If you follow the Hanafi madhab, I don't think there is a better site than themajlis.co.za.
I used to go on askimam.org, but I think some of the answers are too lax.
how about the askimam and other QA sites' links that stated clapping was haram. i asked you to post them.
find me a text in which "Imam Ibn Taymiyyah said, all customs are permitted so long as the Shari`ah has not clearly forbidden them. Since there is no text to forbid it, it shall be deemed as permissible.”
ive quoted from this Group of Muftis article you pasted.
"It should be known that Tawassul, Istigatha and Shafa'ah through the Prophet (peace be upon him) in the court of Allah is not only allowed but is recommended. It being Legal and recommended is a known fact for everyone who has understanding of deen, this is a deed of Prophets/Messengers, the Salaf-as-Saliheen, the Ulama and general public of Muslims, none of them denied it nor in any time these deeds were called as bad except for when Ibn Taymiyyah came and he started to reject them, his sayings made the weak get into confusion/dilemma, he did such a Bid'ah which nobody before him had done..." [Shifa us Siqaam fi Ziyaratal Khayr al Anaam, Chapter 8, Page No. 357]