My Dad is not really a good Muslim and it really annoys me.

[taliburizarehman]

Thank you very much taliburizarehman and mmb786, tht was really helpful advice.

I never really knew about the whole "be a role model" thing, and I'm glad I know now because it sounds like it'll work and it won't involve the awkwardness of "explaining things" to my Dad.

However, there was one time that I was a lot more religious than today, I did a lot of salah and frequently studied my religion. My Dad did notice this and he did comment on how good it was, but he once caught me listening to a nasheed and tried to "kindly" tell me that I was going into extremes and that I shouldn't be too focused on Islam everyday. And more recently, although I don't do as much salah now (not voluntarily, my imam just went slightly slow, inshallah, I will reboost it in time), my Dad still tells me that I'm going into the extremes

hmm, Ive heard many real life incidents like this, but inshaALLAH t3ala ALLAH t3ala will open his eyes, and he
will understand that your not an extremist.

I think I have to accept that my Dad will always be this way and Allah (swt) probably intended him to be that way, maybe as a test to me or something. I'll just give up on trying to encourage him to be a better Muslim.

No sister, Never ever give up! Hes your father, why would ALLAH t3ala intend for him to be that way? This is a test
to see how much patience you have, and how respectful you are, and how much you help and preach him. I didnt say
not to preach him, I just said not to go over board or pressurize him, and never be disrespectful! InshaALLAH t3ala one day, he will change, and
he will thank you for it. Do try out these things. Try to explain to him that this is not extremism. Make lots and lots of
duas for him. Wake up in the middle of the night, and Ask ALLAH t3ala to guide your father. please dont give up!
You and your father are in my prayers inshaALLAH t3ala.

[Umrah]

Mashallah, I admire you for having so much patience for me. Thank you!

Ok, I will definitely try it out. I need to be a better Muslim anyways because I've been only doing one prayer a day recently and I barely read a letter from the Quran.

I'll get off the computer and start now!

[mmb786]

Thank you very much taliburizarehman and mmb786, tht was really helpful advice.

I never really knew about the whole "be a role model" thing, and I'm glad I know now because it sounds like it'll work and it won't involve the awkwardness of "explaining things" to my Dad.

However, there was one time that I was a lot more religious than today, I did a lot of salah and frequently studied my religion. My Dad did notice this and he did comment on how good it was, but he once caught me listening to a nasheed and tried to "kindly" tell me that I was going into extremes and that I shouldn't be too focused on Islam everyday. And more recently, although I don't do as much salah now (not voluntarily, my imam just went slightly slow, inshallah, I will reboost it in time), my Dad still tells me that I'm going into the extremes

I think I have to accept that my Dad will always be this way and Allah (swt) probably intended him to be that way, maybe as a test to me or something. I'll just give up on trying to encourage him to be a better Muslim.

sis, insha-ALLAH your dad will realise... like sis talibz says: dont give up hope! just be a good practicing muslim to please ALLAH and hopefully everything will come right in your life insha-ALLAH. you know theres that saying: when you take 1 step towards ALLAH, HE takes 10 steps towards you(dunno where i heard it!)
and dont worry if ppl call you extreme coz i think almost all parents say their kids are "extreme" in something... "dont you think its a bit exteme to sit on sunni forum every spare minute you have?" "you know its a bit extreme to spend so much time on facebook!" lol!

[شعيب‎ محمد]

I will advice to call 222.

At 2 am 2 rakats 2 drops of tears .... Everything will be fine inshallah...

[Yiluculm]

i agree with that sometimes parents dont like being corrected and advised by their children, it annoys them, and can
petrify them, so may be you should find a better way to correct them. you can find a better day when everyone can talk peacefully and communicate with each other well. i believe everything will be solved.

[ImamNh]

Im in the same situation too with my both parents though they are divorced long time ago but I only have arguments with my mother when it comes to the deen, my father maybe since
he is not that practicing he had nothing to say when I started practicing. My problem was my mother,she was also saying that Im being extremist when I started wearing long tops and stopped wearing skinny jeans. She was like "you're still young,there is so much you must experience" and I would just answer in death there is no young or old.Well mother always think they know whats best. I was just learning about the deen and everything became hard when it comes to my parents when I learned that I have to respect and honor them despite of anything. It was hard. We would always argue with the clothing,like when I started wearing skirts. what I do is always speak in a calm way,of course it is hard. We have to let them know that we will be a better child if we are practicing the deen. When they start seeing that we are now better especially when it comes to our relationship with them they will if not support us at least to leave us alone.