depression

[Raeesa]

Asalamu-alaikum wa rahmatullah

What do u do when you become extremly depressed?

[phoenix]

Assalamalikum,
When i get depressed (which is a lot often these days) I do the following and tehy always work:
1. Read as much Quran as possible. Although I have always made a point to atleast read a few aayahs everyday but when i am depressed I try to read as much as possible. The point to taht is when you are reading the Quran and it's meaning, you somehow get your answers.
2. Pray Tahajud. I dont know why but everytime i am depressed I get insomniac and so I pray Tahajud as many Rakahs as possble. Evry time I pray Tahajud I feel as if nothing in the world can touch me.
3. Pray for peace of mind and then forget about my problem because I know the almighty will take good care of me.
4. Blog and go blog hopping. cheerful people make you happy. and if some one is sad then cheering them up cheers you up.
5. Read a good book. It is better to use your time in something worthwhile rather than fretting over nonsense.
6. Take interest in others. I know most of us do but take even more interest in others, be helpful. Better to take interest in others rather tahn yourself.
7. if you are feeling bad about yourself or totally 'suicidal' (suicidal meaning 'what am i heading towards'), try writing down all the things good about you.


I can go on and on and on...so i better stop.
Wassalam

[Mossy]

I would recommend the Muslim Youth Helpline in the UK (www.myh.org.uk) for anyone who gets really bad.

I personally eat waffles or other food stuffs - it actually does work for me..

[qalbkhaalis]

Cry.

Just cry and cry and cry. Seclude yourself, force yourself to be truthful to yourself, cry to Allah and complain to Him, because He is the One Who wants to hear your complaints, sorrows, worries and sadness and He's the only One Who can actually do anything about them. Not to sound like a misnthrope, but it's true. He knows better than you do why you're feeling so miserable and He Alone knows the cure and can grant it to you.

Also, go into sujud and cry. And just keep crying. Profess your 'ubudiyyah before Allah jalla jalaaluh, and your inability to do anything of worth or benefit without His Help. Plead to Him to save you from the grave you dug for yourself and to grant you the sweetness of nearness to Him... because He is all you really want. He really is your only desire.

And remember He loves to hear His servant weep to Him. And while you're doing it, savour it. Don't stop. Just keep crying.

[Sadiq]

'what am i heading towards'

Don't stop. Just keep crying.
Don't stop. Just keep crying.
Don't stop. Just keep crying.

Best advice given by the sister.

Waffles, i would say, 'meet up' 'hook up', when i feel depressed, which is sometimes, as we all experience it, i tend to 'link up' with brothers, esp the ones with a sense of humour or who say weird things...!

try that!

[EDIT: I mean, with sisters!, link up with sisters]

[salman]

Sallamu Alaikum

-- Qala RasulAllah: rabbi ij`alni ilayka awwahan:

"Oh Allah, make me one who often cries out to you."

Narrated by Tirmidhi (book of da`awat #102, hasan sahih), Ibn Majah (Dua #2), and Ahmad with a strong chain:

-- Yahya ibn Said al-Qattan - Sufyan al-Thawri - Shuba - Amr bin Murra - Abdullah ibn Harith - Taliq ibn Qays -Ibn Abbas with the following wording:

"The Prophet used to supplicate thus: "O my Lord! help me and do not cause me to face difficulty; grant me victory and do not grant anyone victory over me; devise for me and not against me; guide me and facilitate guidance for me; make me overcome whoever rebels against me; O my Lord! make me abundantly thankful to You (shakkaran laka), abundantly mindful of You (dhakkaran laka), abundantly devoted to You(rahhaban laka), perfectly obedient to You (mitwa`an ilayka), lowly and humble before You (mukhbitan laka), always crying out and turning back to You (awwahan muniban)!...."

The wording of the hadith above uses the word Awwah, which was used to describe Hazrat Ibrahim - may my soul be his - in the verse:

-- Verily, Ibrahim is awwah and halim (9:114, 11:75)

Awwah according to Tafsir Jalalain means Crying out and suffering much, out of fear and dread of his Lord. Halim means Merciful and gentle.

وَمَا كَانَ اسْتِغْفَارُ إِبْرَاهِيمَ لِأَبِيهِ إِلَّا عَنْ مَوْعِدَةٍ وَعَدَهَا إِيَّاهُ فَلَمَّا تَبَيَّنَ لَهُ أَنَّهُ عَدُوٌّ لِلَّهِ تَبَرَّأَ مِنْهُ إِنَّ إِبْرَاهِيمَ لَأَوَّاهٌ حَلِيمٌ

"وَمَا كَانَ اسْتِغْفَار إبْرَاهِيم لِأَبِيهِ إلَّا عَنْ مَوْعِدَة وَعَدَهَا إيَّاهُ" بِقَوْلِهِ "سَأَسْتَغْفِرُ لَك رَبِّي" رَجَاء أَنْ يُسْلِم "فَلَمَّا تَبَيَّنَ لَهُ أَنَّهُ عَدُوّ لِلَّهِ" بِمَوْتِهِ عَلَى الْكُفْر "تَبَرَّأَ مِنْهُ" وَتَرَكَ الِاسْتِغْفَار لَهُ "إنَّ إبْرَاهِيم لَأَوَّاه" كَثِير التَّضَرُّع وَالدُّعَاء "حَلِيم" صَبُور عَلَى الْأَذَى

(Tafsir Jalalin verse 9:114)

Wallahu A'lam

[UmmIbrahimIsa]

Assalamu alaikum wr wb

I cry...sometimes I feel like why am i so down and sad? What is it that is making me feel this way? Can it be something I ate that made me feel down? Was it something that I didn't eat? Perhaps I need to take my vitamins or perhaps I need some type of medicine to control my depressions or moods from getting out of control or out of hand or perhaps just dealing with it by cooling it down.

I go and read a good book, curl up on the sofa... I write in my journal, blog, write a poem..a story.... cry about it to my friends... talk about it with my family of why im feeling down and wanting help...

Lots of dua'ah and dhikr and prayers... but sometimes I feel that's not enough unless I have support, at least someone or someplace to vent and talk about it of where someone says i understand how you feel sis and hang in there and it'll be ok is what I would like to hear to keep me going through the day... even though sometimes they dont understand yet they're saying that just to make me feel better, but still its them listening to it that counts that matters to me.

eating chocolate or ice cream helps me deal with being sad then again sometimes eating it makes me more sadder... dont know why.. perhaps im just weird....

my kids are my world... they totally cheer me up. My older son Ibrahim will make me a card when he sees me feeling down, sometimes he'll write a story about it and its just funny.. I start to smile at his stories because they are just hilarious, he has a great sense of humor and he will come and give me a hug and a kiss and say i love you mommy no matter what, and it doesnt matter what people say because i know you're a good mommy and that makes me feel better hearing that from him because he's wonderful and he's being honest. I will tell him that so and so person was scared of talking to me because of my bels palsy and having that i get depressed a lot because sometimes it makes me insecure, especially if im going somewhere for the 1st time i'll hear ppl calling me a freak and someone strange cuz i look the way i do and i cant help it its just the way things are and the way Allah is testing me right now on how i deal with it and how others deal with it, and im trying to be patient about it and its just soo hard because here you are accepting it cuz that's just apart of you.. whenever Allah wills you will be cured, yet some ppl are downright mean and will say things thinking you will not hear them or will think you dont understand or that you didnt hear them or will want you to hear them so they can get the message to you that they're not interested in talking to you or wanting to give you a chance cuz of appearances and that hurts...
Sometimes even my own family, my parents or my mom makes me feel that way and they say its the only way to reach out to me by getting me to improve and get better but it hurts.. how i deal with it? I cry... i vent.. i talk about it, like im doing on here...

but like i said the only thing that really gets me through the days are my kids, even my younger one will try to copy his older bro in making me a card and writing me a story too, despite i cant understand it the effort and intention matters to me and i love them for it...

[seven]

stand before your Lord in prayer

[Saleel]

I recommend the talk by Maulana Sulaiman Mulla - "Depression vs. Contentment". amazing talk.

Maulana Sulaiman Mulla - Depression vs Contentment Part 1 of 2
Maulana Sulaiman Mulla - Depression vs Contentment Part 2 of 2

Or you can watch the video of the talk here. Scroll to about half way down the page, part 1 is called Depression vs. Contenment, and part 2 is the QA session (finishes off the talk, and then goes into QA).

[Strive4Allah]

This is me not fitting it on anybody else...I never do get seriously depressed...But sometimes kind of but as soon as I remebr that we have to be happy with taqdeer and whatever allah does(raza bil qaza) the KIND OF DEPRESSION automatically goes away...Sometimes though I have to bang my weapon of mass destruction(brick) in the wall or someat coz its mainly anger not really depression..ok those who get dpressed this medicine would really help..kalms...its a really good medicine right never tried it coz alhamdulillah dint never felt the need to....And the best thing is turn to Allah the whole world might turn their back on us but we know Allah is always there.He is the arhamurrahemeen(the most merciful)Gosh dont tell me u lot got depressed coz of this posr...