it's my first post, I found this forum today and I thank Allah because I desperatly need to talk about everyday problems from an Islamic point of view. I live in Italy (so, sorry if my English is awful!) and I grew up with Islamic principles, but I don't know anyone but three Muslim girls, because the mosque is too far to reach for me; I always suffer from it, I have lots of friends, but none of them is Muslim, so they can't completely understand my ideas, in particular about chastity. I don't wear hijab but, hamdulillah, I am Muslimah and I follow Quran and Sunna to lead my life, I just try to combine two cultures without losing myself.
You know, here in Europe sex is displayed everywhere, in books, films, programmes and ads and in the common culture among young people, even when it's not necessary and in a distorted conception, so when I talk about my conception of sex, they look at me as I was sanctimonious and I suffer from it, my friends accept it but they can't understand (or maybe the don't want to understand). Furthermore, I can't get married yet, first because I'm still attending university and I want to be a doctor (how could I have a baby and give him/her the proper time?), then I don't know any Muslim boy; however, I am a young woman with desires of a woman, and it's hard to suppress them and not commit sin...I defend my chastity from men, but I'm frustrated because I know masturbation is haram and I don't know any other Halal solution for this problem. My parents just told me that I have to wait and resist, but in some days it's unbearable.
I realized it's a common problem among European Islamic girls, but, searching in the web, I never found a dealing discussion about it. What can I do?