Lol
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Its not only me who ppl bang at its anyone whos young...
Raeeesa its nothing but Takabburing katheeran jiddan
assalamu alaikum wr wb
i dont think its anything personal, i think its form of habit. Allahu Alim.
But, whenever you read something really good in deen and something very insipiring you say masha'Allah, you are even more excited or happy that it was written by a very young person with lots of knowledge and you are truly happy for that person and you continue to make dua'ah for them that they continue to be guided and read and learn more....
You think wow masha'Allah someone that young wrote that, that's amazing. I hope I can accomplish something like that, masha'Allah...
yet... when it's something not so great, like its a misunderstanding or misinterpretation, and you ask the person their age and they say im young, very young. You think 'go figure, that figures' it's cuz of their age that they are that way. They dont take them seriously because of that. I think its just form of habit, because you live in a society that says to hang out with ppl your own age. You are not told to be with ppl of all ages, young and old, it's considered weird and you're considered strange if you hang out with ppl ten years older than you or ten years younger than you. In islam we do not have that kind of boundary of where it's not normal to be that way, yet in our halaqohs we find it no problem with talking about your problems or relating with one another regardless of your age it doesnt matter it helps especially if you've grown up in this society, and you know the pressures and stresses that they are going through and that you can help them and relate and say 'i know, and understand how you feel, i remember feeling like that.' for example my family grew up in Hyderabad, India, my mom did all the right things, she didnt question anything in regards to deen or anything, just did as she was told. As if she wasn't allowed to speak her mind, she just did it. This society we are told its ok for us to ask questions and thats how we'll learn. So our generation or meaning my generation of the ppl that grew up here after our parents came here, we ask tons of stuff just so we can get to where we want to go, and we're not afraid of asking whats the proof of that and where can you find that proof? Alhamdulillah we have that courage to ask the difference between cultural things and islamic things and trying not to mix the two and getting rid of the superstitions within it.
Age doesnt really matter though I think ppl would get insulted if they were told something that they should have figured out for themselves, and especially if the person that told them is years younger than them. They'll feel insulted and also feel as if 'their way doesnt matter or that they dont know better'
Just think, what if you were praying and standing up in salat and as you finished your prayers, a little kid meaning little like 4 years old came up to you and said you made your sujud wrong, or that you were looking up in your salat and said your prayer is invalid... You would get insulted, mad as to why this child was looking at you, and despite the child's intention to give you naseeha to help you or perhaps ask of curiosity as to why since you are years older than them that you do not know this or know better that they ask you this, and you are sitting here thinking ,'the nerve of that child, who does he/she think they are? telling me not to look up in salat, i wasnt looking up.' then you find out that child is so and so age and you're like subhanAllah thats truly amazing or that's bad, disrespectful that they didnt know better to say what's good or keep quiet.
I guess it depends on the person and the situation and its different cases and different reactions. Insha'Allah I hope that we all remember Allah when we come to these situations and know that He's there and watching us and the angels on our sides are recording every letter, word that we say and everything that we are doing, our body parts are all being recorded down and written down.
So next time you come across something of where someone does something whether good or bad, the 1st thought that will come to your head, how old are you? you're what? instead say masha'Allah, alhamdulillah. May Allah reward you and help you and guide you and continue to increase your knowledge and you say i hope Allah too will continue to help me Remember Him and have mercy on us for thinking some things or doing some things that are not really helpful...
p.s. dont abuse the tongue as the tongue can benefit us with the remembrance of Allah swt and increase our knowledge with lots of dua'ah, prayers and dhikr... or it can harm us by falling into the forbidden things and saying things you regret...as it hurts..and its hard to take back once you've been stung. but it'll heal eventually.. like the cuts we've had, we heal eventually despite we are in pain when it happens... so insha'Allah i hope
and pray that this message gets across and that I apologize if I have offended anyone in anyway and I ask you to forgive me if I had, and it was not intentional and that I ask you all to pray for me as well as praying for all our muslim bros/srs in this world that they continue to remember Allah...
ameen.
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Jazakallah umme ibhi what gets me so angry is when they bring age in the middle.
Khair jazakallah wassalam
mashallah i agreed with everyhtin u said sis
especially:
I guess it depends on the person and the situation and its different cases and different reactions. Insha'Allah I hope that we all remember Allah when we come to these situations and know that He's there and watching us and the angels on our sides are recording every letter, word that we say and everything that we are doing, our body parts are all being recorded down and written down.
Sis umme ibhi is one wise person mashallah.not meaning that the resst arent
Assalamulikum WR WB,
I was wondering if a poll facility could be arranged on this forum as it would be nice to see the ages of people on here without anyone needing to reveal it explicitly.
Like how.Something like whos 17-18-19 e.t.c but not knowing who is how old? sorry if am wrong
you know like age categories and u can pick and then a funky graph comes up to show the various proportions. it would be nice to know what sort of age group this forum attracts.
Oh right nice idea. U can put it in the coments suggestions at the bot if u wish
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