gift to husband

[kite runner]

aassalm alaykum

I am a revert and will be getting married soon inshallah. I was wondering does the bride give anything to the groom for the wedding? or even after it like a gift? Also what is a reasonable amount for mahr?

[Abu Dajanaa]

aassalm alaykum

I am a revert and will be getting married soon inshallah. I was wondering does the bride give anything to the groom for the wedding? or even after it like a gift? Also what is a reasonable amount for mahr?

It is the groom who has to give you(bride) mahr and not the other way around.

بَارَكَ اللّهُ لَكَما وَبَارَكَ عَلَيكَما وَجَمَعَ بَينَكُمَا فِى خَيرٍ

amin

[UmHasan]

I think the sister is referring to a gift, which is different from the mahr.

You can give something small and meaningful with a hint of a personal touch. As it's something you'll both always remember, make it something that will endure the changes in time and trends. Possibly an engraved pen set or something similar. Engrave it with your names or initials and the date of your wedding.

Or you could go down the romantic route and give him a crystal or marble block with a short sweet message or a quote or love poem etched on it. If you're really lost and don't know him very well at all, you could play it safe with some itr (perfume) in an extra special presentation box. Go for something of very good quality. It is your wedding gift after all.

You could accompany that with a gift boxed Quran and some Islamic books on marriage and making a marriage work.

[kite runner]

JazakAllah khair those are good ideas

[rahma]

Assalamu alaikum,

I think converts in general get a much lower amount of maher than a born muslim woman. That isn't to say that you should demand an apartment stuffed full of completely new furniture (as is the current cultural request in egyptian marriages), but be familiar with what women from his culture expect to receive, and see that you get something similar.

re: gift, if you don't know him very well, can you ask his female relatives what he likes? A Qur'an is usually a safe gift, and something personalized, like UmHasan suggested, is good as well. Depending on the man, a nice set of pajamas for him might be nice too.

Men, what would you want to receive from your wife as a wedding present?

[Sulaiman84]

Some nice home made food. As the saying goes, "A way to a man's heart is through his stomach". You'll know when you got him when he prefers to eat at home rather than at other places.

I still make du'a for all those Aunties in our neighborhood who used to bring food for us...goes a long way.

Some men like different things so like sister rahma said, do some investigating from his fam and friends.

But giving gifts to your man through your effort like cooking or making him something with your own hands has a bigger effect, imho.

[kite runner]

JazakaAllah khair, interesting to hear what husbands think also

[ahmad12]

I'm not married or anything so can't speak for those lads... but I would never expect to recieve a gift or something. So forget about it Or the food idea is pretty cool. I'm not sure if the source was correct, but I remember reading that one of the wives of the Prophet made him some food on the day they got married. Can't remember which wife, the source, or what food though. Sorry

Ask him for a good amount... I don't know what he's wages are like, but take that into consideration.

[Sulaiman84]

Giving gifts helps produce love for one another, which helps marriages in the long run.

Ata Ibn 'Abdullah Al-Khurasani narrates that Rasulullah said: Shake hands with one another, hatred will depart; give presents to one another, it will produce love and remove enmity.

(Muatta Imam Malik)


PS: In general, men's hearts are not as soft as most women, but once you have his heart, you can turn his head in whatever direction you like. (Just make sure that direction is Shari'ah compliant)

[ussyno1384]

Salaam everyone i hope all is well. i would like to personally say one of the best gifts a wife can give to husband and vise versa is having a a good intimacy between each other, both partners should be sexually satisyfied and that will inshallah keep their love and marriage together i personally use a site called www.nikahshop.com it is discreet cheap and all halal