allow me to give u a lil background of this question i'm about to ask you.
i have a muslim female friend who during the few years we've known each other has become more religious mashallah to the extent where i recently went to meet her to show her my new born daughter. she wudnt shake my hand saying i was a gair mard. i understood respected that and so b it.
on this other msg board we go on she was going on about how she was finding certain famous men attractive and having "thoughts" about them adn their physique.
i said that she shudnt think such thoughts as they were wrong to which she replied that it wasnt wrong to think such things as long as she didnt give into the temptations and that thoughts are thoughts nothing else.
is this true? in her case is it ok for her to think thoughts of gair mard in such a way or is she correct in sayin that its ok as long as she doesnt give into temptation.
is there anythign in the quran or hadiths regarding this?