Rediscovering Islam

[robincowles]

Waaleykumsallam,
I'm a white British girl who converted to Islam around 6 years ago from the Christian faith after reading the Quran and becoming involved with Islam and its teachings, however in the last 5 years due to personal problems I stopped practising and stopped wearing my hiljab, I lost my quran parchment I had on a pendant and ever since I have had nothing but problems. Now I have realised this is because I turned away from practising my faith and now am trying to get back into it however there are a number of issues I have with this at present as although I do not eat haraam foods or drink alcohol etc, there are aspects of my life that are haraam and I am wondering if my namaz n dua will be accepted by allah whilst my life is in its current state.

The acts I am concerned about are:
Living with my Sunni Muslim boyfriend, whose family do not agree with our relationship (they have never met me but make assumptions because I am a white British girl-even though my views are more traditional than my boyfriends)
Smoking cigarettes
My family who are vehemently against Islam and especially me wearing the hiljab
Not wearing the hiljab in my home around non-mahram or outside at present (there are sooo many interpretations of when and where I should wear the hiljab that I am greatly confused)
I seem unable to memorise the Quran..

In the last few days I have began to read the Quran again and since then my life has been improved in most aspects, however this morning problems began with my boyfriends family again (again he does not practise and commits a number of haraam acts) and i am blaming myself from steering away from the right path..

I am trying to get back on track with Islam and my beliefs and am praying inshallah that my namaz n dua will be accepted by allah until I can rectify the problems that are stopping me being subservient to Allah.


Please help :S

Bismillahir Rrahmanir Raheem

[Muhammad_786]

Slm,

It's going to be tough but it seems the 'boyfriend' is distracting you from Islaam. He needs to make drastic changes in his life style as well. Decide whats more important, practicing your deen (your emaan is at stake here.) You living with him is not acceptable (as you know) and his parents are in turn placing (what we call in my country 'sighs' upon your relationship and life in general.)

[Amaan]

If you wanna continue living with him, marry him firstly, its not allowed to stay with friends of opposite gender. Then you can start a healthy life of Imaan and Islam, try to get in company of pious Muslim girls or scholars so that their presence will ensure that you are near safety and not fall to trick of satan.

[robincowles]

slm,

the boyfriend wasnt/isnt my distraction, my own personal problems were. he has been in my life for around 4 months and yes I am aware it is not acceptable. What I am asking is if my namaz and dua will be accepted when i am living in sin..

bismillahir rrahmanir raheem

[robincowles]

we have both been married previously and not something we will enter into again lightly...really need my question answered re:my prayers will be accepted or not??

[amr123]

Sister.

First start praying Namaz(Salah) everyday, it is very important. It is one of the most important good deeds in front of Allah the Almighty.

Second, kindly stop 'living in' with your boyfriend. It haraam.

Third, Make lots and lots of Dua(supplication), It is to Allah alone we can ask help, He is indeed the Most Merciful.

May Allah make it easy for you and solve your problems. Ameen.

Also remember this Hadith:

Allah the Almighty said:
'I am as My servant thinks I am . I am with him when he makes mention of Me. I
f he makes mention of Me to himself, I make mention of him to Myself;
and if he makes mention of Me in an assembly, I make mention of him in an assembly better than it.
And if he draws near to Me an arm's length, I draw near to him a fathom's length. And if he comes to Me walking, I go to him at speed."
-Bukhari, Muslim

So try to get closer to Allah, and never ever lose hope. Never.

[Muhammad_786]

Slm,

From what I know in my madhaab is no your ibadah is not accepted. There may be other interpretations/opinions in other madhaabs (Shafee/Hanafee etc.) which may differ and I am not a scholar. Better if a scholar here can answer. I suspect your boyfriend is ahnaaf (?)

[robincowles]

No idea I'm afraid, hes a Pakistani sunni muslim, though which type I have no idea. I follow the Turkish Sunnis, again not sure which branch of Sunni this comes under..

[amr123]

we have both been married previously and not something we will enter into again lightly...really need my question answered re:my prayers will be accepted or not??

Ofcourse Allah will answer anybodies prayer. He is the most merciful. But if we make Dua thinking Allah won't accept it then its wrong and Allah will not accept such Dua. So hope in Allah is very important while making Dua. And refraining from Sins will certainly have an extra effect. The best time to make Dua is after obligatory Salah. So start praying sister, and being patient is also necessary.

[robincowles]

Slm,

Thanks for the clarification on that, means a lot!