Parents and TV Dramas taking the family, out of family life.

[asgharma]

Salaam,
i have a particular question in mind and it is to do with the role of parenting against watching tele in the evening!!!
yes it sounds a silly question but i know a lot of asian parents particualrly from my background (pakistani) make sure they have the evening to watch the local pakistani/indian frama episode number infinity and the children young and old have just come back from work or school to find this is the situation. Hence a family evening usually consists of eating dinner and no real family interaction with the children also being uninterested in the dramas due to a culture gap.
Does anyone else experience this at ll in their own homes?
my question is say the son or child is ollder 18/19 and this really has occured through his whole life, islamically are the parents doing any wrong, should the child speak up and say you know why dont we just turn off the tele and do something else, together, as a family! or should he/she stay quiet as to not to make your parents angry at all or cause them to come out of their comfort zone.
i find pakistani parents can be most disconnected from their children at times and i wish that wasnt the case.
any help ideas!!?!

jzk
MA

[Aram]

Speak to them in a polite manner and tell them how you feel, don't lose your temper or be harsh
if they don't listen then try to find some other time when the dramas are not on and spend time with your family...have deen related talks with them and slowly work on brining them towards the deen

Show them the beauty of the deen through your character...do their khidmah as much as you can...may Allah azza wa jal guide your family....aameen

[aliyaa]

well what i used to do is ask my dad to please turn off the television and talk with me.. and i guess he used to turn it off.. or u may just mute in in the break and talk nice.. about something interesting.. your friends something funny which happened.. without backbiting or mimicing somone, and then try to make them talk too.. and Gradually they will leve tv Insha Allah. make lots of dua

[Sohail123]

assalam o alikum
if you think that these TV dramas are creating a big distance between your family then i guess you should talk to them politely, they will surely understand because they have seen this world better then you... But try not to hurt them because it forbidden in islam to hurt your parents are wrong.

[Ahmed]

parents should actively learn about parenting
just as married couples should actively learn about being good couples

some people are just on auto numb mode..then they wonder why there is chaos around them ,when they themself have no order in their life

discipline and examples start from the individual to the couple who eventually become parents
remove the t.v control the internet,have family time by design and planning,
men should be most concerned about what their wives and children are doing,not cricket,local gossip,world politics etc.

unfortunately some nowadays know more about world events than events in their own home ,and whats going on in their childrens phones and p.c,s

then they go for advice after the horse has bolted.

[Benyounes]

What parenting really means is the intelligence of love. It is the most difficult and most challenging job which is only recognised by parents.
The Prophet (pbuh) has said: “Every tree has a fruit; the fruit of the heart is a child.” The hearts of parents return through their children.
Growing families have different constellations and therefore each child is an enigma with his unique strengths and weaknesses. There are no singular definitive answers; however, guidelines from the Prophet (pbuh) and his Ahlulbayt provide the solutions with dua within a broad framework.

Parenting and caring starts from the age 0. age 0 until 7 is a full time teaching and discipline, 7 until 14, it is full time teaching al Al Quraan, islamic values and Education in general, and full time guideness, age 14 to 21 the child is full educated and independent with responsibility of teaching and guiding of his younger once and most important the son/daughter is your friend with the values you have given them.

Prophet's (pbuh) Daughter Fatima said; Don't raise your children up in the way you have been raised up. Since your time and your children's time is different and your children have to adapt to their present time so raise them up in the right way.