20. Sunnats of greeting, handshake and embracing
1. When a Muslim meets another then they should greet with the Islamic greeting which is:
Asalaamu Alaikum Warahmatullaahi Wabarakaathuh
“Peace, mercy and blessings of Allah descend upon you”
That person who greets first without waiting for the other person to greet is closer to Allah. (Bukhari)
2. One should greet every Muslim, i.e. those who one knows and those who one does not know. (Ibid)
Note: Exceptions are that women are not expected to have to speak to non-mahram men.
3. It has been mentioned in the hadith of Bukhari and Muslim that once Rasulallah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) passed by a group of children and he made salaam to them, hence we deduce that it is Sunnah to make salaam to children as well. (MuslimVol.2, pg. 214)
4. The young should always greet the elderly and the walking should always greet the sitting and the fewer should greet the many (Ibid)
5. To greet again the person from whom one has parted company, even if such a parting was only for a short while (Baihaqi)
6. To greet when entering or leaving the home (Whether one’s own house or that of another).
Allah is guaranteed for that person who greets and then enters his house. (Al-Adabul Mufrid)
Allah suffices for him during his life and after his death and Jannah shall be his abode.
7. One should greet loud enough for the one for whom the greeting is intended to. (Ibid)
8. If a third person’s greetings are conveyed to one, then it should be answered in the following manner:-
Wa Alaika Wa Alaihissalaam
“Peace be upon you and him”. (Abu Dawud)
9. Rasulallah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) has said that the perfect way for one to greet is to shake hands. (Mishkaat)
10. Whilst shaking hands the following dua should be read:-
Yaghfirullaahu lanaa walakum. (Mishkaat)
11. Forgiveness for those who give salaam
Al-Bara' ibn Azib (RA) narrated that the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said: If two Muslims meet, shake hands, praise Allah, and ask Him for forgiveness, they will be forgiven. (Abu Dawood)
12. Both hands should be used in handshakes. It is not sufficient that ones fingers just touch the others but ones palms should be firmly grasped. However such pressure should not be applied that would cause pain or discomfort for the other.
13. Whenever the Sahaaba met, they shook hands with one another and on returning from a journey they used to embrace one other. (Attargheeb)
14. Women should also greet each other by shaking hands. (Baihaqi)
Note: - Males should NOT greet nor shake hands with a women. This ruling applies on those females one can marry. Hence it is permissible that one can greet and shake hands with ones mother, sister, daughter, aunt, granny, wife etc
15. Rasulallah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) habit was to wait with the person meeting him until the person departed. Also he would not remove his hand from the person who was shaking it, until the other removed his. Rasulallah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) also never turned his face away from anyone and if someone wanted to whisper something to him then he took his ear close to the speaker and did not depart until the speaker had completed what they were saying. (Nasai)
16. If Rasulallah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) wished to call somebody whose name he did not know then he used to call out to him with the words: - “Yaa ibna abdullah”:- O Son of the Allah’s slave”.
17. End a Three Day Dispute with Salaams
Abu Hurayrah (RA) narrated that the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said: It is not allowable for a believer to keep from a believer for more than three days. If three days pass, he should meet him and give him a salutation, and if he replies to it they will both have shared in the reward; but if he does not reply he will bear his sin (according to Ahmad's version) and the one who gives the salutation will have come forth from the sin of keeping apart. (Abu Dawood 4894)
18. Greeting during Eid
Jabyr ibn Nufayr (RA) said:'When the companions of Allah's Messenger (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) met on the day of eid, they would say to each other, 'Taqaballahu minna wa mink (May Allah accept from us and you)." [Al Mahamiliyyat; hasan isnad; see Fath ul Bari 2:446]
19. Most miserly person is one who is miserly with greetings
Abu Hurraira (RA) said, "The most miserly of all people is one who is miserly with greetings. The weakest of all people is a person who is weak in [making] du'a (supplication prayer).” (Bukhari's Book of Manners #1046)
20. Giving Salaam is one of the best acts
Abdullah bin 'Umar (RA) said: A man asked the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) , "What is the best act of Islam?" He said, "To feed others and to give greetings of Salaam (peace) to those whom you know and to those whom you do not know.” (Al-Bukhari, Muslim 1/65)
Acting upon the Sunnah makes a person the beloved of Allah Ta’ala. That is why one should act upon it punctually.
21. If one of the People of the Scripture (i.e. Christians and Jews) greets you saying As-Salaamu 'alaykum, then say (to him): وعليكم
And upon you. (Al-Bukhari, Muslim 4/1705)