I'm a MALE, I've always considered poligamy and now my intention is intensified
I'm a MALE, I've always considered poligamy and this hasn't changed anything.
I'm a MALE, I've never considered poligamy but now I've started considering about it.
I'm a MALE, I've never considered poligamy and this hasn't changed anything; not interested
I'm a FEMALE, I have never had any issue against poligamy
I'm a FEMALE, I had misconceptions about poligamy but now they got clarified: I'll try my best!
I'm a FEMALE, I had misconceptions about poligamy but now I'm re-analyzing the issue.
I'm a FEMALE, I won't accept a proposal to become a 2nd, 3rd or 4th wife.
And well if you make it a habit of leaving sunnats then there will be questioning about it ....
And i'm obsessed because this sunnah is seen as worst than a sin. I've seen women who said to their husbands when they married again, that it wouldve been better if u did zina than this. I've seen shuyookh making bayans against it. I've seen women sitting at home, getting old because of no decent husbands..... Well i can go on and on... There are alot of charities around the world who support the widows and the divorcees. So tell me do the widows and divorcees only need money? They don't have any emotions? they don't need any emotional support? they don't need a husband? or is money enough? actually the problem is that we are happily married. Our wives are living happily in their homes. So why should they think about others? That's the main problem.
I'm obsessed because recently i asked my ex sheikh that i want to marry again. Well first of all he said NO. I asked why? No reason. Secondly, he started abusing me and treating me as if i'm doing zina. Thirdly he made me an example in his bayan and portrayed me as if i'm having a difficult life with my first wife and i'm just a person who's lusting after women.... etc etc..
WHY SO AGAINST POLYGAMY?
Isn't ita virtue and sawab to get married because you want to save yourself from sin? Isn't it a proven by hadith that to fulfill your desires by your wife is a deed on which you are rewarded? So if a person wants a second wife why is he seen as if he's worst than a zani?
Many more reasons why i'm obsessed with polygamy.....
a local imam of a masjid in batley was removed from his post and given a hard time by some members of the community. his sin was that he took a second wife. there is something definitely wrong in people's mentality today.
Since you seem to be in Karachi, the best thing would be to visit Khanqah and ask hazrat yourself. It is highly inappropriate to attribute something to a buzurg without complete knowledge.
The number of failed single marriages are far more than failed polygamous marriages. So why don't we start telling people not to even get married the first time. It's better than ruining lives of two families. The first reason given against polygamy is that people can't do justice and there will be ruined families and troubles in life. So as we can see that single marriage have far more troubles, then why don't we use the same logic against first marriages?I was told every year in india when we compare the number of marriages, the number of divorces filed in the muslim community is more than that.
When people cant tolerate one wife and fitna is in a shooting level, will ulema and that too of shuyook type, will they think of saving one single marriage or push them towards destroying more families.
Well there might be very few Sahaba who went from 10 to 4 compared to the ones who went from 0 to 4. Why? Because they understood the fact that Quran encourages polygamy. Because Rasool Allah sallallahua laihi wasallam will feel proud on the majority of this ummah thats why he encouraged us to marry. Hazrat Umar razi Allah unhu says that wallahi i dont have any need of marriage but i just marry so that Allah gives me children and Rasool Allah sallallahu aliahi wasallam feels proud of us. And today we are such that we don't even want our prophet to feel proud of us.Sahabahs and their wives they were all well acquainted with polygamy even before islam. There the wives came down from 10s to 4 and here the case is different. You say Allah SWT allowed and there can be people of view that it is bcos of weakness of men keeping up the rights, Allah didnt make it compulsory and He SWt warned like mentioned by the hazrat. So each can have their views and so I think Hazrat said keeping in mind the state of the muslims society he is living in. Allahu alam.
Yes Allah didn't make it compulsory but Allah did encourage it (please refer to tafaseer for this claim) because Allah knew that there would be more women than men. So it's quite natural that men marry more than once to maintain the balance. Why is the balance so out today? Why is it so difficult to get married today for women? Do we find any instance where a sahabi would come to Rasool Allah sallallahu alaihi wasallam and say ya Rasool Allah please make dua that my daughter gets married. I can't find rishtas for her. No, because they were okay with polygamy.
If you say it was the culture and normal for them, then i'm sorry to say that this is a big buhtan on Sahaba that they did it because of culture. Well didn't they oppose their culture in thousands of things? if there a bigger thing than to oppose your tribe and accept Islam? It was very big at that time. So if they could do other things because of Islam, then they could also be okay with polygamy because of Islam. It was more because of Deen than Islam because they saw with their own eyes that our prophet, who is the Imam of Zahideen, has married 11 women inspite of being so poor, then why shouldn't we follow him in this aspect?
Yes very few people can fulfill even one wife's rights.
And yes you are right, It was my personal assumption. But as I told you If one is confident about treating all the wives equally, Then He should go ahead. No problem in that.
I m not married yet. But I personally think/assume that one wife will be more than i can handle. I wouldnt even dream about the second one.