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    An Easy Way to Control Lust
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    Bismillah, alhamdulillah wa salat wa salam ala Rasulullah

    When it comes to discussing controlling sexual urges most Muslims ignore discussion and quickly recommend the Prophetic advice of fasting. Although fasting and reducing consumption is by far the most effective way of conditioning ones body and spirit, to control sexual urges, there is no reason to limit the advice to that, especially in our day and age. This is important to investigate because some point out that when they are NOT fasting, they still have difficulty controlling their urges.

    After doing some research I came across a number of herbal alternatives that reduce male libido. Some of these have been used by monks in the past, such as chasteberry, while others have reduced libido as a side-effect. Here are some herbs that have been known to help reduce male libido:

    -Camphor
    -Hops
    -Chasteberry
    -Valerian
    -Skullcap
    -Black Liquorice
    -American Black Willow
    -Black Willow
    -Celery
    -Coca (not cocoa)
    -Garden Sage
    -Life Everlasting
    -Oregon Grape
    -White Pond Lily

    There are also some drugs like Libidno and Androease, which are available but I think there is more risk and side-effects associated with them, since they play with ones testosterone/estrogen levels. Its might not be easy to find these herbs but its worth it. GNC sells Skullcap, but I found Valerian Root the easiest to find at a local pharmacy, Shoppers Drug Mart. I tested Valerian Root out (be warned: it realllly smells!) and from what I can tell so far, it works to completely drop your libido for about 6-8 hours and also make you somewhat sleepy (its intended use is as a sleep aid).


    (I'm not trying to advertise, just to show what it looks like! You can get this in any name-brand)

    I haven’t heard Muslims discuss this option but its an easy and effective method with very little risk associated with it. Its important also to keep in mind that using these herbs over a prolonged period of time or mixing them with other herbs and medicines may create problems, so use them occassionally so that they retain their effectiveness and your body remains sensitive to their effects. Also it would be a good idea to talk to a doctor before using them, or at least do thorough research and reading on them.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TOO0psfWDhQ

    William Shakespeare – Sonnet #129

    The expense of spirit in a waste of shame
    Is lust in action; and till action, lust
    Is perjured, murderous, bloody, full of blame,
    Savage, extreme, rude, cruel, not to trust;
    Enjoy’d no sooner but despised straight;
    Past reason hunted; and no sooner had,
    Past reason hated, as a swallowed bait,
    On purpose laid to make the taker mad:
    Mad in pursuit, and in possession so;
    Had, having, and in quest to have, extreme;
    A bliss in proof, and proved, a very woe;
    Before, a joy proposed; behind, a dream.

    All this the world well knows; yet none knows well
    To shun the heaven that leads men to this hell.

    More resources on controlling lusts:

    Cultivating Himma: Guidance in Dealing with the ‘Sex Arcade Society,’ Porn and Related Fitnahs


    Purify Your Gaze Program


    Dhikr on Overcoming Desires
    You do not possess the Qur'an. It possesses you.

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    MUSLIMOLOGY: Dawah Research and Development


    Subhânaka-llâhumma wa bi-hamdika. Ash’hadu al-lâ ilâha illâ anta wahdaka lâ sharîka lak. Astaghfiruka wa atûbu ilayk.


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    All,

    An even simpler method is when you have to deal with pretty women don't think of them as women.

    Apply it to all facets of life.

    Kill the thoughts in the mind and start thinking of something else and this is the simple methodology which Monks also used when dealing with women.

    You can deal with women all day at work, college, university, Masjid and they don't affect you.

    It may sound funny but works 100% and all the time.

    And I don't mean that people should put this method to test to go out and seek a pretty woman but this is when you have to



    P.S: If this wasn't in the general section I would elaborate further but what is said so far is enough for the wise ones.


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    @Brother Dawud

    Great post mashallah.

    @Colonel

    Erm, so what am I supposed to think about then?
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    Salaams,

    The Dikr really works!!!!! Thanks Dawud. By the way, I did dikr not as a formality, but to save myself from the hell fire and become one of the true ummati of Rasulluah salallahu-alihi-wasalam.

    Also, you HAVE to think that you are powerless and all power is with Allah. I think, thats why we say "O Conquerer".
    So its Zikr with concern and a glass of cold cold water.

    Jazak-Allah
    My heart is blind and my mouth is dry,
    My eyes are poisoned; I can't seem to cry;

    O Allah! I ask thee for a new heart,
    All I am asking for, is a fresh start.

    I hate it when I can't remember you when I pray,
    So guild me to the right path, and save me from astray.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Numaan View Post
    Salaams,

    The Dikr really works!!!!! Thanks Dawud. By the way, I did dikr not as a formality, but to save myself from the hell fire and become one of the true ummati of Rasulluah salallahu-alihi-wasalam.

    Also, you HAVE to think that you are powerless and all power is with Allah. I think, thats why we say "O Conquerer".
    So its Zikr with concern and a glass of cold cold water.

    Jazak-Allah


    JazakAllah khair (Allah reward you for the good)


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    BUMP!

    Please bump for the sake of Allah!
    You do not possess the Qur'an. It possesses you.

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    Default Re: An Easy Way to Control Lust

    doesnt that mean that people who now ignore your request are sinful
    no, it doesn't.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Colonel_Hardstone View Post
    All,

    An even simpler method is when you have to deal with pretty women don't think of them as women.

    Apply it to all facets of life.

    Kill the thoughts in the mind and start thinking of something else and this is the simple methodology which Monks also used when dealing with women.

    You can deal with women all day at work, college, university, Masjid and they don't affect you.

    It may sound funny but works 100% and all the time.

    And I don't mean that people should put this method to test to go out and seek a pretty woman but this is when you have to



    P.S: If this wasn't in the general section I would elaborate further but what is said so far is enough for the wise ones.
    Well said colonel,only a wise man can give and listen to this advise, "every thing is in the mind."Sexual urge in particular",it is mostly dependent on mood,a depressed person has little or no sexual desire,a man who has many other things on his mind don,t think of sex, a tired man would keep away from even the most attractive woman and a hungry man would certainly find food much more interesting than women.
    So what is required is learning how to control your thoughts.As Colonel saab mentioned,a person can not think of two things at a time,switch off your thoughts from women and think of something else, Any thing would do,from thinking about buying a new car to the method of making a tasty chicken for dinner,just any thing,but not women. OR you may just extend your imagination skin deep,to bones,arteries,veins,Intestines (specially helpful) and what lies within.Hopefully your mind will forget even the most powerful sexual urge and the most romantic of its ideas.
    It is all a game of neurotransmitters and imagination brothers.No more, no less.
    Last edited by chathe; 14-04-2011 at 09:31 PM.


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