Introvert child..What to do?

[saihah]

subhanAllah nice to know there are so many introverts here, I wouldn't have guessed!

Did any of you face any kind of harrassment as a kid, like bullying or beating etc? How did you deal with it?

[NazimKhanOwaisi]

Salaam, My sister was introvert child she didnt like mixing with anyone as you suggest was fine at home. She used hang by herself in school and madrassa and never got involved with worldy disputes of any kind. Its typical for kids to pick here and any child with similar issue best thing to do is take them zikr etc as they will find what they looking for. My shiekh told my parents that Allah swt bless 1 in 1000 families with child like this and its rehmat and you should try to get best out of them by using deen. Inshallah he or she will make them proud.

[True Life]

You will find many introverts socialising through the internet, because the anonymity and "unrealness" serves as an emotional protection.

[Salikah Muslimah]

subhanAllah nice to know there are so many introverts here, I wouldn't have guessed!

Did any of you face any kind of harrassment as a kid, like bullying or beating etc? How did you deal with it?

I did, I was slightly bullied by people I considered friends because I couldn't defend myself. I just had to tell the teacher some how or just be scared and cry. My parents used to treat me as if though they had never seen somebody like me and so I used to be shouted at for not budging. Like, there was a real extreme where I didn't want to visit my relatives at all and I remember the emotional fights that used to happen. Once my mum forced me to say thank you to a relative for something and I freaked and ran away finding a place to hide in the house and I was just badly crying, but I was forced and the words did come out. Slowly, the more closer I got to Allah, the more I could cope with such incidences. Now I can go out to my relatives, although I won't talk much, but I will at least greet them and answer their basic questions. I am much more social now I think, although you can't change who you are subhanAllah. Lack of defense I think can show in a lot of introverts, i don't know what's the best way to tackle it but we can always make du'aa inshaa Allah and brush it side as it isn't extremely important anyway

[Taliban1]

I still don't want to visit relatives and till 3 years ago we had big fights for me not going to visit relatives.

[Aram]

i always get in trouble for not talking much to relatives but everyone just thinks im arrogant and stuck up , it can be quite irritating sometimes when people force you to try and change, its not like im a total mute and can't communicate with people at the necessary level, that would be worrying but if some people prefer to be alone or dont talk much let them be themselves and let them be comfortable....i dont understand why people feel the need to change someone to be more like themselves because that is what they consider "normal"

[Taliban1]

Since I mentioned I'm an introvert, now everyones trying to be an introvert

[saihah]

Salaam, My sister was introvert child she didnt like mixing with anyone as you suggest was fine at home. She used hang by herself in school and madrassa and never got involved with worldy disputes of any kind. Its typical for kids to pick here and any child with similar issue best thing to do is take them zikr etc as they will find what they looking for. My shiekh told my parents that Allah swt bless 1 in 1000 families with child like this and its rehmat and you should try to get best out of them by using deen. Inshallah he or she will make them proud.

brother, that is indeed very uplifting. may Allah accept him for His deen, ameen.

[saihah]

You will find many introverts socialising through the internet, because the anonymity and "unrealness" serves as an emotional protection.

I agree with you on that!

I did, I was slightly bullied by people I considered friends because I couldn't defend myself. I just had to tell the teacher some how or just be scared and cry. My parents used to treat me as if though they had never seen somebody like me and so I used to be shouted at for not budging. Like, there was a real extreme where I didn't want to visit my relatives at all and I remember the emotional fights that used to happen. Once my mum forced me to say thank you to a relative for something and I freaked and ran away finding a place to hide in the house and I was just badly crying, but I was forced and the words did come out. Slowly, the more closer I got to Allah, the more I could cope with such incidences. Now I can go out to my relatives, although I won't talk much, but I will at least greet them and answer their basic questions. I am much more social now I think, although you can't change who you are subhanAllah. Lack of defense I think can show in a lot of introverts, i don't know what's the best way to tackle it but we can always make du'aa inshaa Allah and brush it side as it isn't extremely important anyway

That’s exactly what’s going on with my nephew. inshaAllah the best approach would be to make dua that Allah protect him from such absurdities instead of pushing him to fight back. inshaAllah he will gradually find a way tp cope up.

i always get in trouble for not talking much to relatives but everyone just thinks im arrogant and stuck up , it can be quite irritating sometimes when people force you to try and change, its not like im a total mute and can't communicate with people at the necessary level, that would be worrying but if some people prefer to be alone or dont talk much let them be themselves and let them be comfortable....i dont understand why people feel the need to change someone to be more like themselves because that is what they consider "normal"

sister, I guess the problem is that parents are very protective about their children and worry that maybe their kid will end up being a loner, without any friends, this is just my opinion. Hence, the pressure. But I agree, it's best to let them be, they will find what's best for them inshaAllah.

[Aram]

Since I mentioned I'm an introvert, now everyones trying to be an introvert

i don't think you are really an introvert, introverts would find getting married just once a huge challenge!