Do marriages last in America?

[gilkanestone]

The question posted has nothing to do with not thinking highly of Muslima's in America. He is going to go to America for two years where he will probably try to find a match for him. He does not know about how it is, so he asked me. And I thought of posting it here because it is place where people from all backgrounds come with their helping nature and ever growing Imaan. This community is more trustworthy than any one on in the internet in my opinion. If he were to know that marriages do not last there, then he will not make any advances on women over there who might want to marry him. (Advances meaning, taking the phase to the next Islamically allowed level).

And, like I said, in India, parents are the one to find a match for the boy and he does not have anyone to look for him. And he cannot do it himself too because the society does not accept such way of going about it.

[janaveronikazahra]

Salam alikum,
I hope he will be surpriced in positive way. We have only one islam, so if he want good muslima, he will know how to choose, inshallah. He will also find good muslim brothers to advise him , inshallah.

[Aram]

The question posted has nothing to do with not thinking highly of Muslima's in America. He is going to go to America for two years where he will probably try to find a match for him. He does not know about how it is, so he asked me. And I thought of posting it here because it is place where people from all backgrounds come with their helping nature and ever growing Imaan. This community is more trustworthy than any one on in the internet in my opinion. If he were to know that marriages do not last there, then he will not make any advances on women over there who might want to marry him. (Advances meaning, taking the phase to the next Islamically allowed level).

And, like I said, in India, parents are the one to find a match for the boy and he does not have anyone to look for him. And he cannot do it himself too because the society does not accept such way of going about it.

why does he not just marry someone in India, i don't know of many marriages that work where the guy or girl is from indo/pak and they marry someone from the west. Many of them have very different mindsets

[al yunan]

Sorry for the repost. New here.
I appreciate you giving a feedback about yourself. I have a few questions and would appreciate if you would take the time to answer to them.
Religion can only be a problem if you both were from different religions (my friend wants to marry an American Muslim though), so how did it work out?
I know compatibility it a problem, so I will not ask anything on it. How have no idea how education or finance can create a problem. Because, as long as the wife is not working, education is out of question. And so is finance because she should be able to use the budget given by the husband and live life accordingly. I would appreciate it if you could give a detailed answer. And it need not be related to you. You may answer in general as well.Thank you

Assalamu Alaikum brother,

Again it's hard for me to understand you, English is also not my 1st or 2nd language I guess it is not yours either.
From what I understand your friend expects to find an American girl who will accept a customary Indian marriage. A stay home wife.
You see that's what I meant by education and culture not that there are no such women but I don't think they would be easy to find.
Does your friend understand that women in the west have different expectations.
Yes they are Muslimah but culture as in India so in America has it's norms.
Maybe it's best if your friend went to the U.S see how he liked it for a year or so and think again if it really the place for him and then look for wife through the local Mosque community of his area.
Whether his ideas are Sunna or not, it's how the community will see him.
Inshallah with their help he might have a better chance.
This is not a religious issue but a social one, you need to contact a Muslim social site.
You are a good friend no doubt, but you can't think for someone else.
Best wishes
masalam