Question about eye contact

[clearwater]

Hello Brothers and Sisters

I am posting on this forum in the hope of getting some peace of mind and clarification.

I work with a Muslim (male) and we have to talk together about work related matters. We work together well however I notice that when we are talking face to face, he breaks eye contact and stares at my hair or over my shoulder at the wall (whilst still talking to me). This makes me very feel awkward. At first I thought there was something wrong with my head or that he had a problem with his eyes! Now when we talk I feel I cannot look at him directly in the eye for very long without feeling that I am making him uncomfortable and then I feel awkward again and I break eye contact first because if I don’t then I feel I am doing something wrong and I don't like that feeling at all.

Is this what is meant by lowering your gaze? I need to understand what is happening here as I am not a Muslim and I have great respect for this person.

[Salafi-Muslim]

Hello Brothers and Sisters

I am posting on this forum in the hope of getting some peace of mind and clarification.

I work with a Muslim (male) and we have to talk together about work related matters. We work together well however I notice that when we are talking face to face, he breaks eye contact and stares at my hair or over my shoulder at the wall (whilst still talking to me). This makes me very feel awkward. At first I thought there was something wrong with my head or that he had a problem with his eyes! Now when we talk I feel I cannot look at him directly in the eye for very long without feeling that I am making him uncomfortable and then I feel awkward again and I break eye contact first because if I don’t then I feel I am doing something wrong and I don't like that feeling at all.

Is this what is meant by lowering your gaze? I need to understand what is happening here as I am not a Muslim and I have great respect for this person.

First of all become a Muslim then I will answer your question:

You must say and believe:
Ash hadu an La ilaha illa Allahu Wa ash hadu ana Muhammadan Abduhu wa Rasooluhu

I bear witness that there is none worthy of worship except Allah and Prophet Muhammad is his Slave and Messenger.

[hiso]

First of all become a Muslim then I will answer your question:

Chill out brother, you cannot enforce something on somebody.

Is this what is meant by lowering your gaze? I need to understand what is happening here as I am not a Muslim and I have great respect for this person.

Yes, it is. It is an order from Allah (s.w.t) to lower our gaze and not to look at women (other than those whom seeing is permissible). The brother might be a practising muslim and trying to implement the order of Allah (s.w.t) in his life.
InshaÁllah, knowledgeable brothers will throw some more light on this issue... plz be patient.

[Salafi-Muslim]

Chill out brother, you cannot enforce something on somebody.

Brother why you are discouraging Dawah?

[hiso]

Brother why you are discouraging Dawah?

i am not disouraging.
There are some etiquettes of giving dawah. Instead of resorting to such means, you could have explained her the beauty of islam in this situtation. Did'nt Allah (s.w.t) explain in Quran as to how one should present dawah.

Khair, please avoid derailing this thread. If you can answer her question with hikmah, then please do. Plz do not answer to this post as it will further deviate the discussion.

[shah29]

AOA!
you are right my brother we should satisfy the person asking the questions wether he/she is muslim or not.we should preach the Islam with great wisdom because your irresponsible behaviour may discourage any non muslim who is intrested in Islam teachings.

[Abu_Tamim]

Brother why you are discouraging Dawah?

This poor guy was doing Adawah under the name of Da'wah and got banned.

[uber_mensch]

I have a question.

Why is it that Indians tend to stare at people? On many occasions I've found myself being stared at by indians, in a scrutinising way. Usually when a westerner is staring at some one they will look away when the person realises that the other person is staring at them. With indians they don't do this, they keep staring.

This is extremely rude and can be even considered as aggressive in europe.

I don't mean all indians do it, perhaps its something common to the peasants.

[Maripat]

I have a question.

Why is it that Indians tend to stare at people? On many occasions I've found myself being stared at by indians, in a scrutinising way. Usually when a westerner is staring at some one they will look away when the person realises that the other person is staring at them. With indians they don't do this, they keep staring.

This is extremely rude and can be even considered as aggressive in europe.

I don't mean all indians do it, perhaps its something common to the peasants.

Ah! That is a different topic. We like curiosities. We can not really believe that homo sapiens can be that colourless.

I know it does not help and it might be rude also but ....

[uber_mensch]

Ah! That is a different topic. We like curiosities. We can not really believe that homo sapiens can be that colourless.

I know it does not help and it might be rude also but ....

Other people don't do it. They might look, but the way indians do it is like they want to kill you.

I'm not that white either, I'm a quarter Indian myself.