on my iman(i use to wear a juba on fridays but for the past 6 months have not been wearing it). sometimes i fall into other bad habits that are seemingly unrelated.
And another problem is when i develop feelings for a particular person, i find it hard to get her out of my head. I try so hard i concoiusly try to stop these emotions but for some reason they just wont go.
it is fustrating to say the least. this is worse considering i am not ignorant of islam and i truely believe in its divinity, as the quran was opened up to me through the mercy of allah just under a year ago.