I hate my father.

[Ali Raza Khan]

assalamu alaikum

I hate my father becouse he makes me go away from Islam, though he is a muslim.
Is that wrong?

[SASLAMS]

BRO seek council not group discussion.

[Abdul_Wali]

just keep trying. remember you cant do anything to change him, Allah is the Turner of hearts. Keep patient and silent and make dua for him. InshaAllah you'll see your father start coming towards the deen as well. Just remember to fulfill his haqq i.e. the rights you owe him since he is your father. And never look down upon him (or anyone else for that matter). That is what Allah SWT has made obligatory upon you and this may even be your test. After some salah, dua and patience inshaAllah your father will learn from your actions and come towards the deen and maybe even implement shariah and sunnah better then you.

May Allah SWT make the deen enter in the hearts of all your family members.

[Abdul_Wali]

BRO seek council not group discussion.

brother, this is not to call you out and forgive me if you find this offensive, i only mean to give you sincere advice. But when people come and ask these kinds of questions, its better to answer them as best we can even if this only a group discussion. At least then on the Day of Judgement when Allah SWT asks us whether we helped his slave during his time of need we can reply that we at least tried.

[monkeyboy]

Salaam Brother,

If you don't mind me asking... what do you mean by "he makes you go away from Islam" ?

[SASLAMS]

brother, this is not to call you out and forgive me if you find this offensive, i only mean to give you sincere advice. But when people come and ask these kinds of questions, its better to answer them as best we can even if this only a group discussion. At least then on the Day of Judgement when Allah SWT asks us whether we helped his slave during his time of need we can reply that we at least tried.

it would be better if he did it in private with a scholar maybe on the forum, because you have no idea what sentiments could come out & then he would be gilty of ghibah of his father. we dont want that now do we. I to gave him advice. my advice was to seek council not a group discussion. would you like a bro speaking about his wife not fulfilling his needs discussed openly. well this is even more sensitive.

[abunuh]

Bismillahi’r-Rahmani’r-Raheem

Assalāmu ‘alaykum wa rahmatullāhi wa barakātuhu

Let me begin by saying I agree with all of my brothers who have advised seeking private council with a local imam or a scholar on-line. Never the less as the brother has asked for guidance in public then we have a duty to all of the readers of the thread and not just the one asking the question. Others who may not feel as strongly as the questioner but still have underlying feelings of dislike towards their father may be reading this thread for advice/counsel so they can counter or learn to deal with any such feelings.

With this in mind I would like to bring to the attention of the readers ayaat from the Quran regarding the prophet Abraham (PBUH) and the relation he had with his father who was a mushrik and also was trying to make Abraham go away from Islam as the questioner put it.


So Allah the Most High states

19/42-46

[Mention] when he said to his father, "O my father, why do you worship that which does not hear and does not see and will not benefit you at all?

O my father, indeed there has come to me of knowledge that which has not come to you, so follow me; I will guide you to an even path.

O my father, do not worship Satan. Indeed Satan has ever been, to the Most Merciful, disobedient.

O my father, indeed I fear that there will touch you a punishment from the Most Merciful so you would be to Satan a companion [in Hellfire]."

[His father] said, "Have you no desire for my gods, O Abraham? If you do not desist, I will surely stone you, so avoid me a prolonged time."
Here is Abraham (PBUH) calling his father in the best of manners to the best of ways and his father threatens him with violence. The thing to remember is that it wasn’t only his father but the whole society that Abraham (PBUH) had to deal with whereas we have other Muslims to help affirm our faith and get strength from. In such a desperate state how does Abraham (PBUH) reply, how does he respond, with hate or anger?

19-47
[Abraham] said, "Peace will be upon you. I will ask forgiveness for you of my Lord. Indeed, He is ever gracious to me.
No he replied in the best of ways by supplicating to his Lord for his father showing love and mercy against all of the hostility.

I am in no way saying that I know what any one is going through. What I am saying is that the Quran is meant to be guidance for us all so let’s take some guidance from It by reading and then acting on It.

May Allah make us of those who learn, understand, implement and then teach the Quran.

Jazākumullāhu khayran For reading I hope this has helped

[Usman]

assalamu alaikum

I hate my father becouse he makes me go away from Islam, though he is a muslim.
Is that wrong?

Don't hate your father. I know a brother whose father mentally tortured him and his mother for 40 years, till they found out he's suffering from a rare mental illness. Now they've started a treatment secretly, and the father is changed.

Another brother, whose name and works for Islam, if I write them down here, people are going to be surprised. Maulana Tariq Jameel sahib was spit at , and cursed, and kicked out of his house by that brotehr's father, the father was cursing Islam and saying kufr, but Maulana never told the brother to hate his father, rather strictly prohibited him from saying anything about Islam or religion.

From what you've written, it seems it's the common mentality of most seniors that they try to "test" your limits, they challenge you, or try to find an alternate method to "practice" islam, just so that they can be in conflict with you, it's common. But stay firm and steadfast, and insha'Allah Allah will reward you for that.

[Talhah]

assalamu alaikum

I hate my father becouse he makes me go away from Islam, though he is a muslim.
Is that wrong?

Assalamu-'alaykum wa rahmatullah

You should try to give him utmost respect and do his khidma wherever deen does not prohibits you but if your father asks for a service which is against sahria then dont at all do it rahter you should deny his order/suggestion in a polite manner and if he scolds you then still follow what is right but dont give him any aggressive reply either.(This is what a close khalifah of Hadhrat Maulana Maulana Akhtar Sahib advised a person whom i know and was in a similar situation). But keep it in mind that you should try to do his khidma upto your best otherwise if he'll see your hatred against him then he'll become even more against deen and may even start pronouncing kufr (for e.g. by hating or mocking sunnahs like beard or otehr islamic rulings).. And try to keep in contact with some good buzurg near your area for advice and even if the shaykh is living far from you, you may write him a letter or make a phone call to him or any of his close mureeds.. Wallahu A'lam

May Allah ease your case and guide your father. Ameen.

Wassalaam

[Ali Raza Khan]

Wa alikum us salam
when i want to go to dars he gets angry and says that thers also family, and not only islam.