Last night I read this beautiful piece from Irshaadul Mulook. It's a very difficult book and I don't understand most of it so I read through it very quickly, but there are parts which really impress. Here is one which I thought was relevant to the subject of this thread:
Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) said that whoever assigns himself to Allah, Allah assigns Himself to him. In other words, in the search for Allah ta'ala, when the servant imbues his actions with ikhlas, then Allah ta'ala assumes the responsibility for all his (the servant's) affairs. Allah ta'ala removes all his difficulties. Hence He says:
"Is Allah not sufficient for His servant?" (Quran)
Undoubtedly, He suffices more than all others. It is narrated that Musa (alayhis salam) asked: "O Allah! When will You become mine?". The Divine response came: "When you no longer belong to your nafs." Musa (alayhis salam) said: "At what stage will I not belong to myself?" Allah ta'ala said: "When you annihilate yourself and become oblivious of yourself."
Ya'qoob Susi (rahmatullahi alayh) said:
"When the muhibb (lover) transcends the knowledge of love and enters the knowledge of the Mahboob (the Beloved), then he has mounted the stage of true love."
In that stage of true love, the muhibb has annihilated even the knowledge of the awareness of love. Besides the Mahboob, he is no longer aware of even his own love (for the Beloved). Formerly, when the Muhibb was detached from Mahboob, the love was non-existent. Now, on account of the perfection of mushahadat, the lover annihilates even the knowledge of his love. When he mounts this lofty stage of Love, the lover becomes a lover without love.
Translator's note: Although this lofty conception of Love - True Divine Love - will appear paradoxical, nevertheless, it is a reality which words cannot adequately express. Only those lofty souls who have traversed the elevated stages of Love can comprehend this conception of Muhabbat. Beings such as us, grounded in the material world and enslaved to the lowly nafs will not understand this